Toomutch

Advice please.

My sister is an alcoholic; but at the same time seems supportive of my sobriety. When I am in a funk and need someone to talk to; is it okay to turn to her; or is that just asking for trouble?

~Toomutch
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Angels have walked beside me
All my life--and they still do.

Astro

It's natural to turn to family for support, I have an A brother who's always encouraged my recovery. As long as they're not prompting you to drink I don't see any harm.

SaTiT

it is also natural from an alcholics support other or give advice to
others rather than working on themselves. Working on yourself
takes actual work and not just talk.

CarolD

I think it is great to talk to anyone who supports your sobriety.
However....in early sobriety..I found it dangerous to hang out with drinkers.
perhaps phone calls is a good way to go on this.

I also think you need to do this in addition to speaking with
those in your recovery program who can mentor you.

Take care...


Bessings

topetah

i think its just fine. when i was at my lowest the only people i could turn to was my brother and cousin. there both addicts and drunks. but you know what? they gave me the best advice. i think deep down they wish they could do it on there own but they chose not too. they have it much worse than me but they understand what we are going threw. so maybe thats the best people to talk to, ones who are going threw it or have gone threw it. they live so far away it was nice to know they still cared about me. i wish they could get sober too but thats up to them...jason

Debaucher

In AA I have heard folks who are very active in helping other alcoholics say empatically don't council or sponsor family. If family asks you for help do your best to get them in contact with someone else in AA.

I don't know why they say that but for now I just trust it. It could be that they can't detach themselves from the outcome... or they feel they are too close to make sound judgements... etc. etc... I don't know and for now I am going to trust them on this one...

So based on that I would say it shouldn't be option #1... first choice... but if you NEED to talk to someone well it is better than not talking to someone...

El Gato

The interesting thing I have found is the only person that supports me is my Mom, who is 60 years old and has drank a 12 pack a day my whole life. She has unconditional love for me, tho the key thing to 'support' as I see it. Meanwhile my Dad drinks 4 beers a week, sees the world as black or white, doesn't have unconditional love for me. So if I am having a bad day he just makes things worse by saying mean things to me.

So on the surface being around sober people may seem like a no brainer, but that's not always the case.

leviathon

I can't see it being a problem, as long as you keep in mind her world view is skewed by teh booze. Levi