new and scared
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Join Date: Oct 2006
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new and scared
Hi Everyone. Im really glad i found this site. I finally admitted to myself the other day, that i cant drink anymore. I cant contiune on this path. Im 25 and have 3 dwi's. Im ruining my life. Im so depressed. I just want to sleep.. I have such anxiety, to the point where it is making me sick. I feel i have no one to talk to except my family. My family is my world! I dont know what i would do without them. They understand whats going on because they had to deal with my brother, who is an alchoholic(almost 6 years sober. I think its the fact that i admitted i cant drink and thats why i feel so depressed. Im scared for what is to come and the struggles i will have. I have never went without a drink for more than a few weeks. Not sure what to expect or how to deal. I feel i dont know the real me! ive been hinding behind alchohol. It has been in my life since i was 16.. Hard to picture life without it.
everything is already ok
Join Date: May 2005
Location: Melbourne Victoria Australia
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hi Kate and welcome to SR 
have look around at the stickies at the top of each forum and at the info in general. Any questions just ask away
I used to live from a position of total fear. These days much of my life is lived from a position of love.
Kevin
have look around at the stickies at the top of each forum and at the info in general. Any questions just ask away I used to live from a position of total fear. These days much of my life is lived from a position of love.
Kevin
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Hi Kate,
Welcome!
It is very scary to admit that you're an alcoholic and accept everything that goes along with that. I had no idea how I would get through life without alcohol and didn't ever imagine that I'd be happy. My self-esteem was so, so low. You will find lots of support here and information too, so keep reading and posting.
Welcome!
It is very scary to admit that you're an alcoholic and accept everything that goes along with that. I had no idea how I would get through life without alcohol and didn't ever imagine that I'd be happy. My self-esteem was so, so low. You will find lots of support here and information too, so keep reading and posting.
Raised from the Dead
Join Date: Oct 2006
Location: Chicago
Posts: 376
awww we were all alone and scared too. like you i got sober when i was 25. yes at first it is scary and lonely but i found it to be the most incredible experience of my life! go to a meeting and let them know its your first one. they will take it from there with offering a solution (solution consists of getting a sponser and making meetings). the great thing about AA is we dont have to commit to anything except staying sober TODAY. dont worry about tommorow, just dont drink TODAY. you're home now!
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Join Date: Dec 2003
Posts: 12,136
Hi Kate,
Welcome! I think it's awesome that your family is so important to you, and that you have a brother who is 6 years sober. Does he go to AA, or how did he sober up?
I hope you stick around, there IS hope.
Rowan
Welcome! I think it's awesome that your family is so important to you, and that you have a brother who is 6 years sober. Does he go to AA, or how did he sober up?
I hope you stick around, there IS hope.
Rowan
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Join Date: May 2006
Location: A big city in, CA
Posts: 82
Kate,
Welcome! Being scared and having anxiety is a normal part of it. Keep posting on here what you feel, read the stickies, especially on what to expect with withdrawals, and most of all be kind to yourself. HUGS! Glad you are here!
Welcome! Being scared and having anxiety is a normal part of it. Keep posting on here what you feel, read the stickies, especially on what to expect with withdrawals, and most of all be kind to yourself. HUGS! Glad you are here!
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Join Date: Jul 2007
Location: CA Native
Posts: 2,509
Welcome Kate. You're in (one of) the right place(s) here at SR, I've only been here a few days myself, but I'm very impressed by the support being freely offered, all the hope and love is very inspirational.
Now that you admit you can't drink, I highly recommend the Fellowship of Alcoholics Anonymous as a means to the only end that you'll want to have, which is that of LIVING SOBER. You would be a rare bird indeed if you can do so alone, without learning the tools that are FREELY at your disposal within 'the rooms'. So much wisdom and understanding to be found there, you really shouldn't miss the opportunity to get some of it for yourself.
Might I recommend hitting a meeting tomorrow?
