TOPIC: They Insist On Us Having Fun. Are You Having Fun?
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Join Date: Dec 2005
Location: Baton Rouge, La.
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TOPIC: They Insist On Us Having Fun. Are You Having Fun?
Hi Im Sharon and Im an Alcoholic.
By the Grace of my HP and people
like you here in SR and rooms like
this I havent had a drink of alcohol
since 8-11-90.
For that and you I am truely grateful.
When I got sober and went thru a
28 day rehab program via a family
intervention, all I could think of
was work work work on having to
stay sober.
Sure it was that important to me
to go to any lengths to stay sober
in early recovery mainly because if
i didnt then i was gonna be shipped
out to a half way house out of state
away from my family for more time
than i wanted to be.
So i trucked my little tush to meeting
after meeting absorbing all i could
and hanging on to dear life always
taking the suggestions presented
to me very seriously.
As i sat in meetings and listened and
watched with eagerness, I saw joy
and laughter amongst many members
in recovery. Hmmmm, I thought. They
are definitely having fun.
Now that is what I wanted.
Eventually over the yrs. after applying
the 12 steps and principles offered
to us, I began to understand what
it meant when they quoted from
the Big Book Of Alcoholics
Anonymous about us not being
a glum lot and that isist on us
having fun in recovery.
I then began to relax and let the
Power Above me guide me and care
for me and allow me to smile and
laugh in recovery. To appreciate a
new freedom that I had never
experienced before.
I can walk in a meeting now and sit
amongst many and understand
the gifts we recieve down the road
about being happy joyous and
free from the bondage of the
drink or drug.
Are you having fun today in
recovery?
What makes u happy?
Thanks for letting me share.
By the Grace of my HP and people
like you here in SR and rooms like
this I havent had a drink of alcohol
since 8-11-90.
For that and you I am truely grateful.
When I got sober and went thru a
28 day rehab program via a family
intervention, all I could think of
was work work work on having to
stay sober.
Sure it was that important to me
to go to any lengths to stay sober
in early recovery mainly because if
i didnt then i was gonna be shipped
out to a half way house out of state
away from my family for more time
than i wanted to be.
So i trucked my little tush to meeting
after meeting absorbing all i could
and hanging on to dear life always
taking the suggestions presented
to me very seriously.
As i sat in meetings and listened and
watched with eagerness, I saw joy
and laughter amongst many members
in recovery. Hmmmm, I thought. They
are definitely having fun.
Now that is what I wanted.
Eventually over the yrs. after applying
the 12 steps and principles offered
to us, I began to understand what
it meant when they quoted from
the Big Book Of Alcoholics
Anonymous about us not being
a glum lot and that isist on us
having fun in recovery.
I then began to relax and let the
Power Above me guide me and care
for me and allow me to smile and
laugh in recovery. To appreciate a
new freedom that I had never
experienced before.
I can walk in a meeting now and sit
amongst many and understand
the gifts we recieve down the road
about being happy joyous and
free from the bondage of the
drink or drug.
Are you having fun today in
recovery?
What makes u happy?
Thanks for letting me share.
Member
Thread Starter
Join Date: Dec 2005
Location: Baton Rouge, La.
Posts: 15,238
I understand that its not easy at times to
think about having fun when you are in so
much pain. Mental, emotional, physical,
spiritual pain and frustration.
You have a full plate with raising kids,
Dealing with work issues, appointments
to keep, relationships that r questionable.
Sure it may seem like there's no relief
in sight for that dark cloud that seems
to follow you were ever you go.
However as long as we continued to
put FIRST THINGS FIRST in our lives
which is recovery then what
ever lifes problems that bog us down
then eventually it will pass.....
I never forget that whatever is
disturbing me at the moment it will
eventually pass....just like one
of our wonderful cleechays says...
AND THIS TOO SHALL PASS.
think about having fun when you are in so
much pain. Mental, emotional, physical,
spiritual pain and frustration.
You have a full plate with raising kids,
Dealing with work issues, appointments
to keep, relationships that r questionable.
Sure it may seem like there's no relief
in sight for that dark cloud that seems
to follow you were ever you go.
However as long as we continued to
put FIRST THINGS FIRST in our lives
which is recovery then what
ever lifes problems that bog us down
then eventually it will pass.....
I never forget that whatever is
disturbing me at the moment it will
eventually pass....just like one
of our wonderful cleechays says...
AND THIS TOO SHALL PASS.
Member
Join Date: Sep 2007
Posts: 1,876
Great post Sharon, thank you!
One think in life is certain...change, you can't stop it.
When a problem arises, it will dissapate.
Nothing is worth drinking over.
The biggest gift we give ourselves when we stop drinking is, as you stated, FREEDOM from bondage. IMO everything else is just icing on the cake!
