Kick me when I'm down please!
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Join Date: Apr 2007
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Kick me when I'm down please!
Well... I lasted 7 weeks.. not bad.. considering it's exam time :O.. hell hell and more hell.. I have had a relapse however.. My folks went away.. so it was a huge temptation to help myself.... so I did.. Had a period of euphoria.. then sadness.. then it just stopped and I'm perfectly fine now. I don't feel hugely guilty about it.. I overcame the feeling I was addicted in about.. the 4th week.. is this just lack of acceptance.. or is it the same as beating it? I used to feel really guilty and think I was letting people down when I drank something... but.. not anymore...
I'm not sure how to proceed.. should I immedietly go back to sobriety.. or should I continue and see if I have defeated the addiction.. and see what happens? I'm confident that if I return to my previous state I can easily give up again.. I'm not sure why I feel that way.. but I do..
Oh.. the girlfriend that said I had anger problems.. irrationally.. is
kaput, and I can't help but feel that I'm better off without her... even tho I was quite upset at the time. (ran off with a close friend o mine..)
Thanks.. any feedback would be greatly appreciated.. I'm in a state of content confusion at the current time..
-G
I'm not sure how to proceed.. should I immedietly go back to sobriety.. or should I continue and see if I have defeated the addiction.. and see what happens? I'm confident that if I return to my previous state I can easily give up again.. I'm not sure why I feel that way.. but I do..
Oh.. the girlfriend that said I had anger problems.. irrationally.. is
kaput, and I can't help but feel that I'm better off without her... even tho I was quite upset at the time. (ran off with a close friend o mine..)Thanks.. any feedback would be greatly appreciated.. I'm in a state of content confusion at the current time..
-G
Last edited by Gregz; 06-15-2007 at 05:04 PM. Reason: Left out title explanation.. ooopsy..
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Hi G,
What makes you think that you might need to stay sober?
Alcohol can lead us to drop our standards when it comes to letting people down and we start to blame the people we are letting down instead of the alcohol. It also leads us to lose love when we are in its grips. It lies about how we are.
You will find lots of advice here in a little while and hopefully Carol will come along with some reading material that will help.
What makes you think that you might need to stay sober?
Alcohol can lead us to drop our standards when it comes to letting people down and we start to blame the people we are letting down instead of the alcohol. It also leads us to lose love when we are in its grips. It lies about how we are.
You will find lots of advice here in a little while and hopefully Carol will come along with some reading material that will help.
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Join Date: Dec 2003
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Hi Greg,
For me, I can't 'go back' to sobriety - if I relapse, I don't know that I will make it back. I'm not willing to take that chance.
You got sober in the first place, and problem drinkers don't usually need to do that.
Only you can decide if you are an alcoholic, and I'm not sure that 'experimenting' is the best way to find out.
Please keep posting and let us get to know you. I'm glad you're here.
Rowan
For me, I can't 'go back' to sobriety - if I relapse, I don't know that I will make it back. I'm not willing to take that chance.
You got sober in the first place, and problem drinkers don't usually need to do that.
Only you can decide if you are an alcoholic, and I'm not sure that 'experimenting' is the best way to find out.
Please keep posting and let us get to know you. I'm glad you're here.
Rowan
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Hi and Welcome,
I'm glad you posted!
It sounds like you're not sure if you have a drinking problem or not, so take a look around and read and learn. I question what you said about seeing if you have defeated your addiction. I have an addiction and I haven't defeated it, I have accepted it. I think the difference is that in accepting that I have an addiction, I no longer question whether or not I can drink and my life is peaceful. When you talk about defeating your addiction it makes me wonder if you think you can control it.
I'm glad you posted!
It sounds like you're not sure if you have a drinking problem or not, so take a look around and read and learn. I question what you said about seeing if you have defeated your addiction. I have an addiction and I haven't defeated it, I have accepted it. I think the difference is that in accepting that I have an addiction, I no longer question whether or not I can drink and my life is peaceful. When you talk about defeating your addiction it makes me wonder if you think you can control it.
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Join Date: Jun 2007
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Hi Greg,
I'm very new here. So many others have much more experience.
BUT, since you asked,
you should research this drug called alcohol.
Since you have a question about whether you can go back to 'normal'
drinking or not, why not learn from all the research done on thousands
of people just like you?
That way, the answer you get will be better than someone's opinion.
And we tend to find someone who gives us the answer we want, anyway.
If you ask Keith Richards or Ozzy Osbourne and they say "Sure mate, drink up!",
are you sure you're getting the best answer?
A great book with lots of facts is "Beyond The Influence".
Best of luck to you.
I'm very new here. So many others have much more experience.
BUT, since you asked,
you should research this drug called alcohol.
Since you have a question about whether you can go back to 'normal'
drinking or not, why not learn from all the research done on thousands
of people just like you?
That way, the answer you get will be better than someone's opinion.
And we tend to find someone who gives us the answer we want, anyway.
If you ask Keith Richards or Ozzy Osbourne and they say "Sure mate, drink up!",
are you sure you're getting the best answer?
A great book with lots of facts is "Beyond The Influence".
Best of luck to you.
Forward we go...side by side-Rest In Peace
Join Date: Jun 2002
Location: Serene In Dixie
Posts: 36,740
Here is the link I suggest you read...
http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/...influence.html
Please note there are different stages to addiction.
One never knows which drink or which day will
slide you futher down.
Take care...
http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/...influence.html
Please note there are different stages to addiction.
One never knows which drink or which day will
slide you futher down.
Take care...
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Join Date: Jun 2006
Location: Ohio
Posts: 859
Hiyas, welcome to SR.....
The others are right.... only YOU can decide if there is a problem or not...but if you are seeking advice and support, you need to dig a lil deeper and figure it out. Sorry about the GF although you seem quite ok with it...meanwhile...explore, there is a TON of knowledge here, this place literally saved my life!!! Stick around, the people here are so unbelievably awesome!!!!!
Hope to get to know you!!!!
~HUGS!~ Liss
The others are right.... only YOU can decide if there is a problem or not...but if you are seeking advice and support, you need to dig a lil deeper and figure it out. Sorry about the GF although you seem quite ok with it...meanwhile...explore, there is a TON of knowledge here, this place literally saved my life!!! Stick around, the people here are so unbelievably awesome!!!!!
Hope to get to know you!!!!
~HUGS!~ Liss
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