Are we a nautally "addictive" lot...
 

dont know if I worded that very well what I mean is I love booze have a problem and Im trying but Ive just finished my 6 cup of coffee and its still int he morning! Do some people just not have a switch in them? I find I act first before thinking a good example is Im wanting to get another parrot ( well cokateil) and I picked up my holiday pay and looking at spending it allready. What im trying to explain is I seem to allways want a quick "fix" for a feel good feeling reather than waiting and Im just comparing it with my alcohol habbits? sorry for waffling on coffee number seven now..

I have heard it said, and can attest to the truth of this:

I am addicted to MORE.

More booze, more coffee, more cat-toys (I have very happy cats), more shopping, just more anything.

I know many who struggle with this and seeing it for what it is, is the first step to overcoming it!

It gets better,

Ted

I that your cat hes loverly :0) we have two plus assortment of other beasties looking at getting a wee lamb to raise..not for the pot!! as a lawn mower

yeah..we suffer from the instant (gradification) insanity symdrom.

That's why the 12steps is hard..lol
it dosn't happen over night.

it gose hand in hand with being ungateful.

not to get all moral on ya..
I read on literature about an alki/addict brain orthe human brain in general.
Some people lable a part of a brain as the EGO...don't miss inturprate it...oki doki.
it's the part of the brain that controls our basic survival instink.
Most alki/addict ego brain constantly need to be stimulate, more than an average person.
Makesense when i always want more and more and nothing is ever good enough.
or I constantly need to be stimulate, but the tolerance level gose up so
i do more and more and take everything to the extreem.
Some would term a certain stage of it as obessesive, complusive.
If i'm being judge by judgemental people..they would simply term me
as a ungreatful person. Which leaves me with a negative attitude or
disconnected even more.

Healing starts when i talk to another alki that can relate to me.
As you know. You reconized these behavior patterns for sometime or
a long time ago. There's shameful feeling about it from knowing it and
not being able to control it. it feeds into the cycle of isolation even more.
So we tried to cover our tracks or try to live a normal routine life, but
the monster always show's it ugly head eventaully.
The theraputic vaule of one addict helping another, listening or understaning
another. I know what you mean...I live with that too.
it helps me out of that isolation feeling.

AA discribe it as instinc gone hay wire.

AA also say
" I'm a sick person trying to get well, not a bad person trying to get good".
it dosn't solve all of my problems but it's a start.
i don't feel if thou people are pouring salt into my wounds. At the every least
I'll reach out for hope

lol. I think we are naturally addictive yeah Ang - the trick is to focus ourselves on good addictions I think...like animals :)

oh...and not to use the fact that we are 'that way' as an excuse...we all know what's right, and what's best for us :)

D

Yes, I do believe we are. I am.

If one of something works, then why not have two or three. I've been like that all of my life.

Being aware is a good place to start because then you can pay attention to your actions.

I always want things right away.

For instance, I've been having headaches and decided I had better get my eyes tested. All through my meeting on Saturday, I heard not a single thing that was shared, because in my head I was going to have an eye exam and brand new glasses by that afternoon. I called the eye doc and was floored that they didn't have any appointments until the following week!! I want what I want - and I want it now.

I waited until today for the eye exam - and I'll get the specs on Friday. I'll live ;)

Oh, you're not in such bad shape! I want what I want - and I want it yesterday.

Aw, what the heck, folks! Whatever we are, we've got lots of company.

My sponsor in AA with 34 years under his belt tells me that we are born without "copers", those being what civilians are born with. That is the ability to "cope" with life on its own terms. As was said earlier, more is better for us. When I have been asked what my favorite drink was I have had to reply, "The NEXT one!"

I don't know if I was born with a "coper" or not, but the explanation made as much sense as any other.

Jon