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Hi Everyone,
I am a new member. I am both a recovering addict and a co-dependt. I have been clean now for 1 yr and 3 months. My addiction is Meth. I was clean for 4 years and slipped. I am a single mom of 2 boys. My exhusband just got of rehab, it was court ordered and now is in a half way house. My problem is that he keeps saying he does not remember being my drug dealer, or he does not remember all the hurtful things he has done to the family. He was okay and for the first couple of weeks keeping his promises and now that it is going on a month out of a controled enviroment that he is beginning to go back to treating me like ****. I have always been there for him thru all the **** I caused and the all the pain he has cause. My problem is I know that I am pushing his buttons, because I do not trust him and do not want him around. My ex and I have a son together and I have raised him all by myself. Everytime I tell myself it is time to let my ex go and have nothing to so with him, I can not do it because of our son. Now my son says I need to do what I need to do, but I do not want the guilt that I did not let him see his father because of how I feel.
I am a new member. I am both a recovering addict and a co-dependt. I have been clean now for 1 yr and 3 months. My addiction is Meth. I was clean for 4 years and slipped. I am a single mom of 2 boys. My exhusband just got of rehab, it was court ordered and now is in a half way house. My problem is that he keeps saying he does not remember being my drug dealer, or he does not remember all the hurtful things he has done to the family. He was okay and for the first couple of weeks keeping his promises and now that it is going on a month out of a controled enviroment that he is beginning to go back to treating me like ****. I have always been there for him thru all the **** I caused and the all the pain he has cause. My problem is I know that I am pushing his buttons, because I do not trust him and do not want him around. My ex and I have a son together and I have raised him all by myself. Everytime I tell myself it is time to let my ex go and have nothing to so with him, I can not do it because of our son. Now my son says I need to do what I need to do, but I do not want the guilt that I did not let him see his father because of how I feel.
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Join Date: Jan 2008
Location: Baltimore, Maryland
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welcome to SR.....stick around and you will find support here...
being a child around 2 parents who fight must be absolutley horrifying, just try to be civil....being that I have no children and generally stay away from committed relationships these dayz thatz all I got....stay casual.....smile, eat a bannana and have a good day....
being a child around 2 parents who fight must be absolutley horrifying, just try to be civil....being that I have no children and generally stay away from committed relationships these dayz thatz all I got....stay casual.....smile, eat a bannana and have a good day....
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Hi and Welcome,
It seems to me that you can separate yourself from your ex and still allow your son to have contact with him, as long as it is safe. I don't know what age your son is, but it sounds like he is old enough to know if he feels safe or not.
Do what you need to do to take care of yourself.
It seems to me that you can separate yourself from your ex and still allow your son to have contact with him, as long as it is safe. I don't know what age your son is, but it sounds like he is old enough to know if he feels safe or not.
Do what you need to do to take care of yourself.
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Join Date: Dec 2003
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Well done on your clean time - I know how hard it is to get off meth. Keep the focus on you and the well-being of your children, and please keep reading and posting here. This is a really warm and supportive community.
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Join Date: Jun 2006
Location: Texas
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Welcome! I'm glad you found us! I am a recovering alcoholic/meth addict. My last boyfriend was a crack addict. That relationship ended when he attacked me during a violent drug-induced outburst. I also have a child--though not with this person. I had to do what I needed to to protect both me and my child. I know it may be hard if you do separate--but your sobriety/safety must come first. :praying
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Join Date: Feb 2008
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Thank you for the support. I will continue to post here. I have found the encouragement helpful. It is easier to talk to people that have been there or are going thru the same thing. My family does not get it nor does my best friend-but at least they are supporting me the best they can.
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Join Date: Jan 2008
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Welcome -- and you're so in the right place. Keep coming back and posting and reading... There is an amazing power here that will supplemen your strength and resolve if you let it.
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