strong mood swings at 3 and a half months sober.
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strong mood swings at 3 and a half months sober.
I took the extreme mood swings of early sobriety as normal because I had experienced them so often before but I have never been sober this long before and am shocked at the strength of the feelings I get sometimes.
I get hit by really strong despair suddenly for no reason, on average my moods are good and this depression/despair can hit in the best of moods.
I have to fight it hard because if I let the feeling carry on it could drag me under but it is very draining.
I hope its 'normal'.
I get hit by really strong despair suddenly for no reason, on average my moods are good and this depression/despair can hit in the best of moods.
I have to fight it hard because if I let the feeling carry on it could drag me under but it is very draining.
I hope its 'normal'.
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Stone I have over a year and am beginning to think that maybe the mood swings are part of being normal again! LOL My wife is not an alkie and she goes through some savage mood swings!!!
For me the bad swings seem to get shorter with time, usually not as deep & they seem to get further apart, but not all the time. It seems to be part of life, drunk or sober. I have always found a meeting to be helpful when down or calling up some one else in the program.
One thing that is sure to make one feel better with thier lot in life is to watch the news...... hell we could be living in Iraq or Afghanistan, those folks have it rough, they make my problems seem very small in comparison to thier day to day life.
For me the bad swings seem to get shorter with time, usually not as deep & they seem to get further apart, but not all the time. It seems to be part of life, drunk or sober. I have always found a meeting to be helpful when down or calling up some one else in the program.
One thing that is sure to make one feel better with thier lot in life is to watch the news...... hell we could be living in Iraq or Afghanistan, those folks have it rough, they make my problems seem very small in comparison to thier day to day life.
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Congrats on your 3 months Stone.
I know you tried very, very hard to get sober.
Somedays are better than others.
Yeap the depression attacks gets few and further apart,
but when you're in one it dosn't seem like it.
Yeap that's why i suffer from depression...no particular
reason for me to get depressed.
Okay just remember what it felt like when you have to rip
the IV out of your arms when you where trying to detox..
That was depressing and crazy.
Okay just remember what it felt like to detox...that was hairy.lol
I might have another drunk in me, but i don't think I have and another detox in me.
So that's why I don't pick up no matter what..lol
You know how some people say my worst days sober are
better than my best days drunk....I don't feel like that sometimes,
but i work it.lol
I hope you feel better soon.
maybe do another 90 in 90 to get a second win to help persevear.
That's all I do...just a bunch of 90s in 90s stringed together.
I know you tried very, very hard to get sober.
Somedays are better than others.
Yeap the depression attacks gets few and further apart,
but when you're in one it dosn't seem like it.
Yeap that's why i suffer from depression...no particular
reason for me to get depressed.
Okay just remember what it felt like when you have to rip
the IV out of your arms when you where trying to detox..
That was depressing and crazy.
Okay just remember what it felt like to detox...that was hairy.lol
I might have another drunk in me, but i don't think I have and another detox in me.
So that's why I don't pick up no matter what..lol
You know how some people say my worst days sober are
better than my best days drunk....I don't feel like that sometimes,
but i work it.lol
I hope you feel better soon.
maybe do another 90 in 90 to get a second win to help persevear.
That's all I do...just a bunch of 90s in 90s stringed together.
Last edited by SaTiT; 10-17-2007 at 04:38 AM.
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Odie, I hope you feel better soon and keep talking to you Doc. 
LOL, youre right Ted.
Yep, could be my 'normal' state.
Also true!
Krust and Octo-yea, par for the course innit.
Feeling better about things now.
Originally Posted by GrouchoTheCat 
PAWS dude, PAWS!
Originally Posted by Tazman53
maybe the mood swings are part of being normal again!
Originally Posted by SaTiT
Yeap the depression attacks gets few and further apart,
but when you're in one it dosn't seem like it.
Yeap that's why i suffer from depression...no particular
reason for me to get depressed.
but when you're in one it dosn't seem like it.
Yeap that's why i suffer from depression...no particular
reason for me to get depressed.
Krust and Octo-yea, par for the course innit.
Feeling better about things now.
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Stay Busy!
I am fairly new to all this, but one thing I do know is to try to stay busy as you can! Think of a hobbey to start and of course attend as many meetings as possible. Have a great day and try to appreciate what you have in life!
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Hi friend,
I can so relate to mood swings...They can be so intense that I become fearful and I want to hide somewhere and just be alone...You and I know that is not the answer...Isolation can be deadly in recovery...
Thinking of you....:ghug3
I can so relate to mood swings...They can be so intense that I become fearful and I want to hide somewhere and just be alone...You and I know that is not the answer...Isolation can be deadly in recovery...
