xXBacktoBlackXx

I think the "secret" is kind of out now. My mom found my library book about recovering from drinking and drugs. She didn't say anything about it but she stacked up the library books that were due and that was a part of it. I feel kind of queasy. I was going to tell my parents about it but I never did.

Alive

Moms always know, you know....She probably confirmed what she thought.I don't know but my mom talks to me like she knows every single mistake i made.... It would be beautiful if you talk to her...do you have a good relation with her?

xXBacktoBlackXx

Yes, but now I'm just really embarrassed and mortified!!! I don't know why.

Alive

I know.My mom once saw something she shouldn't.till today i get red, when i remember...she found two bottles of champagne in my closet once...they always find it..moms are fierce,dads don't even smell it sometimes...

I know it's hard...but here you have a chance to open up..maybe God is worried and wants you to talk to her...cry, speak but talk to her..she must be in such pain...if you tell her you're in recovery her heart will rest..i have to believe that...positive...

p.s: and you'll take a ton out of your shoulders...when you're ready tough...

Anna

Maybe this is an opportunity for you to reach out to your Mom for her support. If you think she will be understanding and helpful in your recovery, talking to her could be a great idea.

stone

Hi B2B, eek! I agree with Karim, if you are up to talking about it with her I would.

GlassPrisoner

It probably just confirmed her suspicions. I know no one knew I was drinking. Besides, you can't smell Vodka

I'm surprised you haven't told your family members. That would probably be a good step in the right direction as far as honesty goes.

Rowan

I understand your fears and anxiety - since she has seen the book - maybe SHE will approach YOU? I hope so - my parents saw all the 'red flags' when I was early in my drinking career, but no one said anything to me about it. I hope it will be different for you, because I think things would have been so much better if I had their support.

Love, Rowan
xoxoxo

Dee74

Yeah I agree with Rowan, BtB...

Forgive me if I've totally read this wrong, but I seem to recall from stuff you've written that your folks might not be the most approachable right now...but I'm sure they will come through...

D

Aysha

I personally think it is a good thing. Especially if you have a good relationship with her.
All I know is. That even though I have done what I have done. Especially last week. If it wasnt for the open line of communication between me and my grams. Girl I would have been dead long ago.
Take this ooportunity to get you better.
There is nothing to be embarrassed about.
I wish you the best.
Maybe after you talk to her or something ....You will feel some relief instead.

expenguin

Hi.....I wanted to say.....invite your mom to sit and talk to you over lunch in a private place you both like........just with the two of you talking about girl stuff could give you the chance to open up to her...............Not like she doesn't already know...........But this would give you the chance to tell her where you are at in your life...............................

Or if the lunch isn't the way to go......try a walk ......someplace beautiful.......where you could sit on a park bench...........

I will pray for you that all works out and you both give each other the Hugs you need to carry on with your recovery.....................

Love ya...........Hugs.....

Little Penguin

parentrecovers

i'm a mom. i was grateful when my daughter told me about her addiction. it explained a lot of things for me, and i knew what i needed to do then - to help myself and her.

but i know not all family members feel that way. and you have to accept their reaction?

i'd tell her, btob - just so it isn't get in the way of YOUR recovery?

blessings, k

hope3

Well, now you don't have to worry about

whether or not to tell them, they know..

Good opportunity to talk to them...We always

fear the unknown more than the known...talk to

them, I think you will feel better...

Hope3

marle

I am the mom of an addict daughter who is 21. I knew that she was using, but she spent 7 months denying and trying to make me feel crazy and guilty. I have more resentment that she did that than when she finally came clean with me. Talk to your mom. You may be surprised that she already knew. Hugs and good luck. I will say a prayer that things work out for you. Hugs, Marle

Jules62

B2B,

I understand your fear about this.But maybe it will be the very thing that helps you?As Rowan said-they might approach you.I just wanted you to know I'm thinking of you,

Love,

Rose xox

Surlyredhead

Hi B2B, I understand you that you are nervous, but you only have to say it once. So here are your choices.

1) Suffer for a few more weeks, upset stomach, nervous, embarrased, confused...etc....then say it oonce.
2) Say it now and be done.


Seems pretty easy now doesn't it?????

Change4life

listen to Karim, Anna, Rowan, well everyone. Maybe this is the door thatv needed to be opened so you camn be honest with your Mom.

The more support the better.

aasharon90

Hi Im Sharon and Im an Alcoholic.

By the Grace of my HP and people
like you here in Sr I havent had a drink
of alcohol since 8-11-90.

For that and you I am truely grateful.

I dont' know ur story. Or how old u r.
Or even if u r sober or clean.....

Just from reading what u posted
up top...i have to say I am proud
of you.

Proud that you recpgnize you have
a problem or u think u do and u
are educatiing urself with knowledge
of what the disease of alcoholism
or drugs is all about....

I wish i would have been smarter
at the time i began drinking which
was at an early age...I only thought
my drinking was inherited because
I was Italian.... And i could
drink like my grandfather and never
be a fallen down in the gutter, skid
row drunk.... I always thought I
could drink anyone under the table
and hold my liquor longer....

However....it took me 16 yrs ago
when i was 30 to end up in a horrible
accident drinking and driving home
to hit a concret culvert sitting on
top the ground sending me to the
hospital for 10 days...

Then a few months later after an
abstinence of alcohol to only
pick up again and try to end my life.

I wasnt aware much about the disease
of alcoholism...I only avoided drugs
because i knew they were bad for u.

For u, I commend u for ur intellegence
to seek answers for what is troubling u.

If u were my daughter id be proud of u.

Dont stop seeking the wisdom, knowledge
and courage to go to any lengths to either
stay sober or clean.

Thanks for letting me share.

Luckyv2

The shame isn't in knowing that you have a problem the shame is in not doing anything about the problem once we know that we do have a problem.

My name is Vic and I am an addict. Probably dang lucky to be here clean today that is for sure. I know for me that I lived in a world of denial most of my life. I knew that I had a problem but really didn't do what it took to seek help. Today I am open to all the help that I can get.

I think that finding your book is great! I am a believer that nothing happens by mistake. There is a lesson behind it all. For me this would be a wonderful time to sit down with Your mom and talk. The door has been opened for a reason now it is time for the action!

With Love and Respect

Vic