I Blew It All
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Join Date: Mar 2006
Location: Somwhere over the rainbow
Posts: 1,175
"I blew it all" is a pity party... "I screwed up but this is what I learned" is a much more positive way to look at it.
Recovery is a learning experience... sometimes we require a do over... just don't give up on yourself.... we won't give up on you!
Peace, Levi
Recovery is a learning experience... sometimes we require a do over... just don't give up on yourself.... we won't give up on you!
Peace, Levi
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Join Date: Mar 2007
Location: ellensburg, WA
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I have struggled with the belief that when I have relapsed "I screwed up." One, I am an alcoholic/addict; I need to give myself a break. Two, I can keep trying until I come to the point that I let go absolutely.
I am powerless over drugs/alcohol..........I surrender.........
I am powerless over drugs/alcohol..........I surrender.........
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Join Date: Jan 2007
Location: Southern BC, Canada
Posts: 100
While this is all pretty new to me, as well, I looked through the material from the program I'm in with our Regional Health Unit. This caught my eye:
The last part (I take) as... sure, maybe you start counting again, if that's what's most important to you - but you don't lose what you have learned, so you're still farther ahead than when you began.
Realize that relapse likely will occur. Don't use a minor slip-up as an excuse to resume drinking. Don't get overly fixated on recording days of abstinence.
A relapse does NOT wipe out all that you have accomplished.
A relapse does NOT wipe out all that you have accomplished.
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Join Date: Jul 2006
Location: road to recovery
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hey, you came back here. hey, you started again. it took me 10 years or so of trying before i finally admitted powerlessness and asked for help. hey, you CAN do this. keep coming back.
read the wise words on this thread.
read the wise words on this thread.
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Join Date: Mar 2006
Location: Somwhere over the rainbow
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these response are all VERY insightful and I am proud to be here sharing them with you all.
I learned from each slip up until I was able to "not slip up". I learned that for me it isn't just "HALT" it is actually "HALTS" Hungry, Angry, Lonely, Tired and STRESSED. That was the big kicker for me.
The point is that I learned from each time I messed up and I kept trying. As long as you keep trying you will eventually get it right. Now my life IS better than it has ever been.
Thank you. Levi
I learned from each slip up until I was able to "not slip up". I learned that for me it isn't just "HALT" it is actually "HALTS" Hungry, Angry, Lonely, Tired and STRESSED. That was the big kicker for me.
The point is that I learned from each time I messed up and I kept trying. As long as you keep trying you will eventually get it right. Now my life IS better than it has ever been.
Thank you. Levi
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Join Date: Nov 2006
Location: Fredericksburg, Va.
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Slips happen to a lot of folks, I spent 10 years riding the relapse merry-go-round! Every year I spent riding that merry-go-round all by myself and every year I got worse and worse until finally I could not stop drinking, I could not go a single day without drinking.
That whole 10 years I spent trying to stop drinking my way, all by myself.
It was not until I surrendered that I was finally able to stop, I put myself into detox and did as they suggested, I went to at least 90 AA meetings in 90 days and got a sponsor. AA taught me that I was not alone, SR shows you that as well, SR is a great source of support, but nothing can beat face to face support from real sober alcoholics who know how to get and STAY sober and be happier and better people to boot.
That whole 10 years I spent trying to stop drinking my way, all by myself.
It was not until I surrendered that I was finally able to stop, I put myself into detox and did as they suggested, I went to at least 90 AA meetings in 90 days and got a sponsor. AA taught me that I was not alone, SR shows you that as well, SR is a great source of support, but nothing can beat face to face support from real sober alcoholics who know how to get and STAY sober and be happier and better people to boot.
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