RE: What To Do At Work When Someone Totally Destroys You As A Human Being?
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shanonyou mean you didn't get one those ah ha moments yet ??
maybe, just maybe
you know..The guy is on life support system when he gose home.
He's hook up to a machine and get fed liquid.
mmm...that would be ..watching the tube and soaking Booze. lol
You intemiate the man by your presence..that would be becuase you're clean and sober
and you're spirit lives.
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Interesting, someone brings a resentment and everyone co-signs it.
I owned a bakery for 20 yrs, fired plenty who would tell you all the same story and they probably still don't know why they got fired.
I got fired from the last 5 jobs I had before going into business, I kinda had an idea why but I'd still look for everyone to jump on my excuse wagon.
Then I had to work from the other side of the fence and I'd have fired me too. !
Sharon, from experience I can tell you this much, what a wonderfull opportunity you have been presented with to make amends.
I owned a bakery for 20 yrs, fired plenty who would tell you all the same story and they probably still don't know why they got fired.
I got fired from the last 5 jobs I had before going into business, I kinda had an idea why but I'd still look for everyone to jump on my excuse wagon.
Then I had to work from the other side of the fence and I'd have fired me too. !
Sharon, from experience I can tell you this much, what a wonderfull opportunity you have been presented with to make amends.
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what make an applogy to a drunk ???
I assume you're an ex-drunk when you fired plenty of people
what mangers do drink or get **** -up or what ???
oh yeah..just hide behind close doors and put on a suit or treat people
like **** so they keep their distance..inferior complex or some crap ..i don't know.
I assume you're an ex-drunk when you fired plenty of people
what mangers do drink or get **** -up or what ???
oh yeah..just hide behind close doors and put on a suit or treat people
like **** so they keep their distance..inferior complex or some crap ..i don't know.
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I don't know anything about Chance's personal life except that he worked in the food service in the service and was in other business thru out his life and seems to have these stories of the past he likes to draw upon.....
A lady came in the store not long ago and from the grapevines i heard she had said something to the effect that Chance had no reguards for women. I think she had a resentment towards this so and so.....
The SOB i dont feel has a drinking problem....i just think he's a lonely old man who is miserable in his own skin.....or just gets off thinking he's soooo much better than anyone else because he has been given the authority to rule ove us employees....
I tried to be a friend to him....pat him on the back...joke with him...work with him....and times it sems to work....then i tried to ecnore him and that didnt work....however yesterday when i went to work looking sicker than what i really felt.....he left me alone all day....
The jack-ass.....
I enjoy my Sundays when he is not there....what a stress free day....i can be myself....do my job and love it more.....
And i do love my job.....i love waiting on people....taking their orders....taking phone orders....etc.....and u know....from the response i get from many....they sooooo appreciate it....
See im not a child.....well maybe in sober yrs.....hmmm maybe a teenager now....
other employees i work with respect me....they look up to me....and im not boasting either...it feels nice to have the respect of many....
With the EXCEPTION of Chance....the only one who is a thorn in my side....
Jack-ass.....
I wonder if because he's having to watch his weight and is on this so call diet that he is just plain hungry....miserably hungry.....i notice he comes to the front to snitch ...slap my hand for taking this poor mans inventory....
Im hoping that the owners got a good report from the interviews of other employees about how they feel about what goes on at the bakery.....me i didnt talk to the lady who was there for the past 2 days evaluating the business....im just hoping everyone else shared enough to speak for me.....
I really like my job....i love the owners and get along well with all of them and feel for sure they appreciate me being there....i really do....and in that case i feel confident my job is secured....
However they have this Jack-ass to work out all the employees problems taking that part off their hands so they can concentrate on the business....
Anyway...enough rambling....
Thank u all for ur continued thoughts and concern....that means alot to me...
Now i have something else to give thought to....maybe another job....i am sponsoring someone presently and they have connections and has already put in a word for me....possibly back into the bank....or food service in the hospital....rehab center.....hmmmm....would love that....
Anyway...ill continue to turn my thoughts and prayers over to my HP to open new doors and close others to situations that are not working....i just want to remain open to possiblities to help me grow....
Today however is all i have and ill go out and live it to the best of my ability....with help and guidance from Above and the principles set down before me to lead the way......
And most of all..the support, love, care, kindness and strength i draw from here in SR....
You guys are AWESOME..... Thanks for being here for me.....
Love and care to each of you.....
A lady came in the store not long ago and from the grapevines i heard she had said something to the effect that Chance had no reguards for women. I think she had a resentment towards this so and so.....
