parentrecovers

i'm struggling with willingness today. let's talk about willingness...

blessings, k

Rowan

Willingness, to?

Get clean and sober? Change? Try something new? Accept our loved one's addiction?

parentrecovers

i guess i just wonder how others stay open and willing - to all the things you mention or any of them.

i'm feeling unwilling to recover today. how do folks keep from "throwing in the towel"?

cali

((((PR)))
I hear you.....................just bottom line "willingness" to do the next right thing-whatever it is for any given moment...
for me, it is willingness to:
-treat people in my life with the respect and courtesy they deserve
-be the best employee I can be
-get out of my shell (face to face I am paralyzed)
-help another person
-be kind to myself
-the list goes on....
Thank you for this VERY importand reminder-
OH YES----
-AND TO STAY SOBER NO MATTER WHAT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

cali

oops--I didn't give you an "answer" lol
how do I do it???
HP, SR+meetings

caileesnana

We don't throw in the towel because there is hope. They are our children and we love them! Love ....endures through every circumstance!
My prayers are with you,
susan

GlassPrisoner

You really don't want to get willing like I did.......I was the drowning man hanging on to the life preserver in rough seas......

But then again as long as I was comfortable, no change was going to happen.

SaTiT

I don't wanna...just joking.

I'm one of those people that always gotta have those extra
steps within a step...i guess I'm complicated..lol

but it's like what glass said...you don't wanna have the williness i did..
the answer is right there for me. it's not so much that I lack williness
I have it already..I was willing to get f-up all the time...
but it was still too much for me to grasp it..

so I guess ALLOW myself made it simpler for me..
You know...you allow yourself to get some sleep..just build on that.

i don't know what piont you're trying to get to..
but lets say..to letting go..

I allow myself to let go
I allow myself to be happy
I allow myself to live..

well I'm an aduilt now...everytime i click on the vista i had to give myself
permission..lol

or you can try this for releasing or letting go excersize so your body
recognize it...then your brain.
Make a grip as tight as you can, then open your palm

or the breathing excersize...take a deep breath and hold it...
hold it as lone as you can..lol
See how your body or life just force you to breath out or let go...

MissKittyLuvs

I pray a lot. It helps me every day with whatever comes my way. Willingness to succeed in recovery...for me that's everything.

Aysha

Theres days I am not willing to fight this crazy beast too.
But after my last go around with it.
I have to be willing to do something if I dont want to die.
So I guess my willingness to live is what keeps me going at the moment.

marle

k, I became willing when I realized no amount of my sorrow was going to get my daughter clean. God gave me one life and He does not want me to waste it. We are all God's children and when I am feeling down I always remember that He loves my daughter too and He is willing to watch over her when I can't take the pain any longer. I picture Him holding her in His loving arms. Hugs, Marle

~Troy~

I ask myself one question at the end of the day. "What did I learn today and how did it help me grow as a person?". I've been doing that longer than I can remember when I started doing it. 99% of the time, it's not an eathshattering revelation, just a small simple little thing, sometimes trivial, but all matter to me.

Doing that has given me the mindset that I am forever a student, never to graduate on any level, whether it be work related, relationship related, program related, spiritual, etc. It has allowed me a level of opened mindedness to all things around me and given me the willingness to challenge myself to actually try and learn something today. For me, the day I feel that I know it all is the day that my mind has been shut. Most days, it's a fun game I like to play with myself and extremely enjoyable to do. On my bad days, it's a challenge.

Astro

Hi (((k))),

I start my day with prayer and meditation, post on SR while I'm at work, talk to sponsor, sponsees, and friends in the program during the day, and try to make at least one meeting every day. If all of that fails and I still want to throw in the towel I remind myself that I can never safely drink again. Ever. Then I go to bed sober, and wake up in the morning alive and able to do it again.

nogard

Faith, HP, Steps, Meetings, Service, Sponsor other members and every day acknowledging the difference in my klife now as apposed to when I was using.

Kevin

cmc

k,
My willingness usually comes from 1- desperation and 2- the hope and desire to change. I can pretty much guarantee I will lose my willingness if I am Hungry, Angry, Lonely and Tired (Halt)...and I have another one to add...Sick. When I'm not well and/or my husband's disability becomes worse, I need to just chill out, relax and have some fun.
I have to watch out for this cunning and baffling disease I have and not let it take any more of my life and happiness than it already has.

Dee74

wow, kudos cmc...you read my mind !
(quick read, I know !)

I'm willing because, even with all it's ups and downs, life is still just that...life. real rich and full.

Even when things are crappy and hard as hell, like they are for me today, the empty existence I used to have just can't compare.

D

barb dwyer

remembering who I was, and what happened keeps me willing.

chicago

willingness is a great topic. i believe its a gift because alot of people need AA but dont want it. so why do some? one explaination is threshold of pain. i personally believe its a gift from God. i have one set prayer "God thank you for letting me go to bed sober last night. thank you for waking me up sober today. give me the hope strength faith and courage to stay sober today"

im so grateful i have the willingness to go to any length for sobriety today.

Hope

My willingness came from desperation and from God. I prayed and prayed to be willing to be willing. It is a willingness to live instead of losing my life. Some days I struggle with it and may be less willing but I keep turning it over to God and he hasn't let me down.

Alive

Ok Cmc and Dee already said it, but i really relate to that..The despair of the lows, that will to cry and not being able, that's what i never want to feel again....that makes me wanna smile forever and not lose my energy with nothing negative!