One think in life is certain...change, you can't stop it.
When a problem arises, it will dissapate.
Nothing is worth drinking over.
The biggest gift we give ourselves when we stop drinking is, as you stated, FREEDOM from bondage. IMO everything else is just icing on the cake!
Fighting the good fight
Join Date: Dec 2007
Location: Australia
Posts: 309
I just wanted to post and say yes, I'm having fun - I feel great, I look better, I have my self respect back and I've been smiling a lot more the last 6 weeks I've been sober.
Thanks for this post, it's a great one.
ndz
Thanks for this post, it's a great one.
ndz
Lurker
Join Date: Jan 2007
Location: Western NC
Posts: 783
H@ll YA!!! my worste day sober is so much better then my best day using. My happiest days come when I have been helping others. Just going early and making the coffee, and setting up chairs Helps get me out of the ism (I, Self, Me). Sobriety rocks!!!
Member
Join Date: Jan 2008
Location: Milwaukee, WI
Posts: 22
I am not sure I can say that I am actually having fun. I am only on day three right now - but I do know that I just feel a whole lot better. And I am not wasting time nursing a hangover, or trying to hide my drinking - that was exhausting- and not fun at all!
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Thread Starter
Join Date: Dec 2005
Location: Baton Rouge, La.
Posts: 15,238
Thanks guys for sharing you own personal
experiences and thoughts on this topic.
I was reflecting myself about this topic
on my way to work....thinking about how
my life was when drinking......never knowing
I had a disease that is cunning baffling
and oh so powerful.
From the bottom i hit trying to end my
miserable poor excuse of a life.....just
cause i was sick and tired of being
sick and tired of trying to stop drinking.
I was completely worn out.
All the yrs i drank numbing my feelings,
seeing life thru dark colored glasses...
always in a fog.
Then with help from my family who saw
I was in trouble gave me help and
hope i so desperately needed.
With time spent in treatment with
no temptation of alcohol for 28 days,
I began the process of getting better.
I was given the knowledge of my disease
and the tools to use to help me live
one day at a time without the crutch
of a drink.
I got sober in Aug 90 and was able to
experience those up coming holidays
for the first time sober.....Halloween,
Thanksgiving, Christmas and New Yrs....
I recall how AWESOME I felt.....to be
able to fix 3 huge meals for those
holidays. I also recall MUSIC....Even
tho i loved music...i recall it being louder,
clearer....just unbelievably AWESOME
to listen to....
Then i began to take my journey one
step at a time....feeling ever so grateful
to be sober....yes i had ups and downs
but nothing compared to life when drinking....
It was so nice to finally be off that merry
go round...that roller coaster ride of
emotions.
Today as i look back just as a reminder
of where i came from....i am beginning
a new chapter of my sober life.....this time
im ending a 25 yr marriage....good for the
most part esp. with having raised 2 AWESOME
kids who have flurished blossomed and grown
into young adults.
They say when u get sober and stay sober
u begin to change.....u as a person....ur
attituted and feelings towards things...
people....and u grow and mature....
And that is what is still happening to me....
I left my little family who r very independant
and now my new life is for me ....
My life is lived to helping others in
recovery by sharing my own experiences
strengths and hopes with them....my life
has new meaning....new purpose....and
with help,understanding, guidance ,
love and care from my HPand the
fellowship of AA my life is totally
AWESOME TODAY.
Continue to share ur ESH as it
gives the newer newcomers hope
to what lies ahead of them if they
continue to have the desire to stay
clean and sober in recovery.
Thanks for letting me share.
Sharon
experiences and thoughts on this topic.
I was reflecting myself about this topic
on my way to work....thinking about how
my life was when drinking......never knowing
I had a disease that is cunning baffling
and oh so powerful.
From the bottom i hit trying to end my
miserable poor excuse of a life.....just
cause i was sick and tired of being
sick and tired of trying to stop drinking.
I was completely worn out.
All the yrs i drank numbing my feelings,
seeing life thru dark colored glasses...
always in a fog.
Then with help from my family who saw
I was in trouble gave me help and
hope i so desperately needed.
With time spent in treatment with
no temptation of alcohol for 28 days,
I began the process of getting better.
I was given the knowledge of my disease
and the tools to use to help me live
one day at a time without the crutch
of a drink.
I got sober in Aug 90 and was able to
experience those up coming holidays
for the first time sober.....Halloween,
Thanksgiving, Christmas and New Yrs....
I recall how AWESOME I felt.....to be
able to fix 3 huge meals for those
holidays. I also recall MUSIC....Even
tho i loved music...i recall it being louder,
clearer....just unbelievably AWESOME
to listen to....
