aasharon90

Hi Im Sharon and Im an Alcoholic.

By the Grace of my HP and People
like you here in SR I havent found
it necessary today at take a drink
of alcohol since 8-11-90.

For that and you I am truely grateful.

I work my program to the best
of my ability on a daily bases
and yet life continues to throw
me curve balls to keep me
on my toes.

I moved back home here to Baton
Rouge almost a year ago this month.
Going thru a separation after a 25
yr marriage....nothing is legal yet.

Learning to be independant isnt
difficult as i learned at a young
age how to take care of myself.

At the moment i am working a
fun job at a local Bakery in
which i so enjoy....the hours
are great as i go in early
early and get off early....I
love the people i work with
except one....and i love the
customer service part of my job.

One man in particular called me
to the office once again to place
me on a 30 day probation unless
i stop doing things my way and
begin doing what he wants me
to....which is not to smile...laugh...
have fun....dont talk to anyone....
do as i am told....etc....

He took away my happiness
today....and i was an emotional
wreck....tears whelled up in
my eyes all day as i tried my
best to stay focused on taking
phone orders and keep to myself....

Do u know how hard it is not to
laugh and have fun at work? VERY
DIFFICULT....because everyone
know i love to goof off while doing
my job well....

Seems as tho when he talks down
to others they all put him in his
place and yet when i try to voice
my own opinion or be nice or ecnore,
i get chopped down and threatened
that i would loose my job....

Someone in the program explained
it like this to me....its because this
old fart knows i need to work to
support myself...and that i have
little job experiences else where...

That its ok for him to treat
me like he does because he knows
how bad i need this job to survive....

The hardest part of all this is....the
owners do appreciate me and the
work i do and yet they put all their
trust in the SOB of a retired army
food mess hall of a man to whip
all the employees into shape or
ship them out.....

It has been brought to my attention
that this old coggers is a miserable
old buzzart.......and that he
doesnt like seeing me happy....

So tonight i will turn it over to
my HP and let him open and close
the door with this situation as
HE sees fit for me....

Maybe once i do that then i may
experience another AWESOME
miracle once again like i have with
countless others......

All in His Time ...Thy Will Be Done.

Thanks for letting me share.

Astro

You got that right Sharon! Bad karma for the guy, what goes around comes around.

As always, thank you for sharing some wonderful thoughts!

Alive

Sharon i am glad you shared and i am glad you don't let people break your spirit. I always believed if people want to break you is because you have something they don't have. It's because you're a beautiful person.

hug

Surlyredhead

Don't let others steal your joy......

Rowan

Hi Sharon,

I am sorry that you are going through this at work - that one person is making something you enjoy ... something so difficult. I have experienced this myself and I know how distressing it can be.
Do you know what I think? I think this man is threatened by you. By the fact that not only are you competent and able to do your job well, but that you don't have to be miserable like he is to accomplish this. You love your job, and you are great at it - don't hide your light, baby!
Easy for me to say, I know. I understand that you need this job, and it's too bad that you have to conform your personality to suit someone else.
And so, I guess I don't really have any advice. I just wanted to say that I understand, and I think you're great just the way you are.

Row

Dee_Sober4today

Thank you so much for sharing, Sharon.
Your time of sobriety gives me hope.
I'm sorry you're having to deal with such a miserable person. Don't change who you are for anyone and please don't let anyone break your spirit.
Your HP sees all and will make things right.
Much Love and Peace,
Denise

aasharon90

Thanks guys....all ur kind words bring joy
to my heart....and i appreciate it and thank
u for it....

At work i wrote 2 notes ..one to the decorators
and one to the stackers....it really takes each
one of us to work at our jobs in order
for the bakery business to work.....

anyway,,,,while in tears i told each group
that i wasnt allowed to speak to them
anymore and for them to not take
it personally because i loved them and
appreciated them.....

Its the joy i recieve from each of them
that makes my day....to be able to
have friends outside AA whom i
work well with....

thru out the day people came to
me to say they missed me in the
back visiting with them....cutting
up with them....just smiling.....just
being me....

