Fitzpatrick

My drinking has been a problem in my marriage for years. It's affected just about every aspect of the relationship.

Yesterday was my second day of not drinking. My wife asked me why I decided to stop. I told her it was because I wanted our marriage back, I wanted to get my career back, and I wanted to be able to focus on my ailing parents.

With a big smile, she said, "I'm so proud of you."

Man, that felt good!

rloomer

Sounds like things are working in your favor.

WTG man

Anna

I am so glad that you have the support of your wife!

MyGraySkies

That is awesome! Talk about something to think on when you're struggling. Congrats on day 3!

Pinkcuda

The calm before the storm. Things will change in your household. They will change for the better, but humans are resistant to change. Your Wife is no exception. Early in sobriety there were several times when my wife said she liked me better when I was drinking. Reason being was that she knew how to deal with me. She had something to blame my behavior on. I wasn't perfect. That's what she expected. I was no longer allowed to be anything but stable. I wasn't allowed to have good days and bad days, I wasn't allowed to be angry, sad, grouchy, irritable, etc... I really tossed a wrench into the machine when i quit. This is pretty common and don't take it seriously if your wife says it too. It will pass.

Snopup

I'm want our marriage back too. I'm working very hard to do that. We're going to counseling together which is a huge help in understanding each other and learning to communicate. It will take some time for me to have her trust me again. But I'm going in the right direction.

angie9

awesome way to go!!
congrats on making the desision its gonna be a hard road but worth it
oh I do love those hangover free mornings :0)
Ang

miss communicat

So happy to hear this! Way to go!

mike_mass

I'm proud of you too.

Hevyn

And hold on to each other tight - if you truly love each other you can rise above this demon. My husband passed away 2 yrs. ago - back when we were happily married drinking buddies no one took the helm - we enabled each other. It is ludicrous that he lies in his grave and his son and I are without him, all because of a substance!! He'd been drinking since he was 15 & the disease finally did it's work. This never has to happen to you. Sending prayers your way!

nogard

Hey FP Welcome to SR and I am proud of you too

Welcome to the a life and a world of joy and purpose

Kevin

dave47

Well done for making the big decision Fitzpatrick.Make sure when you are struggling you don't forget what you said to your wife,or her to you.All the best mate.

indigo

Wow I bet that made you feel good.

parentrecovers

your wife sounds like a terrific lady. be grateful. AND PROUD!!!!!!

k