Thinking of you....:ghug3
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You're right where your supposed to be.....
You've changed your life. Your body is adjusting. Your mind is adjusting. Your experiencing feelings now, instead of numbness.
Give it some time, continue to work your program. It gets better.
You've changed your life. Your body is adjusting. Your mind is adjusting. Your experiencing feelings now, instead of numbness.
Give it some time, continue to work your program. It gets better.
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I understand...Yesterday in the beginning of a bigbook meeting i felt completely disgusted with life, i have nothing really to complain about because more than what i need and im really doing the best independently i have ever done in my life other than the depressing way i feel for no reason at all for intervals. its at those times that i want to relapse and even start to consider that im not a addict/alche because i can get high or drunk for a couple hours one day without getting a compulsion for more and then go on hanling my business.
I've even had psychia-pyschologists tell me that im not an addict and only have some other issues that i need to work on.
After the meeting i did feel better but annoyed at the bigbook thumper who led the meeting's opinions and views on there's only 1 right way to get a spiritual awakening...
i dont know, i just get pissed off and critical for no reason and at times i want the quick relief of illegal substances but the brainwashing effect (in a good way for the most part) has loaded more guilt into my consience about using.
I still desire to stay clean and sober today.
I've even had psychia-pyschologists tell me that im not an addict and only have some other issues that i need to work on.
After the meeting i did feel better but annoyed at the bigbook thumper who led the meeting's opinions and views on there's only 1 right way to get a spiritual awakening...
i dont know, i just get pissed off and critical for no reason and at times i want the quick relief of illegal substances but the brainwashing effect (in a good way for the most part) has loaded more guilt into my consience about using.
I still desire to stay clean and sober today.
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Stone my friend, you should have been at the meeting I was at last night!!!!
Man grab a pen and paper!!!!
Got it?
Write your self a gratitude list!!!!
Put down everything you have today, think about how many of them you have as a result of not drinking and how many you would not have if you were!!!!
Do it NOW!!!!!
That meeting was great last night, I shared that I was grateful yesterday for the twins getting home from school in a pissy mood. Yep, if I had not quit drinking I would have missed them telling me later on that they loved me!
Man grab a pen and paper!!!!
Got it?
Write your self a gratitude list!!!!
Put down everything you have today, think about how many of them you have as a result of not drinking and how many you would not have if you were!!!!
Do it NOW!!!!!
That meeting was great last night, I shared that I was grateful yesterday for the twins getting home from school in a pissy mood. Yep, if I had not quit drinking I would have missed them telling me later on that they loved me!
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The biggest rollercoaster ride of my life was in the 2ND year of sobriety. A fellow with 36 years once told me that our 1ST year is one filled with stuggle and seasoned with hope. The 2ND year is when we get to know that person who we have been trying to drown during our drinking years and now that person is back and they have some issues with us!!
Mood swings provide the spice and variety of our lives. The only ones who don't have them are looking at the wrong side of the grass!!
Hang in there, we need to enjoy this new life we are working so hard to attain.
Jon
Mood swings provide the spice and variety of our lives. The only ones who don't have them are looking at the wrong side of the grass!!
Hang in there, we need to enjoy this new life we are working so hard to attain.
Jon
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Stoney I agree with Glass on this and others...that say it is "Feelings" they are without being numb-this is an awesome thing just pretty raw to you at the moment!
This too shall pass!
Love ya Stoney your doing great very proud of you!!
P.S. Here for your mood swings you can always hit me
love ya that much Stoney!
This too shall pass!
Love ya Stoney your doing great very proud of you!!
P.S. Here for your mood swings you can always hit me
love ya that much Stoney!
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Hey Stone. Here's a big hug for ya. :ghug3
I agree with a bunch of them on here. When you feel real depressed go to a meeting. Write a Gratitude list. I write one thing everyday on my list. I have 24 things on my list. Unbelievable. Also pray if you can.
Barb
I agree with a bunch of them on here. When you feel real depressed go to a meeting. Write a Gratitude list. I write one thing everyday on my list. I have 24 things on my list. Unbelievable. Also pray if you can.
Barb
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I agree with the others here as well. You get sober and you start to "feel" again. Some times, for the first time in a long time. Good things and bad things.
That said, if it continues and you feel depressed a lot I think you should see a doc. May be you already are, I don't recall. I just know that the meds I've been on have really started to change my life. I think I'm happier than I've ever been.
That said, if it continues and you feel depressed a lot I think you should see a doc. May be you already are, I don't recall. I just know that the meds I've been on have really started to change my life. I think I'm happier than I've ever been.
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