They said all the things uve shared
with me....and that made me feel
good....however when someone
in AA shared about getting on their
knees and praying for me and my
situation....again i teared up....

Must be the time of the month....lol

So many tears and emotions....or is it
because all my life ive had people
tear me down....to make me feel
less than....when i try to stand
up strong they know exactly what
to do or say to pull the rug from
under my feet.....

Why can most people take critism
with a grain of salt and me like a
boulder?

I try to treat others like the way
id like to be treated an yet i get
stomped on....

Maybe my HP is still teaching me
lessons im having a hard time
understanding....

I still however remain teachable
for ever how long it takes.....

That my HP could and would if He
were sought.

And i do seek Him for guidance,
courage, strength and Wisdom


God Grant Me The Serenity to
Accept The Things I Cannot
Change, Courage to Change
The Things I Can And The
Wisdom To Know The Difference.

Amen.

Anna

Hi Sharon,

I also think that this man resents that you like your job and the people that you work with. He probably doesn't enjoy anything about his work.

But, the bottom line is you need your job, so you have to listen to him. But, it doesn't mean that he can break you down, Sharon.

Taking5

Sharon,

My old boss had a great saying that I think you have been practicing:

"Be nice to people. Nice people are nice back to you, and mean people - it really F$%*@s with their heads".

I think the person you are describing is one of the latter, obviously. Keep doing the right thing. Even if you lose the job, your karma is great, and his isn't. You'll be fine in the long run.

SaTiT

Personally i would stab the sob in the eye.
not have a good day shannon...some ***** stole my guitar.
well..it's like stealing my soul but that don't matter to the *****
that stole my guitar.


Anyway...it dosen't matter to that old fart how you feel.

anywho..when i turn my will and life over to my HP..I had
to take action and do my 4th step...which is something
I didn't look forward of doing. I face my fears.

anywho...I don't belive you're afriad of the old fart.
You afriad of talking to the owner.. Make that appoiontment
will ya...your livehood had been threaten.
30 days.

F-that..some people think you so be robots at work. basically slaves.

F- that...it your life just as will...like the book say.
You have to right to be here..you're not a drunk anymore.

that's why..I work directly under the owner or top management.

some asswipe..tjust got his new title...and he feels like he was
to prove something to the boss ya see..but he's a BS'er....and
you know you can't BS a Bs're.lol
Will..at least I know how to handle my bussiness.
He ask me to do something for him...I said i will, when i get a chance.lol
I was too bussy working on projects the owner had given me..
The idiot could never figure it out...I put his files under everything on the bottom
He came as ask me day after day...I said i'll do it when i get a chance.

Then he had the nerves to tell me he was going to fire me...that's funny as hell
becuase of his damn title and power trip.

I asked him to step in the office, office...but hell no..he drag his ass
there. and when the owner ask what the problem was..he didn't say a damn thing :lamo
well..I said something.lol


but ya know...sometimes people giving title..just so they don't get
a raise...and some people are just idiots for that power trip BS.
man..i hate bussiness BS. I've seen enough.

will..so are you asking me to pray to the SOB to have a heart attack
and died ??? lol
mmm...it'll be a win, win..situation.
You'll be happy with work, he'll be in heaven

well...did you ask for a raise while you where in there ??
it's a 2 way street.lol
if he has the power to fire you..then he better have the power to give you a raise...
hint..lol..hint....how much power do you think he has ?
I find it ironic when people throw their wieght around but when it comes to a raise,
they'll get to it when they get a chance.lol

Justme57

Dear sharron!

How I love your shares !

You know, the reason he treats you like that is "because he can"

I work with a similar person, and although she is not my superior, she used to be able to cut me to the core, and reduce me to tears.