The SOB i dont feel has a drinking problem....i just think he's a lonely old man who is miserable in his own skin.....or just gets off thinking he's soooo much better than anyone else because he has been given the authority to rule ove us employees....
I tried to be a friend to him....pat him on the back...joke with him...work with him....and times it sems to work....then i tried to ecnore him and that didnt work....however yesterday when i went to work looking sicker than what i really felt.....he left me alone all day....
The jack-ass.....
I enjoy my Sundays when he is not there....what a stress free day....i can be myself....do my job and love it more.....
And i do love my job.....i love waiting on people....taking their orders....taking phone orders....etc.....and u know....from the response i get from many....they sooooo appreciate it....
See im not a child.....well maybe in sober yrs.....hmmm maybe a teenager now....
other employees i work with respect me....they look up to me....and im not boasting either...it feels nice to have the respect of many....With the EXCEPTION of Chance....the only one who is a thorn in my side....
Jack-ass.....
I wonder if because he's having to watch his weight and is on this so call diet that he is just plain hungry....miserably hungry.....i notice he comes to the front to snitch ...slap my hand for taking this poor mans inventory....
Im hoping that the owners got a good report from the interviews of other employees about how they feel about what goes on at the bakery.....me i didnt talk to the lady who was there for the past 2 days evaluating the business....im just hoping everyone else shared enough to speak for me.....
I really like my job....i love the owners and get along well with all of them and feel for sure they appreciate me being there....i really do....and in that case i feel confident my job is secured....
However they have this Jack-ass to work out all the employees problems taking that part off their hands so they can concentrate on the business....
Anyway...enough rambling....
Thank u all for ur continued thoughts and concern....that means alot to me...
Now i have something else to give thought to....maybe another job....i am sponsoring someone presently and they have connections and has already put in a word for me....possibly back into the bank....or food service in the hospital....rehab center.....hmmmm....would love that....
Anyway...ill continue to turn my thoughts and prayers over to my HP to open new doors and close others to situations that are not working....i just want to remain open to possiblities to help me grow....
Today however is all i have and ill go out and live it to the best of my ability....with help and guidance from Above and the principles set down before me to lead the way......
And most of all..the support, love, care, kindness and strength i draw from here in SR....
You guys are AWESOME.....
Thanks for being here for me.....Love and care to each of you.....
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You guys are my sponsors...i draw upon ur own wisdom to guide me....and it is great....i have awesome support from the network of our program to help me thru questionable times.....
It has been suggested to me to pray for this situation...to turn it over and allow my HP to guide me in the right direction...i maynot get the answers immediately which is ok....it took me 10 long yrs in Houston before i recieved the answer to my many tears and prayers to finally be sent back here to Baton Rouge, my hometown where ive wanted to be and always wanted to be....
I had to go to Houston because it allowed my 2 kids to experience many awesome things in life to grow and mature....and that was a huge plus in my life for them....
Now that they are on the right path and growing ever so wonderfully...its now time to take care of me.....soooo whatever my HP has in store for me....i have to remain open honest and willing to be ready for anything he throws at me to do.....
Ill drop anything and everything to follow Him in the direction He wishes me to.....
It has to be His way or the highway......
Which road do I or u choose?
It has been suggested to me to pray for this situation...to turn it over and allow my HP to guide me in the right direction...i maynot get the answers immediately which is ok....it took me 10 long yrs in Houston before i recieved the answer to my many tears and prayers to finally be sent back here to Baton Rouge, my hometown where ive wanted to be and always wanted to be....
I had to go to Houston because it allowed my 2 kids to experience many awesome things in life to grow and mature....and that was a huge plus in my life for them....
Now that they are on the right path and growing ever so wonderfully...its now time to take care of me.....soooo whatever my HP has in store for me....i have to remain open honest and willing to be ready for anything he throws at me to do.....
Ill drop anything and everything to follow Him in the direction He wishes me to.....
It has to be His way or the highway......
Which road do I or u choose?
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aasharon -
perfect timing on this post! I work as a waitress at a restaurant...have been with the company 2-1/2 years. Like you, I love my job and waiting on people. I have a 17-year-old waitress and her "fiance'" that are working there and have had nothing but trouble with them.
I've been cussed out twice (in front of customers) and other things. My general manager had a stroke, so the man who is running the store won't do anything.
I've been praying about it and trying to turn it over, but it's still really frustrating. I went out last week and put in applications at other restaurants, and will do it again today. I also talked to other managers in our restaurant chain and now know who to call if this continues and nothing is done.
