How you explain it
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How you explain it
What do you say when people question why your are not drinking.
Now I have decided to try and quit, people are going to find it strange that I am not drinking.
Do you tell them you have a problem or that you are giving it up for a while. I don't think could tell people
Now I have decided to try and quit, people are going to find it strange that I am not drinking.
Do you tell them you have a problem or that you are giving it up for a while. I don't think could tell people
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Hi i've recently quit booze too- and feeling much healthier 4 it too i might add lol! You'll get loadsa helpful suggestions on this 1 - im sure most worried about this too when they gave up. I just say i don't drink- if questioned why i just say it doesn't agree with me. If it's people who knew me well i might tell them im an alcoholic if i feel comfortable doing so- or just say i've quit booze for a bit as i was getting sick of it and dont feel it really agrees with me anymore - want a break from it. You will find most people dont question this too much - the ones who go on and on about it are normally ppl who may hav a prob themselves! Don't worry about this too much though- i'm sure most people won't be too concerned about your drinking - not many were of mine anyways- esspecially at such a busy time of year!
Our obsession with Alcohol is asking that question. Most people don't have that obsession so they seldom question us as to why. The only ones that question us are those who themselves have issues with Alcohol and will not accept any explaination you give them anyways. They will do their best to talk you into having "just one".
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It depends on who is asking. If it's an acquiantance, I am saying I'm on a diet and don't need the extra calories. Good friends and family I'm being honest with and telling them drinking had become a problem and I'm much happier in every way with it out of my life.
As Laura said, I think it depends who it is. And, I think you need to remember that you don't owe anyone an explanation and personally, I think that if people are questioning your drinking, it might be because they wonder if they have a problem. I would only tell someone very, very close to me, because really it's nobody's business.
I often say 'not right now thanks' rather than 'no' because it seems to get less questioning looks.
I often say 'not right now thanks' rather than 'no' because it seems to get less questioning looks.
Hi - I think you have gotten some great advice here so far - you can also say "I'm driving", esp. if it's true. I was struggling with this earlier, too, but eventually it comes more natural to say "no thanks" and go on with your party, evening, etc. Good luck! J
I am glad you asked this question. For me I find that my friends keep asking if I am still not drinking, at least the ones who track me down to talk to me. It is as if they are waiting for me to come back.? I don't think they understand I don't want it anymore.
So I have the same problem when I see people I used to drink with. Unfortunately my grandmother, who is 89, and two other friends are the only people in my family or people I really know that are sober.
So thanks to Laura and Anna for the insight / common sense.
So I have the same problem when I see people I used to drink with. Unfortunately my grandmother, who is 89, and two other friends are the only people in my family or people I really know that are sober.
So thanks to Laura and Anna for the insight / common sense.
I've found a dose of humor combined with honesty often is satisfactory for those just curious and sometimes intriguing to those with a problem that allows me to share further if the need or curiosity is there...
My favorite response is that I'm allergic to alcohol...I break out in handcuffs...
My favorite response is that I'm allergic to alcohol...I break out in handcuffs...
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I've found a dose of humor combined with honesty often is satisfactory for those just curious and sometimes intriguing to those with a problem that allows me to share further if the need or curiosity is there...
My favorite response is that I'm allergic to alcohol...I break out in handcuffs...
My favorite response is that I'm allergic to alcohol...I break out in handcuffs...
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I don't think it's neccesary to proclaim I have a problem as most people who know me even a tiny bit most probably know I'm an alcoholic.
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I tried all sorts of evasions
"On a diet" "New meds" "I'm driving"
All made me feel sleazy.
"No Thanks" works well for me.
If pushed...."I'm an alcoholic in AA"
...I have noticed only other
drunks are insistant.
Blessings
"On a diet" "New meds" "I'm driving"
All made me feel sleazy.
"No Thanks" works well for me.
If pushed...."I'm an alcoholic in AA"
...I have noticed only other
drunks are insistant.
Blessings
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Just tell people you're trying to quit.
If they can't figure it out then they're idiots.
I don't know..If people think they're intelligent and mature.
Then treat them like they're intelligent and mature. If they're
idiots..then pray i guess.lol
If they can't figure it out then they're idiots.
I don't know..If people think they're intelligent and mature.
Then treat them like they're intelligent and mature. If they're
idiots..then pray i guess.lol
messing with folks
depending on the person and situation, I will tell them straight up I am a recovered alcoholic, drinking would change that-real quickly.
If I feel like messing around with someone I don't know well I tell them drinking blocks my connection with God, This usually ends the conversation, quite quickly I might add. My motives may be questionable, but it sure is true.
If I feel like messing around with someone I don't know well I tell them drinking blocks my connection with God, This usually ends the conversation, quite quickly I might add. My motives may be questionable, but it sure is true.
Its Personal
Makes me feel guilty. They think "right" sure your not drinking. Even though I know I'm not. But I know I shouldn't care what they think, only I know the truth and what my expectations of myself are. I do have several best friends who support me and it's thier opinions and support that count
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