Anger issue
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Anger issue
Yall know I also have anger issues.
Today I am having a hard time letting something go that happened this morning.
My grams went up to my cousins house this morning to see my little cousin. My cousin and her husband were still sleeping and My little cousin (Brandon 5 yrs old) was awake playing his game cube.
My grams sat there for a little while and played with him. Then she thought shed take him outside to play for awhile. So she wrote a note to my cousin and left it on the table and brought him down to our house. Next street over.
Not 5 mins later my cousins husband comes stormimg down here yelling that they were up and they heard hte door shut and better get his ass back home and yelling at my grams.
I woke up a little after all this and my grams was crying.
She told me what happened and said she left a note and that it hurt her feelings the way he came down here yelling.
Now my grams does anything under the sun to help all of us. She does their laundry and cleans their house..gives them money if they need help. Brandon is her baby. She is very close to him.
I am having a really hard time not going up to my cousins house and smacking her husband in the head. At the very least cuss him out.
I think it was uncalled for.
Shes 70 years old and if that was anyone else they woulda got knocked out.
He called and apologized a little after but still. He shouldnt have done it in the first place.
So I have just been letting it stew around in my head all day. I am not as mad as I was at first. But still. He knows better. and I dont like waking up to my grams crying for any reason.
Just needed to vent it and see how I felt after.
Thanks for reading.
I think I will let it slide and maybe let him know as nicely as possible the next time I see him that he need comtrol himself next time.
Maybe..I dont know.
Today I am having a hard time letting something go that happened this morning.
My grams went up to my cousins house this morning to see my little cousin. My cousin and her husband were still sleeping and My little cousin (Brandon 5 yrs old) was awake playing his game cube.
My grams sat there for a little while and played with him. Then she thought shed take him outside to play for awhile. So she wrote a note to my cousin and left it on the table and brought him down to our house. Next street over.
Not 5 mins later my cousins husband comes stormimg down here yelling that they were up and they heard hte door shut and better get his ass back home and yelling at my grams.
I woke up a little after all this and my grams was crying.
She told me what happened and said she left a note and that it hurt her feelings the way he came down here yelling.
Now my grams does anything under the sun to help all of us. She does their laundry and cleans their house..gives them money if they need help. Brandon is her baby. She is very close to him.
I am having a really hard time not going up to my cousins house and smacking her husband in the head. At the very least cuss him out.
I think it was uncalled for.
Shes 70 years old and if that was anyone else they woulda got knocked out.
He called and apologized a little after but still. He shouldnt have done it in the first place.
So I have just been letting it stew around in my head all day. I am not as mad as I was at first. But still. He knows better. and I dont like waking up to my grams crying for any reason.
Just needed to vent it and see how I felt after.
Thanks for reading.
I think I will let it slide and maybe let him know as nicely as possible the next time I see him that he need comtrol himself next time.
Maybe..I dont know.
IO Storm
Join Date: Mar 2007
Location: Southern California
Posts: 18,436
Chiy....
Is it possible the parents were startled or down right frightened when the child was gone?
Maybe they didn't see the note until after they saw he wasn't in the house?
With all the violence directed at kids these days by perps..I think all good
parents are tense..
Just a thought..
but for your own sake...the dad apologized..just let it go..or try to...
For your sanity...remember we cannot change others..
Only ourselves.
I love ya.
IO
Is it possible the parents were startled or down right frightened when the child was gone?
Maybe they didn't see the note until after they saw he wasn't in the house?
With all the violence directed at kids these days by perps..I think all good
parents are tense..
Just a thought..
but for your own sake...the dad apologized..just let it go..or try to...
For your sanity...remember we cannot change others..
Only ourselves.
I love ya.
IO
IO Storm
Join Date: Mar 2007
Location: Southern California
Posts: 18,436
One more thought..
Sometimes in recovery we think 'letting go' or turning it over..is weak.
Especially when see what we perceive as an injustice.
I have said I should belong to Hotheads Anonymous!
I've had to practice this a lot in the last year.
It didn't happen overnight.
But by surrendering we find that is when we are the most strong..
Love,
IO
Sometimes in recovery we think 'letting go' or turning it over..is weak.
Especially when see what we perceive as an injustice.
I have said I should belong to Hotheads Anonymous!
I've had to practice this a lot in the last year.
It didn't happen overnight.
But by surrendering we find that is when we are the most strong..
Love,
IO
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Join Date: Apr 2007
Location: Australia
Posts: 211,442
Chiy,
I'm the original readheaded Irishman (no racial slurs intended begorrah!) so my first impulse would be to open a economy sized can of Whup It... trying hard to change these days though...
IO makes some great points...maybe they were scared...maybe....
but no matter what happened we can't change others...and it's no good expending good energy trying to, or staying mad...
D
I'm the original readheaded Irishman (no racial slurs intended begorrah!) so my first impulse would be to open a economy sized can of Whup It... trying hard to change these days though...
IO makes some great points...maybe they were scared...maybe....
but no matter what happened we can't change others...and it's no good expending good energy trying to, or staying mad...
D
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