My sponser told me , that these types can sense others weaknesses and 'go for the jugular".
perhaps you are like me, in that I have always been a "people pleaser" and when i was an active drunk, I used to let people use me, then bemoan the fact at night as I got drunker !!!!!!!!!!!!! LOL Oh! Poor me ! Unfortunately ( for them) I was a "drunken dialler" so I often rang them at ungodly hours !

When I did my 4th, I really had to look at my part in this behaviour, and reaction. It came down to the fact that I did not think I was "worthy" , and their opinion of me just validated this for me .

I am 4 and a bit years sober now, and am only just begining to believe I deserve more. i have since had a confrontation with this same girl, and I stood up for myself, I wasnt rude, but just stated the facts as I saw them. She was so surprised that she steers clear of me now LOL. I was terrified , but i did it. i think that people like this are just cowardly bullies, and I am sure , that when you are ready, and you DO stand up to him, I bet he will turn tail!

You are right, when you say in HIS time and HIS way. Just do "the next right thing" and hand it over, dont be like me , and take it back for a "tweak" LOL

Thanks for sharing

HUGX
Leigh

SaTiT

hint shanon hint..you deserve a raise for putting up with his BS.lol
the next time yo go in his office...have him sit behind his stupid
desk..then stand up..lol
this will give the posistion of being above him. observe how he re-acts.lol

you notice..he'll come to you while your sitting down or looking
over your shoulders..this gives him the impression of a higher level.

As a manager ..working in the office with the ladies..
I get in a kneeling posistion and drop to my knees when
I have to pass out work.lol when i go to the thier desk.
This gives the ladies a higher view to me, Plus i ask.
Almost like I'm poposing marriage to them .lol
well..I'm poposing that they'll should help me get task accomplish.
They do the work with a smile and with less mistakes.

It's one less thing they have to worry about ....me and
the abuse of my powers.lol

I always say something nice to the ladies everyday.
Tell them how good they look and compliment them on thier dress or hair..ect.
It makes for a less stressful work enviornment.

rather than just passing out the work..."here get the **** done or else"..tactics.

well...you did say that old man..is a rookie at being a manager ..yes ?
He dosen't know how to manage people very will..lol

barb dwyer

hmm.

Unless this bakery is owned/operated by the mafia ...

I am fairly certain a job can't destry anyting unless you allow it to?

aasharon90

Lots of positive things shared above by all of u...
Thank you so much....Would love to work with
each of u if ever given the chance....

Speaking of chance....that is the jack-ass's
last name....lol

I also some good step working above and good
recovery time behind u guys.....that is
TERRIFIC....

Working your program in ur everyday
affairs...... SWEET..!

Im seeing that my will doesnt work
everyday i get called into the office....

I rebell when someone TELLS me what
to do.....I Still have trouble with the
tone of voice used when im TOLD what
to do.....but if spoken in a kinder tone
i will bend over backwards and be honored
to do whatever is asked of me....


Here I am almost 49 and im still being called
to the office...lol.....

What lesson am I here to learn from?

Hmmmm.....

More thoughts later....


Thanks for being here for me
guys.....and each of u continue
to strive for progress and not
perfection.....one day at a time.
Thy Will and not mine.

Rusty Zipper

aas...

my character flaws are run'n wild read'n this...

hey, pull a three stooges bit... hang a 10lb bag of flour over his door, and hot wire a piece of heavy twine too it... when he opens the door, that ought'a turn it over... and help you to also!... omg!

aas, i cant really believe one could get canned for being happy at a job...

one more little thing...

we can catch more flys with honey then vinigar...

have you tried being nice to this nit-wit?

love ya aas...

is it Zydeco time?

rz

indigo

Sharon I'm so sorry that this jerk is treating you like thie, I'm with justme57, he's doing it because he can. Please know what a ray of light you are to your co-workers and to us here at SR and don't let anyone disturb your peace of mind or try to dampen your personality, they are simply not worth it.
hugs Annie

SaTiT

So..shanon

Sponsor say when in doupt do the hardest thing frist.
That's what i do when I go into work ya know...attack the
hardest project first. make dose narley phone calls to clinents
first..Get the hardest things out of the way first ans it's all
down hill from there.

