Insomnia can threaten one's sanity not to mention sobriety. I just don't find any humor in bvaljalo's scenerio. The loss of sleep, material things or a roof over his (Aldo's) head are serious issues.

Now, bvaljalo... work on your jokes and come entertain us in Bottoms :mock . We'll let you know when/if you're funny :comfort .

Good luck with your problem there Aldo.

In an honest attempt to be of proper useful service to you:

Don't let it be a trigger.

And you might try turning it over to God through prayer.

Usually works for me.

I obviously have no business in this place ...

I haven't lived in an apartment/condo type place for many years. I do remember hearing the showers and toilets. I could hear children crying but just tuned it out. Now I live in a house and the only noise we hear is ours.

I agree it is a serious problem and also sleep deprivation is a serious problem with depression and other addictions.

Don't you work or are you home all day and night????

kelsh

No, I'm not working at the moment. I'm looking for a job, but I live in such a remote village their doesn't seem to be anything available - not that I'm qualified for much anyway.
So I'm home all day and all night. I don't have many (any!) friends to hang out with, so I've really just got to stay home. I don't mind staying home. I'm a loner and enjoy my own company and indulging in my own interests. It's just that with neighbours like the ones I have I just want to go out. In fact I guess that before I was going out to drink just as a way of escaping from my silly neighbours.

nice Strat you've got in your avatar Wander. I'm a Telecaster man though ;)

Yea, I guess I could. But I don't particularly want to. I have a very nice appartment. It's brand new. Spacious. Warm (I have chronic Sinusitus and Raynolds syndrome). It's very nice really.
I live in a very cold place. I doubt I'd be able to find such an appartment as nice and as warm as mine.

hey aldo, we live in a 2 unit building and the guy next door (he's actually our renter) has a band that likes to practice some in their side of the basement. he gives us a schedule of the daytime hours when they want to play for a week or so at a time and we go along with it. just as long as it doesn't go on for hours, we deal.

it's just part of urban living, i think. one of the joys :)

Hi aldo,
Hope you are doing well besides the neighbor issue.
I would try to go talk to them. I think you wrote once "Your neighbors think your a hermit". They are probably unaware or think the noise is not bothering you.
I am sorry everyone, Putting on the porn was my first though too. Not that I would have put in her window but.... aldo don't be embarrassed It was truly an attempt at a guy solution.
I hope it gets better. Have a good day.

As a suggestion, get a tape recorder and tape the noise for a few days, interjecting on the tape every so often something like

"it is 3AM tuesday 11/13"

"it is now 5AM tuesday 11/13"

etc

do that for severals days then give the tape to the landlord.........she may then realize just how noisy it is in your condo and she will deal with the tenants.

Its always worth a shot and cheaper than moving.

Hope things work out for you.

Love and hugs,

I was in a horrible living situation a couple years ago.I knew the landlord most of my life, I grew up with her kids, one of which is a crackhead.The landlord was a pushy,loud,obnoxious pothead.She actually decided to move her and her granddaughter into my home while I was out of town with my fiance, and had the nerve to charge me FULL rent.Once she was out of town,my fiance said pack your things-I will do whatever it takes to find you a new place.I wound up moving into a new apartment with his sister,it was really great, until....
My downstairs neighbors were from HELL!!! I had anxiety attacks from the noise and run ins with them and their six kids.They were awful in every sense.I thought I was in the twilight zone.
Finally this September, my fiance,my daughter, and I found a cute little single home to rent, and it has never been better.
MOVE NOW before you lose your marbles.

I seriously reccomend that you do! They're beautiful sounding guitars - not that I'm implying Strat's aren't nice either!

It's not 3rd world where I live, it's the 4th world!! I heard that in the UK they'll even come around with a noise tester and if the disturbance is above a certain volume they'll do something about it. That's great! Here we don't have none of that :(
I tried the police a few years ago, they said their's nothing they could have done.
I hate my neighbours :a043: :lol:

[QUOTE=whittenboy;1561966]They are probably unaware or think the noise is not bothering you.[QUOTE]

I don't know if they're awear or not. I don't watch a great deal of tv and when I do i keep the volume low. In fact sometimes when my friends come around (very rarely) and i have the tv on their're always like "turn up the volume, i can't hear that!". so maybe my neighbours don't know that the sound of the tv come's through the walls.
maybe if i were to put my tv up loud they'd hear it and possibly think "hmm, his tv's coming through the wall and disturbing me. mine must do the same when i have it up loud".

aldo,
Some times we are not that smart. Go talk to them.
Then if no relief, Do what laurie6781 suggested.
Good luck buddy

ggrrr. they're at it again. why do they have to be so loud???? they make me disgusted and anxious.
they're not so bad in the winter because they must have the doors closed but when it's warm in the summer it's like being in the room with them. i wanna puke.
i think f*****g your neighbour is disgusting and squalid.
i've got a porno movie (debbie does dalls - 70s classic!) on at the moment :lol:

loud? :a043:

God
Grant me the serenity to accept the people I cannot change
The courage to change the people I can
and the wisdom to know it's me.

For real. If you don't like where you are at, change it.
Obviously, you need more privacy or these things are bothering you because you are letting it bother you. It's easier to focus on your neighbours than look at your own life. Maybe your addicted to being pissed off or upset as well. I was, negative feelings are addictive as is negative thinking.

But your issue is an easy one to solve if you stay positive. The answer best suited for you will come.

Perhaps it's white noise, ear plugs, or moving. Find some peace within you and the outside crap around you wont bug you as much.

i understand what you're saying, but
if they knew they were disturbing me maybe they'd keep it down?

would it be ok to take a benzo?
however i should say it was because of my neighbours f*****g that they used to keep me awake for 3 or 4 nights and days at a time so it was then that i begun abusing benzos just so i could sleep

if you can't live with this, and the situation looks like threatening your sobriety...

3 things to do
*approach your neighbours
* approach your landlord
* last resort - move...no matter how nice the place.

I'd rather be sober in a broken down caravan than drunk in a penthouse Aldo.

D