aasharon90

Hi Im Sharon and Im An Alcoholic.

By the Grace of my HP and people
like you here in SR I havent found
it necessary to take a drink since
8-11-90.

For that and you I am truely grateful.


Have you ever had someone or
something in ur life whether it be
either in ur family, ur job, an aquaintance
that absolutely pushes your buttons,
ticks you off or ruffles ur recovery
and serenity feathers?

This has certainly been happening to
me at my job lately. And believe
me it has made me stressed and
uncomfortable in my own skin.

There is an old kojjer or old fart that
is a pain in the u know what at my job
....He has been given the authority to
control all of us employees that work
the front end of the bakery....the
customer service dept.

To make a long story short....ive
tried to be nice to this person and
it didnt work....ive tried to ecnore him
and it didnt work....i tried to play
the poor me card and it didnt work...

My alcoholic mind makes me think
that this SOB is out to get me fired.

I am 40 something yrs old....and ill
leave it at that....lol and i am very
responsible. No need to TELL me what
to do....However i do have issues
with people doing that to me and thus
i cop and attitude which this old fart
told me needs adjusting....$%#@$%&
A few choice word there....lol

And so there is friction between us....

So .....today im grateful for my
recovery program and the
knowledge and wisdom I have
been so frrely given.....to use
as a tool in helping me cope
with this trying situation.

Last week i prayed and i thought
and i came up with this observation....

Each and every time i say something
negative about this old fart....or any
one else....then im questioning my
HP's handy work.

Isnt Aceptance of people, places
and things one of our important
steps we take in recovery? You
betcha....

And soooo i am accepting that
this old kojjer is just how he is
suppose to be ....and it doesnt
matter if i like it or not....

Acceptance is the key to my serenity...
my peace of mind....and thus
allows me to stay sober one
more day.

Thanks for letting me share.

Jfanagle

Sometimes we fail to see the "fear" that drives those around us who are as you so delicately put it, "an old kojjer or old fart that is a pain in the u know what...."

It has been my experience that almost all overbearing and controlling people do so because they are afraid that they will be "found out" as really not having any self assurance, so they make up for it by being bossy, over controlling and just downright obnoxious! I believe (my opinion only), that once we are able to view them with some sympathy about this hidden inferiority, it actually starts to, at the very least color our behavior towards them and they seem to sense this. I don't think that it will make you best friends with the SOB, but it just may go a long way toward a somewhat more peaceful environment for you as a co-worker.

We are not door mats, we don't need to be more that just people who try our best and act with understanding and sympathy towards those unfortunates who we encounter day in and day out. I doubt being an alcoholic really has any bearing on your frustration except that you know enough to be watchful for your actions.

Possibly approach him, IN YOUR THOUGHTS AND ACTIONS with some sympathy for his fears. If that doesn't work push his head into the bread dough and hold it down.

Jon

Justme57

So .....today im grateful for my
recovery program and the
knowledge and wisdom I have
been so frrely given.....to use
as a tool in helping me cope
with this trying situation.


How very true is this Sharon,
I too have a thorn in the side at work, she is a real PIA! i used to plan my revenge when I was drinking LOL

Now I use "how important is it " A LOT!

HUGX
Leigh

aasharon90

Thank u guys for sharing, making me laugh
and most of all something to think about....

This man is incharge of making the schedule
out for us as well.......And sooooo I was hired
as a full time employee 40 hrs a week.....

This Jack A** decides to take 2 hours away
from me this week.... WHY??????? The SOB...lol

Sooooo i bring it to one of the owners sons
attention and thus leave it like that till today....

I am advised to go to the Jack A** and talk
to him about it....soooo before doing that
i cornered the owner in the office and shared
with him about it....confirming from him that
all his full time help are to work 40 hrs....Then
the SOB walks in and hears what has to go down.....

Around noon all the owners head out to eat and
break from the bakery....this gives the SOB the
opportunity to call me aside and lecture me on
if i have any problems with my schedule that i
need to go to him first and not the owners......hmmmm

After reading the above share... it made me think
about how this man really must be.....he didnt
want to confront me in front of the owners what
he really wanted to tell me.....so he showed his
authority to me behind their backs....

Jack A**....

I said ok smiled and walked away like as if it
were no big deal.....

And now i should go to work tomorrow and feel
sorry for the SOB and pray for him....right?

WHEW..!

Let Go And Let God....right?

Justme57

RIGHT! LOL

HUGX
leigh

kelsh

I totally agree with you Sharon. I had a person like that for a Supervisor...I tried being nice...giving the benefit of the doubt....then I started writing down the hostile occurances and date/time then next was filing a grievance. Nothing really worked because he had what the bosses needed...an arm load of degrees and I only had one.

I finally had to quit due to my depression and arthritis at my doc's suggestion. I got to the point where I yelled back at him when he confronted me in front of co-workers. That was when I really evaluated what was working for me and what I needed to do. I was 60 years old and wanted to work five more years but my health and sanity and sobriety were much more important. 6

It worked out in the long run because I filed a lawsuit for hostile working conditiions and won a big settlement. He eventually got fired for doing what he did to me to someone else.


kelsh

SaTiT

did he told you to keep an openmind to ?

talk to him, if dosn't agree with youm then talk to the owner.
Tell him you need the hours and that 2 hours makes a big differnt.
or better yet the hell with the hours...just give you a raise to make up
the differents.

I don't know I'm not afraid to go directly to the top...it's from habits
of going directly to a HP.lol

I don't know..that's why i work directly under owners in most of my
job. I get people with titles all de time trying to excert thier so call
power...newbies..lol. Things they don't know...hurts them..lmao.

i don't mind working for people, it releaves me of the responsiblities.
I'm tired of making decision..but whoever is in charge better get their
act together..becuase when the shiet hits the fan...I'm not responsible.
I do what i'm told was thw damn managers have no excusses...but
you know, they always wanna blame it on the injains.
In other words...i give plenty of rope.lol

You would think the guy would figure it out..working at a barkery.
honey attracts more bees. I mean happy employess, are more productive.
managing machines or equipment is one, managing people is another.
A manager from my experince... bascailly manage people. Bascailly i was
a big ass filter for all my helpers when the shiet hits the fan, i go behind
close doors for reason. I'm tone def in one ear but that dosen't help .lol
i have my boss flip his desk before becuase he was t-off becuase something
went wrong, but he can't do that in front of everybody, can he...