NOMOMERLOTMAMMA

Good morning.

I think so. I have to drink more coffee though. Finally fell asleep round 3:30. I have that woman's meeting tonight..I'm praying for a sponsor!

Karen

Rowan

Hi Karen,

I'm glad you didn't drink, and that you're going to a meeting tonight. Make sure you share how you are feeling.

Rowan

Astro

Rejection like that gets me all the time. But yeah, it's nothing to drink over and I try to remember that it's not about me, then I work at refocusing on my recovery.

This meditation always helps me out-

Moving On

Learn the art of acceptance. It's a lot of grief.
--Codependent No More

Sometimes, as part of taking care of ourselves, it becomes time to end certain relationships. Sometimes, it comes time to change the parameters of a particular relationship.

This is true in love, in friendships, with family, and on the job.

Endings and changes in relationships are not easy. But often, they are necessary.

Sometimes, we linger in relationships that are dead, out of fear of being alone or to postpone the inevitable grieving process that accompanies endings. Sometimes, we need to linger for a while, to prepare ourselves, to get strong and ready enough to handle the change.

If that is what we are doing, we can be gentle with ourselves. It is better to wait until that moment when it feels solid, clear, and consistent to act.

We will know. We will know. We can trust ourselves.

Knowing that a relationship is changing or is about to end is a difficult place to be in, especially when it is not yet time to act but we know the time is drawing near. It can be awkward and uncomfortable, as the lesson draws to a close. We may become impatient to put closure on it, but not yet feel empowered to do that. That's okay. The time is not yet right. Something important is still happening. When the time is right, we can trust that it will happen. We will receive the power and the ability to do what we need to do.

Ending relationships or changing the boundaries of a particular relationship is not easy. It requires courage and faith. It requires a willingness on our part to take care of ourselves and, sometimes, to stand-alone for a while.

Let go of fear. Understand that change is an important part of recovery. Love yourself enough to do what you need to do to take care of yourself, and find enough confidence to believe that you will love again.

We are never starting over. In recovery, we are moving forward in a perfectly planned progression of lessons. We will find ourselves with certain people - in love, family, friendships, and work - when we need to be with them. When the lesson has been mastered, we will move on. We will find ourselves in a new place, learning new lessons, with new people.

No, the lessons are not all painful. We will arrive at that place where we can learn, not from pain, but from joy and love.

Our needs will get met.

Today, I will accept where I am in my relationships, even if that place is awkward and uncomfortable. If I am in the midst of endings, I will face and accept my grief. God, help me trust that the path I am on has been perfectly and lovingly planned for me. Help me believe that my relationships are teaching me important lessons. Help me accept and be grateful for middles, endings, and new beginnings.


From The Language of Letting Go by Melody Beattie ©1990, Hazelden Foundation.

Fluttering

thank Goodness the light is on 24/7.

So grateful for that.

Send a pm or an email anytime..was really good chatting with you..
I needed that very much!!!

hugs and warm thoughtsd

you will remain in my p[rayers.
ALLOW YOURSELF TO BE WHERE YOU ARE!!! jUST BE!! And remember to breathe...slow deep long breaths occasionally is always a good way to "Pause when agitated or doubtful...and ask for the right direction or right action"

NOMOMERLOTMAMMA

Thanks everybody... :-)

NOMOMERLOTMAMMA

Boy, thank you very much for that! I really needed it...

Karen

longingforpeace

Just wanted to chime in that I'm glad you didn't drink.Sending you good thoughts.

SaTiT

good god , you all...that use to drive me off the wall.
I didn't really understand or grasph it, at first.
What do you mean, I'm exactly suppost to be where i'm suppost to be ?..lol

I go to my sponsor with all kinds of problems..then he'll tell me to go
wash my car and buff the wheels then read page 449 ...what da ???

how are you doing today, Merlot

NOMOMERLOTMAMMA

I'm ok. The things that continue to happen today are really getting to me. Just found out that next week, instead of going on vacation (which we had to cancel cause we have no money for vacation)I get to stay home and watch 6 kids! My partner has the op to work, and we need the money, but her kids are flipping needy and the prospect just doesn't sound great right now.

I just have to hang in there till the meeting tonight at 7:30.

GlassPrisoner

Hang in there.

And remember, you could have no home and no kids......

My last "vacation" wasn't voluntary.

NOMOMERLOTMAMMA

Thanks Glass...lil kick in the butt there as needed :-)

Rusty Zipper

MM right in the pocket mamma... a thumbs up!

a little tip, dont buy a ticket...
xxoo, rz

NOMOMERLOTMAMMA

Hey Rusty,

Can't say I came up with it..George Carlin I think.

Fluttering

Hey Madam Merlo

It really is all about you right now!!! Enjoy it while you can 'cuz it ain't gonna last!!!
[LOL]

NOMOMERLOTMAMMA

Ha ha! :-)

Want2BGreat

How are you doing today, MM? LOVE that quote, it is hillarious, and fitting for me too!

NOMOMERLOTMAMMA

I'm doing much better today. I asked Carol Anne to be my sponsor last night. I shared as well. Of course my face was all red when I was done, but I did it.Then instead of staying on the puter last night, I hopped into bed early and actually got a good nights sleep.

Thanks to everyone here the last few days. You guys got me through..especially Alla..

xoxo

Karen

Rusty Zipper

heres a light for ya MM 24 & 7

stone

Hi MM, youre doing real good!

NOMOMERLOTMAMMA

Hey Stone,

So are you!!! :-)