Where do we go from here?
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Join Date: Nov 2007
Location: palatka fl
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Where do we go from here?
I have signed on to this web site with my wife. We are looking for some answers. My step-son is an addict, that is a very hard thing to say, since we had so many hopes and dreams for him. He had and still has so much potential to be anything he wants to be, he just chooses drugs. He left our house two days ago. In two weeks he will be 18 yrs old. He has been to some counciling, but i'm not sure he is redy to change or seek help. I went to speek with him, to invite him to spend Thanksgiving with his family, and he was high. I caught him off gaurd by just showing up so most of my questions and comments to him rendered no response from him. We are truely lost in this situation but also have another younger son to look out for. Any advice, comments or suggestions would be greatly welcomed.
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Join Date: Sep 2006
Location: Butte, America
Posts: 10,946
welcome sgrass to SR!
wow. that's very sad. I'm glad you found us.
you might want to check out the 'Friends and Family' forums, as well as the Substance abuse stickies and threads there. Resources are plentiful here on SR ... being an alcoholic - I'm not all that familiar with those other than what I just told you, and Alanon in your area.
Here's Friends and Family:
http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/family-friends
And this is the Substance Abuse forums:
http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/.../?daysprune=-1
Again, welcome, and you'll be in my prayers.
Stick around - others will be along to welcome you, and help as they can!
wow. that's very sad. I'm glad you found us.
you might want to check out the 'Friends and Family' forums, as well as the Substance abuse stickies and threads there. Resources are plentiful here on SR ... being an alcoholic - I'm not all that familiar with those other than what I just told you, and Alanon in your area.
Here's Friends and Family:
http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/family-friends
And this is the Substance Abuse forums:
http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/.../?daysprune=-1
Again, welcome, and you'll be in my prayers.
Stick around - others will be along to welcome you, and help as they can!
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Join Date: Nov 2005
Location: Nursing Home in Brick, New Jersey
Posts: 5,174
I can empathize with you, since both of my sons are addicts...the oldest is presently in a VA hospital for recovery. I, myself, am a recovering alcoholic; but, having lived with addicted sons for many years, I know exactly what you're going through.
I wish there were some magic solution for getting your son clean...but, it will only happen if he's ready to go into detox and rehab. You could try an intervention with friends and family to convince him he needs to do this; but, there are no guarantees he will be receptive.
My suggestion would be for you, your wife, and perhaps your younger son go to Nar-Anon meetings for friends/family of addicts. You will find a lot of support there and maybe some answers, too. Good luck...I know it isn't easy.
I wish there were some magic solution for getting your son clean...but, it will only happen if he's ready to go into detox and rehab. You could try an intervention with friends and family to convince him he needs to do this; but, there are no guarantees he will be receptive.
My suggestion would be for you, your wife, and perhaps your younger son go to Nar-Anon meetings for friends/family of addicts. You will find a lot of support there and maybe some answers, too. Good luck...I know it isn't easy.
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