how far do you have to go?
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Join Date: Jan 2007
Location: England
Posts: 674
thats just it, I have no friend's, I don't know anyone that can babysit. When I phoned AA they just told me to go to a meeting, and I said I have kids, they said get a babysitter, as if it is the easyiest thing in the world. I would gladly go to a meeting everynight, but I can't conjure up babysitters out of thin air, sorry, I know you are all trying to help, but no one seems to understand that I am truely on my own here, thats why I get angry, not with this site with life :/
No one gets that there is no one to help me, there is no one I can ask to look after my children. Why does everyone think that someone allways has some one? I have no one, well except my mum and dad and I think I allready said what their thoughts were :/ No offence to anyone x
No one gets that there is no one to help me, there is no one I can ask to look after my children. Why does everyone think that someone allways has some one? I have no one, well except my mum and dad and I think I allready said what their thoughts were :/ No offence to anyone x
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Join Date: Apr 2007
Location: Southwest PA USA
Posts: 339
I'm sorry you're having such a rough time, saxony. I don't know what to say, except you'll be thoughts.
Hang tough. There's a lot of support here. Maybe someone from your local AA group knows a babysitter, or perhaps a lady or two can alternate days for you. I think you'll find help there if you ask someone.
All my best, saxony
BHJ
Hang tough. There's a lot of support here. Maybe someone from your local AA group knows a babysitter, or perhaps a lady or two can alternate days for you. I think you'll find help there if you ask someone.
All my best, saxony
BHJ
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Join Date: Dec 2005
Location: Baton Rouge, La.
Posts: 15,238
We do hear u here in SR...i promise....and morepeople will
hear u and understand as long as u reach out and talk
about it.... This is just the beginning for u....
I know u want more than anything for ur emmediate
family to hear u and listen to u....for me that didnt happen...
sure it hurts cause ud think the ones that are closet to u
should....but that doent always happen....remember
they r in the dard as well as not understanding the disease
of alco0holism that we have....
As soon as u gain the knowledge of it urself then u will
be able to pass it on....
Today and for the past 16 yrs....my family has been my
AA family.....they know me better than anyone else....
They dont judge me...they accept me for me as i am....
That in itself is soooo comforting.....
Ur support group..recovery family will be whom u will
now depend on for many things....
YOUR NOT ALONE ....and YOU WILL NEVER BE ALONE AGAIN.
hear u and understand as long as u reach out and talk
about it.... This is just the beginning for u....
I know u want more than anything for ur emmediate
family to hear u and listen to u....for me that didnt happen...
sure it hurts cause ud think the ones that are closet to u
should....but that doent always happen....remember
they r in the dard as well as not understanding the disease
of alco0holism that we have....
As soon as u gain the knowledge of it urself then u will
be able to pass it on....
Today and for the past 16 yrs....my family has been my
AA family.....they know me better than anyone else....
They dont judge me...they accept me for me as i am....
That in itself is soooo comforting.....
Ur support group..recovery family will be whom u will
now depend on for many things....
YOUR NOT ALONE ....and YOU WILL NEVER BE ALONE AGAIN.
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Join Date: Aug 2003
Location: Dancing in the Light
Posts: 61,497
Hi Saxony,
I am sorry that this is such a hard time for you. I really do understand the pain you feel of wanting to be free of the addiction.
I had no one to help me either. I was way too ashamed to talk to my family and they lived thousands of miles away anyways. I had cut off the friends I had, becaquse I had rather spent the time drinking. My husband and two kids were completely tired of me and had no interest in helping at all. They made it very clear they just wanted their mom/wife back - that's it. And, I got through it. I found books to help me and I just got through it. Much later, I found this website and I have been here ever since. It's an amazing place for support and information. The thing is Saxony, you need to do this for yourself and you can find the strength to do it. You really can and we are here to helpl.
I am sorry that this is such a hard time for you. I really do understand the pain you feel of wanting to be free of the addiction.
I had no one to help me either. I was way too ashamed to talk to my family and they lived thousands of miles away anyways. I had cut off the friends I had, becaquse I had rather spent the time drinking. My husband and two kids were completely tired of me and had no interest in helping at all. They made it very clear they just wanted their mom/wife back - that's it. And, I got through it. I found books to help me and I just got through it. Much later, I found this website and I have been here ever since. It's an amazing place for support and information. The thing is Saxony, you need to do this for yourself and you can find the strength to do it. You really can and we are here to helpl.
Member
Join Date: Dec 2005
Location: Baton Rouge, La.
Posts: 15,238
I was one of those that didnt want to impose on people...
disturb others...and so i did it alot of the time myself....
i made sure my kids were fed....brought them books, colors...
snack foods....and took them with me to meetings....
the meetings lasted an hour....so i got there ...sat in the back so
i woudnt disturb anyone and listened.....
I did what i had to do,,,,,
disturb others...and so i did it alot of the time myself....
i made sure my kids were fed....brought them books, colors...
snack foods....and took them with me to meetings....
the meetings lasted an hour....so i got there ...sat in the back so
i woudnt disturb anyone and listened.....
I did what i had to do,,,,,
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