Kind of like making those narely ammends first and the rest is
a not as bad.

But it's for each indiviual to figure out what is the hardest thing
to do at each juncture of thier lives...for some it's to sit still and
sit on their hands..for others it's to take actions.

I'll pray for the sob to have a heart attack if you want me too.
no sweat off my shoulders..i'm not emotionally attach to him.lol

Rella927

DITTO!

Sharon sorry that you are going through this but, try not to allow it to destroy you as the wonderful person you are!

My current job...has a number of issues going on ...i.e. I was sexually harrassed 3 times by the same guy and my boss is giving him "ONE MORE CHANCE" although I do not have to give either of them ANY CHANCES! Unfortunate I'm not in the current position that I can do to much about it until the first of the year! New job and possibly charges against this kid! I got raise but it did not reach my paycheck YET...among many other issues I will not get into but the bottom line is that I come in happy and do my job for now and do not allow any of the issues to really take me over or destroy me because I know that in a month or so I will do something for myself about this horrible situation!

Hang in there

Betty Ford

I love it! That is what works best for me but I've never been able to put it into words. What a great quote.

It sucks when work is no fun. Good luck in getting it sorted out, it seems you have the skills and attitude to handle it.

aasharon90

Thanks guys for all ur wonderful thoughts and ideas....i have to laugh at some of them....which is great because it gets me out of myself and find the humor in all this....

Isnt recovery GREAT? Where else can u go to bring ur troubles, problems and get great feedback to help u deal with them.....thats why they say you never have to go thru anything in ur life alone anymore.....never.....

Ok, so right off the bat....i made sure i got to work at the time assigned to me which is 5:30am....not like how i went in yesterday at 5 ..when I WANTED to go in....so this way the SOB wouldnt have a chance to call me down on the time.....

Next i went in this morning....out of character...no make-up....and yes i did shower....lol....no make-up,,,,no jewelry....no cologne.....hair left down instead of tucked behind my ear to see my face.....

I looked like death warmed over...lol

If u saw me on a daily bases u would see me very presentable,,,,,very bright....cheerful....dressed nicely....smelling sweet....alll that u would see if u went into a department store to the Cosmetic counter where ud see lovely attractive ladies selling make-up and frangrances....

So.....everyone was nice to me....gave me hugs....showed concern and compassion.....they understood where i was coming from yet was in disbelief on how i looked because that was not the Sharon they see daily....

Sooooo Ed Chance didnt say 2 words to me all day as we passed each other frequently.....im sure thoughts were rolling around in his over sized ego of a head.....however it was 2 pm when i was placing my last order in the computer before leaving and he calls out my name correcting me on the hours i had from yesterday,,,,,sure i went in a half an hour early and left well past 1:30pm...and told him i was putting in orders late....well he said try to stay close to the 8 hours i am assigned to.....

Jackass.....lol.....he just couldnt make it thru the day without correcting me on something.....

See we r planning to move into a larger new bakery come March and they r trying to work out all the flaws before the move....right...! So there was a lady there yesterday and today from up north evaluating everyone.....

They even had a questionaire for us to fill out and if u wanted to talk to her during her time there u could.....

Well i wasnt interested unlike everyone else...me i dont like to make waves.....and what would be the point to express myself when nothing will be done about it....so i just keep quiet.....

Anyway....i made it thru the day and my heart is strong as i thought this morning when someone asked me if me not wearing makeup was a sign of how i really felt about the situation....or maybe if it made me depressed....i laughed and told her i was cool and that the jerk wasnt enough to make me do something crazy.....

And that is true....nothing is that bad today that i would want to drink or do something crazy over....its just not something im worried about today....mainly because i have a strong recovery support behind me and a strong faith that allows me to believe that as long as i place this situation in the Hands of my HP then it will be taken care of.....sooner or later....

And thats how it works for me.

Thanks for letting me share and thanks for being my continued support here in SR.....You Guys Are The GREATEST....!