It IS hard to have one (or 2, in my case) person try to spoil your joy at work. I'm working hard to not react irresponsibly...I've documented everything that has happened and which manager I reported it to. Now, I'm just doing the footwork (looking for another job) and will let HP decide where I need to be.
Hugs and prayers!
Amy
perfect timing on this post! I work as a waitress at a restaurant...have been with the company 2-1/2 years. Like you, I love my job and waiting on people. I have a 17-year-old waitress and her "fiance'" that are working there and have had nothing but trouble with them.
I've been cussed out twice (in front of customers) and other things. My general manager had a stroke, so the man who is running the store won't do anything.
I've been praying about it and trying to turn it over, but it's still really frustrating. I went out last week and put in applications at other restaurants, and will do it again today. I also talked to other managers in our restaurant chain and now know who to call if this continues and nothing is done.
It IS hard to have one (or 2, in my case) person try to spoil your joy at work. I'm working hard to not react irresponsibly...I've documented everything that has happened and which manager I reported it to. Now, I'm just doing the footwork (looking for another job) and will let HP decide where I need to be.
Hugs and prayers!
Amy
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I went to work at 5:30 at my assigned time . Clocked
in and began my daily duties....shortly after we opened
i had stepped in the room where the decorators work
when one whispered quietly to alert me that Ed was
questioning my activity from the time i clocked in to
opening....hmmmm......
That raised a few notched in my blood level wondering
why the hell was he worried about that and why was he
asking others about me and not himself.....
Why was i under his microscope?
Fumes began and i headed to the office to confront him....
Well no Ed at the moment so i asked the owners as they
suggested that i pull him over and ask him those
questions myself....well by then Ed walks in an I asked
if i could talk to him....sure he replied and all hell broke
lose....After a few minutes of raised voices he suggested
that i clock out and leave for the day....Well i flat out
told him i was not leaving....
Well one of the owners sons began to speak and he
got all worked up saying some cuss words and that made
me feel worried that he might have a heart attack.....YIKES....
Then the mom steps in and says a few words and then it was
just ED and I,,,,,,
I decided to calm down because i surely didnt want to
leave because i need my pay....and then explained about
the fear i had with the holidays approaching and not
making enough money to pay my bills.....
So they reassure me that i was not in any danger of
being let go but that Ed was molding me into the
position to work the front end of the new bakery come
next yr.....
And that i needed a attitude adjustment and in order to
make more money from a yearly raise was to follow
instructions.... YIKES....
They r aware i hardly to never make mistakes and thus
am doing a good job.....and it was then that i asked Ed if
he thought i was doing good.....he replied yes....i told him
all i needed was validation from him to let me know how
i was doing......
After all that i mentioned something about better communication
and we stood up and i asked if i could give him a hug.....
We did and i stayed the rest of the day.....
Do u know how hard it is to back down and feel
like a loser....? That is how i felt.....like he won
over me.....just to save my ass and my job right now.....
So the rest of the day went by without a hitch.....
And tomorrow I shall return in full atire....makeup, jewelry
and cologne.....
The End.....
in and began my daily duties....shortly after we opened
i had stepped in the room where the decorators work
when one whispered quietly to alert me that Ed was
questioning my activity from the time i clocked in to
opening....hmmmm......
That raised a few notched in my blood level wondering
why the hell was he worried about that and why was he
asking others about me and not himself.....
Why was i under his microscope?
Fumes began and i headed to the office to confront him....
Well no Ed at the moment so i asked the owners as they
suggested that i pull him over and ask him those
questions myself....well by then Ed walks in an I asked
if i could talk to him....sure he replied and all hell broke
lose....After a few minutes of raised voices he suggested
that i clock out and leave for the day....Well i flat out
told him i was not leaving....
Well one of the owners sons began to speak and he
got all worked up saying some cuss words and that made
me feel worried that he might have a heart attack.....YIKES....
Then the mom steps in and says a few words and then it was
just ED and I,,,,,,
I decided to calm down because i surely didnt want to
leave because i need my pay....and then explained about
the fear i had with the holidays approaching and not
making enough money to pay my bills.....
So they reassure me that i was not in any danger of
being let go but that Ed was molding me into the
position to work the front end of the new bakery come
next yr.....
And that i needed a attitude adjustment and in order to
make more money from a yearly raise was to follow
instructions.... YIKES....
They r aware i hardly to never make mistakes and thus
am doing a good job.....and it was then that i asked Ed if
he thought i was doing good.....he replied yes....i told him
all i needed was validation from him to let me know how
i was doing......
After all that i mentioned something about better communication
and we stood up and i asked if i could give him a hug.....
We did and i stayed the rest of the day.....