BTW, I hid behind drugs and alcohol from when I was 14 until I was 40 years old. Believe me, I understand your fear about who/what you're going to be without alcohol. THAT LINE OF THINKING/FEELING IS A VERY POWERFUL ENEMY to your sobriety. To stay sober (which is to say, to avoid the inevitable fate of JAILS, INSTITUTIONS, AND DEATH), you must vanquish such fears from your thought processes. Part of what you learn in AA is to live ONE DAY AT A TIME. You must learn to keep your addictive mind under some measure of control, and one it's MAIN offensive weapons is to try to make you feel OVERWHELMED by the (apparently) MASSIVE task at hand - A Lifetime of Sobriety! OMFG ARE YOU KIDDING ME HOW ARE YOU GOING TO DO THAT, WHAT ABOUT YOUR WEDDING DAY (as an example). We all went through these manipulations by our addictive mind when we were trying to get sober. The key here is ... One Day At A Time. Sounds simple, corny, kinda stupid. But guess what? When the alternative is DEATH, you'd be amazed what kinda mileage you can get out of a corny-sounding slogan ... when you WORK IT for all it's worth, that simple concept is the difference between life and death for untold thousands of alcoholics and addicts.
Now that you admit you can't drink, I highly recommend the Fellowship of Alcoholics Anonymous as a means to the only end that you'll want to have, which is that of LIVING SOBER. You would be a rare bird indeed if you can do so alone, without learning the tools that are FREELY at your disposal within 'the rooms'. So much wisdom and understanding to be found there, you really shouldn't miss the opportunity to get some of it for yourself.
Might I recommend hitting a meeting tomorrow?
BTW, I hid behind drugs and alcohol from when I was 14 until I was 40 years old. Believe me, I understand your fear about who/what you're going to be without alcohol. THAT LINE OF THINKING/FEELING IS A VERY POWERFUL ENEMY to your sobriety. To stay sober (which is to say, to avoid the inevitable fate of JAILS, INSTITUTIONS, AND DEATH), you must vanquish such fears from your thought processes. Part of what you learn in AA is to live ONE DAY AT A TIME. You must learn to keep your addictive mind under some measure of control, and one it's MAIN offensive weapons is to try to make you feel OVERWHELMED by the (apparently) MASSIVE task at hand - A Lifetime of Sobriety! OMFG ARE YOU KIDDING ME HOW ARE YOU GOING TO DO THAT, WHAT ABOUT YOUR WEDDING DAY (as an example). We all went through these manipulations by our addictive mind when we were trying to get sober. The key here is ... One Day At A Time. Sounds simple, corny, kinda stupid. But guess what? When the alternative is DEATH, you'd be amazed what kinda mileage you can get out of a corny-sounding slogan ... when you WORK IT for all it's worth, that simple concept is the difference between life and death for untold thousands of alcoholics and addicts.
Carpe Diem
Join Date: Jun 2007
Location: I live by the riiiver!
Posts: 149
Hi Kate,
I am glad you found us here and will be among the others to welcome you. It was an important and courageous step you took to admit you have a problem with alcohol. I am glad you did it. You may be in for some difficulty but it is nothing compared to what you would face if you didn't stop. We are here for you 24/7. SR is a valuable resource. Please take advantage of it and good luck!
I am glad you found us here and will be among the others to welcome you. It was an important and courageous step you took to admit you have a problem with alcohol. I am glad you did it. You may be in for some difficulty but it is nothing compared to what you would face if you didn't stop. We are here for you 24/7. SR is a valuable resource. Please take advantage of it and good luck!
GURUJAKE
Join Date: Sep 2005
Location: Long Beach, CA
Posts: 34
Kate, thanks so much for sharing and welcome to SR. I relate to the feelings you've described and your fears. I also relate to the feeling that you don't know yourself. You wanna know the great news??...You have lots of time to get to know yourself! For me, I felt like it was a clean slate. I got a chance to start over and do everything right! I have built myself into a man that I am proud of today and I have an awesome, sober life that I never dreamed could happen. I'm coming up on 2 years sober after drinking for 20 straight. You have made the first step toward a new, wonderful you. You never have to drink again. Please stick around.
Member
Join Date: Jul 2007
Location: We Built This City on Rock and Roll, MD
Posts: 18
Hi Kate,
I'm in the same place, living without alcohol is pretty scary to me, it's like becoming an entirely different person. I've had a long struggle depression and anxiety as well, sometimes it seems like drinking is the only way to ever feel comfortable, but in the end it only makes everything worse. You're in good company here.
I'm in the same place, living without alcohol is pretty scary to me, it's like becoming an entirely different person. I've had a long struggle depression and anxiety as well, sometimes it seems like drinking is the only way to ever feel comfortable, but in the end it only makes everything worse. You're in good company here.
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