Destinee1

Hello everyone, I am not too new here I have posted before. But I am still struggling to quit drinking. Our Canadian long weekend July 1 is coming up and we are supposed to be having a party at our cottage. Most of these people are heavy drinkers. I want to quit drinking so bad, but this weekend is going to be a real struggle. I have been doing fairly well on not drinking, sober for 2 days. How can I cope with all these people all weekend? Any advice would be much apreciated. Destinee

Anna

Hi and welcome from a fellow Canadian! Happy Canada Day coming up!

I think the bottom line is that staying sober requires really hard choices. If it was me, at 2 days sober, I would definitely not go. I tried a party early in sobriety and I was miserable.

If you do go, plan to keep busy boating or cooking or anything to take your mind off drinking.

CarolD

Hmm..
The simple answer is
don't invite drinkers

Good to see you are working towards
a healtheir sober life...

Blessings

Rowan

Hi Destinee,

Welcome to SR from a fellow Canuck in Ontario - boy can I relate to cottage country dilemmas - last time I relapsed was at the cottage. I don't go as often now, and if a lot of booze starts appearing, I disappear.
If I know my folks are having a lot of people up who drink, I just don't go.
If you are new to sobriety and struggling, I would 'sit out' the long weekend and do something else that you enjoy.
I'm glad that you decided to join us and hope to see more posts.

Rowan

Surlyredhead

I agree also, way to new to sobriety to put yourself in that position. There will be other occasions to celebrate, when you are much stronger, you have a great start to recovery, do you really want to risk it??? For me, the answer would be no. My sobriety date is in April, for that first summer, I stuck with AA/NA functions, dances, picnics, parties etc. Even at that, I was very nervous about putting myself in any social situation, what I found out is that I can have fun...I mean FUN sober!!!

Good Luck, Cathy

lostmdboy

I know when I was 2 days it was big for me to make it past the beer store. Going to a party would have been out of the question. I know we are have a cook out on the 4th, and I invited my sponcer just to make sure there would be here for me.

parentrecovers

nice to meet you, destinee! blessings, k

ontrackagain

cancel it. I am on day 28 here and would not put my sobriety in that situation. A few weeks back I broke my foot and had a few sympathy situations and just avoided them by isolating myself.

Here on my fifth week I am much stronger, have been out to lunch and dinner a few times and have been able to cope quite well. Give yourself some time and get some perspective and confidence.

Good Luck.

Jersey Nonny

Can't echo it strongly enough...DO NOT GO...just for this year! There will hopefully be many, many more July 1 parties which you'll be able to attend and enjoy sober!

For thirty two years, my summer drinking was at the New Jersey Shore. Once I quit drinking, I didn't trust myself at The Shore for two whole years. The first time I went back was with my daughter who had lived through the worst part of my drinking with me, so I felf perfectly safe with her there and we had a great time!

Happy July 1st...make AA meetings...they never close for Holidays!