Then i began to take my journey one
step at a time....feeling ever so grateful
to be sober....yes i had ups and downs
but nothing compared to life when drinking....
It was so nice to finally be off that merry
go round...that roller coaster ride of
emotions.
Today as i look back just as a reminder
of where i came from....i am beginning
a new chapter of my sober life.....this time
im ending a 25 yr marriage....good for the
most part esp. with having raised 2 AWESOME
kids who have flurished blossomed and grown
into young adults.
They say when u get sober and stay sober
u begin to change.....u as a person....ur
attituted and feelings towards things...
people....and u grow and mature....
And that is what is still happening to me....
I left my little family who r very independant
and now my new life is for me ....
My life is lived to helping others in
recovery by sharing my own experiences
strengths and hopes with them....my life
has new meaning....new purpose....and
with help,understanding, guidance ,
love and care from my HPand the
fellowship of AA my life is totally
AWESOME TODAY.
Continue to share ur ESH as it
gives the newer newcomers hope
to what lies ahead of them if they
continue to have the desire to stay
clean and sober in recovery.
Thanks for letting me share.
Sharon
Naturally Occuring Phenomenon
Join Date: Jan 2008
Location: Baltimore, Maryland
Posts: 437
sweet message...I'm definitely feeling the emotional dark cloud @ almost three months sober but I do feel better than I did when I was a member of team black out....I'm in a halfway house and desperately miss my dogs Bubba & Hopetepp....keep the message positive....
Member
Thread Starter
Join Date: Dec 2005
Location: Baton Rouge, La.
Posts: 15,238
In all areas of my life I keep reminding myself
that if Im not sober then I dont have anything
else in my life. Which means, If i dont stay sober
and chose to return to drinking then I will
die....and if i die i surely dont have anything.
No pets, no home, no family, no life, no
nothing....
I find it better to take time and put first
things first in my life....which is the most
important things first....and sobriety
above all is important.
Take care of ur recovery first by
building a solid foundation step by
step....day by day,,,,,a simple solution
of going to meetings on a daily bases.
Listen, abosrb....even if u dont understand
it all....just listen....so simple and yet
so affective....
If u dont understand something, then use
those in the program leading u to help
u. And its ok to ask for help understanding.
Remember you NEVER have to do
anything in ur life alone again.
You never have to feel like u
are alone because the fellowship
of recovery is strong enough
with many members willing to
hold ur hand and carry u till u
are strong enough to stand on
ur own,,,,,
The power of the program works
if u have the desire and willingness
to go to any lengths to stay clean
and sober one day at a time....
Not yesterday and not tomorrow....
Yesterday is gone...tomorrow hasnt
come yet....so take a deep breath, relax
and stay in today.....how simple can
that be.
Your pets will be there waiting for
you....their loving caring friend waiting
patiant for ur gentle hand to feed
pet and love them.....its that
unconditional love that awaits u
when u return with a new sense of
life staying clean and sober....
How awesome will it be when u
return home clean ans sober.....
strong and willing....to walk ur
pets down the street....play
in the park.....
A whole new lease on life just
u and ur pets and a new way
of life....
Smile and feel a new freedom
that awaits u.
Thanks for letting me share.
that if Im not sober then I dont have anything
else in my life. Which means, If i dont stay sober
and chose to return to drinking then I will
die....and if i die i surely dont have anything.
No pets, no home, no family, no life, no
nothing....
I find it better to take time and put first
things first in my life....which is the most
important things first....and sobriety
above all is important.
Take care of ur recovery first by
building a solid foundation step by
step....day by day,,,,,a simple solution
of going to meetings on a daily bases.
Listen, abosrb....even if u dont understand
it all....just listen....so simple and yet
so affective....
If u dont understand something, then use
those in the program leading u to help
u. And its ok to ask for help understanding.
Remember you NEVER have to do
anything in ur life alone again.
You never have to feel like u
are alone because the fellowship
of recovery is strong enough
with many members willing to
hold ur hand and carry u till u
are strong enough to stand on
ur own,,,,,
The power of the program works
if u have the desire and willingness
to go to any lengths to stay clean
and sober one day at a time....
Not yesterday and not tomorrow....
Yesterday is gone...tomorrow hasnt
come yet....so take a deep breath, relax
and stay in today.....how simple can
that be.
Your pets will be there waiting for
you....their loving caring friend waiting
patiant for ur gentle hand to feed
pet and love them.....its that
unconditional love that awaits u
when u return with a new sense of
life staying clean and sober....
How awesome will it be when u
return home clean ans sober.....
strong and willing....to walk ur
pets down the street....play
in the park.....
A whole new lease on life just
u and ur pets and a new way
of life....
Smile and feel a new freedom
that awaits u.
Thanks for letting me share.
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