Do I tell my group that its nearly my Birthday?
One Day At A Time
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Join Date: Aug 2007
Location: England
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Do I tell my group that its nearly my Birthday?
I'm not sure why, but I feel like all my sober time doesn't count. Its my One Year on the 25th, but I've only been in AA for 5 months.
I don't feel entitled to share that its my One Year. I feel like it isn't real, and that it doesn't count and isn't mine.
Are these normal feelings? Should I share about it being my One Year?
I don't feel entitled to share that its my One Year. I feel like it isn't real, and that it doesn't count and isn't mine.
Are these normal feelings? Should I share about it being my One Year?
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Join Date: Nov 2005
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odatt... congratulations on your upcoming...
and i would say yes...
to show the newcomer it can be done!
also, you have worked hard on achieving a recovery goal, a life long goal!
xxoo & blessings
rz
ohoh, if your a member of the group, on the group list... the anny chair will make a note of it...
if not asleep at the wheel! lol
and i would say yes...
to show the newcomer it can be done!
also, you have worked hard on achieving a recovery goal, a life long goal!
xxoo & blessings
rz
ohoh, if your a member of the group, on the group list... the anny chair will make a note of it...
if not asleep at the wheel! lol
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Join Date: Mar 2006
Location: anomaly
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yes.. they're not going to take your inventory when it comes to stuff like that
They're not mind readers , but some people still think so.lol
yes, it's normal becuase we've assume people are mind readers.lol
Just joking....
it's just something about not deserving to win or be happy
and stuff like that. Guilt, shame or whatever you wanna call it.
some people say..fear of being sucessful.
They're not mind readers , but some people still think so.lol
yes, it's normal becuase we've assume people are mind readers.lol
Just joking....
it's just something about not deserving to win or be happy
and stuff like that. Guilt, shame or whatever you wanna call it.
some people say..fear of being sucessful.
Nature Girl
Join Date: Mar 2002
Location: By The Lake
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Of course you should let them share in celebrating such an important time in your recovery, and it will offer more hope than you can imagine for the newcomer.
It's about your sobriety birthday, not time in your group. What about the person who moves to another city? Should they have to start counting over just because they changed groups? Nahhhh!
Happy upcoming one year!!! It's certainly worth celebrating!!!
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It's about your sobriety birthday, not time in your group. What about the person who moves to another city? Should they have to start counting over just because they changed groups? Nahhhh!
Happy upcoming one year!!! It's certainly worth celebrating!!!
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Join Date: Nov 2006
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Your anniversary date in AA terms is the date of your last drink, or in some cases your first day with out a drink, not your first day in AA.
I do know one guy who has been sober longer then he has been in AA, he has chosen to make his first day in AA as his sobriety date, but that is his choice alone, no one told him to do that, it was his choice.
I also know one guy who had gone 5 years without a drink, but reset his sobriety date because he said he had been on the "Marajuana Maintenance program" for almost the whole time and said until he quit smoking dope as far as he was concerned he was not sober at that time.
It is up to you where to start counting your sobriety, there is no hard and fast rule, the only thing asked is that you be honest with your self, if you have not had a drink in XXX number of continuous days or years, then that is your sobriety date.
BTW Congrats on your year sober, that is a huge deal no matter how you stayed sober!
I do know one guy who has been sober longer then he has been in AA, he has chosen to make his first day in AA as his sobriety date, but that is his choice alone, no one told him to do that, it was his choice.
I also know one guy who had gone 5 years without a drink, but reset his sobriety date because he said he had been on the "Marajuana Maintenance program" for almost the whole time and said until he quit smoking dope as far as he was concerned he was not sober at that time.
It is up to you where to start counting your sobriety, there is no hard and fast rule, the only thing asked is that you be honest with your self, if you have not had a drink in XXX number of continuous days or years, then that is your sobriety date.
BTW Congrats on your year sober, that is a huge deal no matter how you stayed sober!
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Abso-friggin-lutely! Tell! Tell! Tell! There are some aspects of the program that should definitely not be kept anonymous...how are we going to let that new person struggling with one day know it works!!! You may think you have nothing to share; but, believe me, you do!!!
Congrats on one year clean and sober!
Congrats on one year clean and sober!
One Day At A Time
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Join Date: Aug 2007
Location: England
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Thanks guys 
Almost a year sober and I've got myself a real, official sponsor, and am going to be starting working the steps soon. I think procrastination is one of my defects!
Almost a year sober and I've got myself a real, official sponsor, and am going to be starting working the steps soon. I think procrastination is one of my defects!
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Everyone is right on with this!!! Congratulations on the up-coming One Year! That is something to be proud of.
At our AA Meetings here they always had a sign-in book where we put our first name and date of Sobriety to use for calling on people to share. They would take note of the Sobriety Date and then each month have all of the birthday celebrations one night with a big cake and all their names on it. :ghug2
We are a small rural community so could do that but I suppose in bigger communties you couldn't do it that way.
kelsh
At our AA Meetings here they always had a sign-in book where we put our first name and date of Sobriety to use for calling on people to share. They would take note of the Sobriety Date and then each month have all of the birthday celebrations one night with a big cake and all their names on it. :ghug2
We are a small rural community so could do that but I suppose in bigger communties you couldn't do it that way.
kelsh
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odaat, i little tip...
dont, repeat, dont fall for the self sabatage bit...
we as alky's tend to make a mess out of good...
and i aint tell'n ya this to scare ya, just to let you know, it can creep in, and just ignore it... keep do'n whats work'n!
xxoo
zip
dont, repeat, dont fall for the self sabatage bit...
we as alky's tend to make a mess out of good...
and i aint tell'n ya this to scare ya, just to let you know, it can creep in, and just ignore it... keep do'n whats work'n!
xxoo
zip
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We are a small rural community so could do that but I suppose in bigger communties you couldn't do it that way.
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Yes! Tell them!
And I relate to your other feelings too, about feeling like its not yours, and that somehow you haven't earned it - boy, can I relate! That's the sort of bad **** that a lifetime of alcoholism will do to your mind and your soul. Let's be clear - booze has done nothing but take, take, take from you and I and everyone here, until we were exhausted. It's time for us to give ourselves something back. Starting with that cake! And don't let your ****** up ego tell you otherwise! ODAAT, it keeps getting better!
And I relate to your other feelings too, about feeling like its not yours, and that somehow you haven't earned it - boy, can I relate! That's the sort of bad **** that a lifetime of alcoholism will do to your mind and your soul. Let's be clear - booze has done nothing but take, take, take from you and I and everyone here, until we were exhausted. It's time for us to give ourselves something back. Starting with that cake! And don't let your ****** up ego tell you otherwise! ODAAT, it keeps getting better!
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