IO Storm

My ex husband hit me with a court date the day after my second rehab...

I felt so guilty, ashamed and unworthy I signed half custody..(physical

and legal) over to him..it broke my heart and my son's..

i had to honestly face the fact I wasn't ready to stop..but when I did..

I learned the paper I signed wasn't even legal and would have been

laughed out of court if I had the backbone 5 years before!

The trick is..Steph..to get sober and go to court..but you must be sober

and not have any abusive person near your kids or you won't have much of

a leg to stand on...to put it one way..get some strong legs then get your

kids back..one must precede the other. Wishing will not make it happen.

Love ya Steph..

Sherry

IO Storm

One more thing...

I did that..stayed sober and got my feet on solid ground...my boy wanted only

to live with Mama...

And ex threw everything in my face he could muster. I ranted and raved and

caved in..

My then sponsor and best friend in AA told me straight up...

"Sherry..get on your knees and ask God for the very highest good for

your son..and for you.."...but first know that you are willing to accept

the outcome..no matter what.

I wrestled with it for a day or two and realized God would do the right thing...

much better than I had done so far...

My ex had left the country on an extended business trip out of the

country for 6 months..my lawyer wrote one little letter...hey..I was the only

custodial parent in the country..

My boy's step mom didn't think Chris was worth a fight..and threw all his

belongings in a Hefty Cinch Sack..and deposited him on my doorstep.

He never went back...

Wow...

Prayer works Steph..

Love,

Sher

angie9

((((hugs )))) steph you fight for your babies they belong with you Im sorry I wish I could say more nimspirational thnibgs to you but its 7am and miss 19 month had a bad night last night. Ill be thinking of you and yeah I think I know what you mean about being a human being. Im getting councilling which is helping but Ive never really known how to act either ( you dont get instruction manuels lol) take care
Ang

Pilgrim

Thanks for all this great advice. IO - I am praying hard hun. God gave me a life and I have to lead it. I can't always bow out and wait for Him to make me dinner. I don't think I am God-like and I know I might make mistakes. I ask for him to come into my life and show me what to do but for the first time in ages, I feel like I am taking some much needed action. I don't know if it is my will or His. How do we know? I ask daily that He will show me.

I love the Mumpower thing. Something happened 13 years ago that seriously interfered with that. I am hoping that doing step 4 is repairing the breakage.

Dee74

Go Mumpower !!!

D

Pilgrim

Morning Dee!!! Plans?

Dee74

plans ? Just hanging about the house
nice day

have a good one Steph
D

oh...and keeping the pact

Jules62

Hey Steph,

I was just catching up on this thread and it seems you've gotten some great advice already.While I was reading through I was reminded of the words from a song I love that seems to fit....

'For the sake of never making waves
I kept my secrets to myself
And no one ever really knew the darker shadows of my heart.
But I will be a witness that there's nothing in me dark enough
The power of forgiveness cannot rescue from the deep'

I am finding now that shutting up in order to 'keep the peace' has created a lot of anger inside me-and I'm slowly beginning to speak out more about the things that really do matter to me.But it's a process and I'm only really just beginning as well.It takes courage to change a pattern of a lifetime.I am really glad you are feeling able to make decisions for yourself to improve your life and just wanted to say I'm thinking of you today,

Much love, Julesxox

IO Storm

Thanks for all this great advice. IO - I am praying hard hun. God gave me a life and I have to lead it. I can't always bow out and wait for Him to make me dinner. I don't think I am God-like and I know I might make mistakes. I ask for him to come into my life and show me what to do but for the first time in ages, I feel like I am taking some much needed action. I don't know if it is my will or His. How do we know? I ask daily that He will show me.
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Pilgrim


Aww Steph..that brought a tear to my eyes...

God'll undertake for you...just watch.. and don't give up...

He's not going to let you down...

Love ya..



Sherry

calabash

Hi Steph,

Miracles do happen once we start with the basic of keeping sober. Top of my gratitude list is that I can feel again. That I can feel again....... amasing.

But with that comes a call to action.

Just keep doing what you doing.
Keep feeling, and learn to trust those feelings again.

Pilgrim

Hi again my freinds.

Hi Dee. Shhh. I thought you were mysterious!! Now everyone will want to know.

Hi Sherry. It's been a big day. Did step 4 to 7. This is very new and strange territory. Nice but there is this little part of me still thinking that it can't be this easy.

Hi Jules. Those words are wonderful. I don't think you are in AA but I will tell you anyhow. I did a list today - got some of those secrets out in the open. I feel very tired but quite different and calm. Lighter. Your words couldn't be more appropriate. xxxx

Hi today Cala. Actually today is nearly over. I haven't taken any further steps today. I just spent most of the day making the house nicer. I even got out my power drill and did some home maintenance. It's very satisfying. I have some other actions to take soon.

I remember getting the feelings back. I drank again soon after. Hehe. Mine were a bit overpowering and I didn't have any tools to cope. You are right though. Not being able to feel is no way to live.

Alla? Hugs.

Dee74

see ? now *you* can be mysterious too

heehee
see you tomorrow Steph
D.

stone

Hi Steph!


Just a quick post before my PC crashes again! I am so happy you are feeling better, remember.... just go with it!

..and what secrets? How can I, as the centre of the universe, be in the dark about this! HUH!?