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Hi I'm Sarah and I'm certain I'm an alcoholic. I think this is the first time I've ever admitted to it, and it feels strangely good. I want to quit, as I know I'm ruining my life. I'd like to go to AA, but I'm scared. So much of my life revolves around drinking, I feel like I won't have any fun anymore. I know this probably isn't true. I'm going through a divorce (at 25, after 5 years of marriage) I have no (non-drinking) friends and I feel like my life is slowly getting sucked down a drain. I want to stop, but I also don't. I feel like I won't have any fun if I quit. I'm pretty much not having any fun now, so I guess there is nothing to lose. I am unhappy and I want to change. Sobreity seems awful to me.

Hi Sarah.

Welcome to SR.

You have taken a huge step towards recovering from the compulsion to drink. Congratulations!! And you are not alone. We all understand how you are feeling.

Keep reading and posting.

BTW we find it helps if we think about sobriety just for today.

Yes, as Pilgrim says, you have taken the first step on a new path. I am about to crash, 5am here so I will keep it short and copy and paste a message I gave earlier that fits for you to.

"I am going to say something that you may have a hard time accepting, but this is a blessing in disguise. You have a chance for a new life that is deeper and richer then you can imagine right now. A chance to discover yourself and to live a life that was meant for you. To be all you can be, to give back and have a purpose driven life. To discover your passions, desires and dreams. To go after those dreams with a conviction stronger then you ever felt. To be blessed and Blessed again. To have your cup overfilled. To have peace, joy and a sense of well being.
To find confidence and to make connections with people that are heart felt. To love and be loved. To live a life that was truly lived.
You can do it, one day at a time.
Doesn't sound that boring does it "

I wish I had the energy to say something more personal to you right now, but all I can say is your not alone and recovery is worth it.
The worst is over, if you want it.

G'night
The Dopeless Hope Fiend

Hi there,

You're going through a lot of stress at the moment with the divorce and you are bound to feel stressed. When we start getting the "I want to stop/don't want to stop" to me was a recognition that I knew I needed to stop. Being sober/clean is so much better, helps us solves problems better. Everyone I know, knows I no longer drink or use I have told them why, some people I've lost (so they were not my true friends) and some have stopped too. I have made new friends and I don't feel bad the day after!!!! very beneficial!!! You can have more fun sober than you can drunk and you can remember what a good time you had the night before too, so you get to relive the good time over lol. Keep posting it's good to have you here.

It may not seem like it right now, but sobriety is really wonderful and exciting.

You would be amazed at the great people in sobriety and in AA that are there to help you, support you, and help you to grow and discover yourself.

Many of us, me included, lost ourselves in the bottle, I mean really lost ourselves.

I spent years asleep to the world, existing in my little cocoon of an alcoholic haze, shutting out the world.

You've got one whole great big world out there just waiting for you to discover it!

Welcome to SR,

Ted

welcome sarah...

to keep it simple (no time this morning lol)

your young, and have most of your life ahead...

25 years of age is the age we should start to grow up...

i waited to age 48...

you can spare yourself, and others years of misery by recovery, and starting to grow up now!!!

it is so doable!

wish'n ya the all best sarah

xxoo, zip

Hi Sarah - Welcome to SR - I have found great friends and support in the short time I have been here (sober since 8/13/07). I, too, had all kinds of concern about what life would be like without drinking - mine were more anxiety related than "no fun" related, but still the same thought pattern of "what will I do without drinking?" I can not even begin to describe how much better I feel in the 30-some days that I have been sober...there have been hurdles to cross, and everyone here has helped me. I am going to AA, but I am still more comfortable sharing here, so I hope you will stay with us and be another friend. Take care.

Hi Sarah
Welcome to SR and well done in making the step to get sober. I am in early recovery myself so I really can relate to the feelings you describe of "what do I do now?". All i can say is that if you were anything like me social events had ceased to be about socialising and all about getting drunk. Add to that all the solo drinking at home or in bars when no-body was available to join me and I figure there werent really that many good times left to give up!

Good luck. let us know how you are doing. You'l lfind a lot of good advice and support here :)

Hi Sarah,

Welcome!

It's normal to have mixed feelings about stopping drinking and to be scared. I think most of us have gone through that. I hope you do what you need to in order to stop drinking and to turn your life around.

Welcome to our recovery community, Sarah.

Hi and Welcome!
:)
You too can find a healthy productive sober future.
And Yes! I found mine in AA.

Blessings

Hi Sarah...Glad you are here..Hope to see more of you.
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nice to meet you, sarah. sounds like you are ready to make some real positive changes in your life, so good for you!

keep posting, and blessings, k

Welcome to Sr...
 

Hi Sarah,


So glad you found us...

Keep posting...

So many occasions ran through my mind when I quit and wondered how they could be fun without drinking......
well i made it through a year of them and I remember them, their not fuzzy or embarresing moments their genuine memories.
I wasnt hungover at my daughters first soccer game or my other daughters horse shows or softball games,
I didnt embarres myself at my husbands softball games like so many others who were drinking did.
Friday night I went out to a movie with the girls, after the movie I went home and snuggled with hubby and watched the FSU game,
all the girls went out to the bar to play pool....i could of went I could of drank pop or water but i dont want to go out to a bar....and over a year ago i would have never turned down a chance to go to the bar and make a a$$ of myself...lol

I geuss what i am trying to say is that when we quit drinking we have to relearn how to live and it isnt easy at first but after awhile it becomes natural.

All but 1 of my friends drink, but unlike me they are social drinkers......something i never was, they can go out on the weekend and have fun and drink and then not drink again for a month or so, i cant do that i can never drink again and they all know this and respect me for it and are supportive, they still invite me everytime and most of the time i will decline and offer to watch their kids and let them know i am only a phone call away when they need a ride!

Like Rusty said you have age on your side.....learn to live now so you arent just exsisting in 10 years!

Sarah, I'm 26 and can totally relate to the fun thing. There will be more fun, but it will be real fun, fufilling fun that comes with no shame. I didn't have any non-drinking friends, and still don't have that many, but I'm pretty new to this as well. I'm trying to make new friends. My church is helping with that. PM me if u would like. Good luck to ya.

Don't forget to keep posting Sarah. How are you doing today??

I'm new too, must say it's good to see so many people who know what it's like having this illness. Stick at it and let us know how you're getting on. Remember at the tough part, there is somebody else at the same part. Today is my tough part (again :().