Do u know how hard it is to back down and feel
like a loser....? That is how i felt.....like he won
over me.....just to save my ass and my job right now.....
So the rest of the day went by without a hitch.....
And tomorrow I shall return in full atire....makeup, jewelry
and cologne.....
The End.....
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He didn't win Sharon.
You did just fine by keeping your anger under control and asking outright if your job was in jeopardy. I hate playing games and I always want to know where I stand. So they told you where you stand and so you have your job and your dignity.
You did just fine by keeping your anger under control and asking outright if your job was in jeopardy. I hate playing games and I always want to know where I stand. So they told you where you stand and so you have your job and your dignity.
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Sharon, you sound like a really decent person.You did fine,if you get that position you can put your own character on it.So many people have supervisory/managerial positions and their people skills are non existent.Best wishes and God bless.
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Thanks guys for ur encouraging words....they mean
so much to me....more than you know.
Ok, so i will head off to work as usual and make
it thru another day with a positive attitude....
It was suggested to me to greet Ed with a
Good Morning followed by a thank you for
the talk yesterday.....or Im glad we had
that talk yesterday and ,,,,now tell me
again what it is that youd like for me
to work on today......
Maybe that will boost or inflate his ego
so much that his head will roll on the floor. lol
To also go in today and play the game....
and in doing so when it come time for my
yearly review i will hopefully get a nice
raise.....
I hate playing games.... I just want
to do my job and thats it.....that is
why i so look forward to Saturdays....
no work and NO ED....then Sun....Work
and NO ED.....Mon....No work and NO ED...lol
Isnt life grand in recovery???
Love you guys...!
Thank you for ur support, kindness,
and concern.
so much to me....more than you know.
Ok, so i will head off to work as usual and make
it thru another day with a positive attitude....
It was suggested to me to greet Ed with a
Good Morning followed by a thank you for
the talk yesterday.....or Im glad we had
that talk yesterday and ,,,,now tell me
again what it is that youd like for me
to work on today......
Maybe that will boost or inflate his ego
so much that his head will roll on the floor. lol
To also go in today and play the game....
and in doing so when it come time for my
yearly review i will hopefully get a nice
raise.....
I hate playing games....
I just want to do my job and thats it.....that is
why i so look forward to Saturdays....
no work and NO ED....then Sun....Work
and NO ED.....Mon....No work and NO ED...lol
Isnt life grand in recovery???
Love you guys...!
Thank you for ur support, kindness,
and concern.
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Hey Sharon, nice to see you, but sorry you're hurting.
This is probably not in line with most others thinking (except maybe Dee, lol), but I once had a terrible bully in my life and she made my days at high school miserable. Finally, one day, when I was sick of it, really really sick of it, I looked at her, as she had me cornered in the lockers and told her to "F" herself. She never bothered me again.
Now, I certainly don't recommend that for you, but if you stand up for yourself in a dignfied way, appropriate to a work environment, maybe he'll see he can't get away with it anymore. Usually, if you stand up for yourself bullies go away.
This is probably not in line with most others thinking (except maybe Dee, lol), but I once had a terrible bully in my life and she made my days at high school miserable. Finally, one day, when I was sick of it, really really sick of it, I looked at her, as she had me cornered in the lockers and told her to "F" herself. She never bothered me again.
Now, I certainly don't recommend that for you, but if you stand up for yourself in a dignfied way, appropriate to a work environment, maybe he'll see he can't get away with it anymore. Usually, if you stand up for yourself bullies go away.
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Yeap...like 5150 say.
I don't know...maybe some people havn't heard of a conception of
I truned my will and my life over to a Loveing GOD.
My HP dose the molding...lol
maybe god's will for me is not to makes some SOB rich and get mow
at the same time.
Well did you ask for a raise ??? since you're getting mow
Okay did you at least ask for hazardouse pay..lol
mmm i let me Gf Mow me..becuase i like it..ya see.lol
Sponsor say..is because I like it that's why..I had a hard time. (step #6)
From the looks of it..ED don't know how to mow very good.lol
Okay...you don't like it...???
I don't know...maybe some people havn't heard of a conception of
I truned my will and my life over to a Loveing GOD.
My HP dose the molding...lol
maybe god's will for me is not to makes some SOB rich and get mow
at the same time.
Well did you ask for a raise ??? since you're getting mow
Okay did you at least ask for hazardouse pay..lol
mmm i let me Gf Mow me..becuase i like it..ya see.lol
Sponsor say..is because I like it that's why..I had a hard time. (step #6)
From the looks of it..ED don't know how to mow very good.lol
Okay...you don't like it...???
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