Any Moms Out There Keeping Sane While Not Using Part 21
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Good morning all took me an hr to catch up here at work. I am feeling a little down today seems like many of you are having the same probs with H as I am he just refuses to try to like me again and it's killing me. Also today is Friday drinking day always went home first thing and started, By the time I get home H will be on beer 3 or 4, I feel like I have nothing to look foward to ever again, thats horrible to say isn't it. He also is working nights started 3 months ago and thats when I stated drinking heavy again he has the chance to go back to days and refuses to go on days because he does not want to be with me. My heart is crumbling I cant win him back he won't let me try
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i am going to work--just a few haircuts not to hard of a day..be back later!!!
and by the way i look like as if i am entering my second trimester..(i need a tummy tuck soooo bad i have jelly belly(now i am sad)
and by the way i look like as if i am entering my second trimester..(i need a tummy tuck soooo bad i have jelly belly(now i am sad)
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h4, I am sorry that realy stinks, I wish I had some good advice...
On Friday I never made it home stopped at the bar and/or the liquor store.... Friday was usually the night I ended up passd out, I don't miss it... Maybe in time hubby will learn to trust you and see a new you.... I'll send prayers
On Friday I never made it home stopped at the bar and/or the liquor store.... Friday was usually the night I ended up passd out, I don't miss it... Maybe in time hubby will learn to trust you and see a new you.... I'll send prayers
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WILL YOU GUYS SLOW DOWN! GEESH!
AMEN SISTA!
Originally Posted by RubyT
Exercise?! Who said anything about exercise? I don't want no stinkin' exercise! I'll drink my coffee in my pajamas and watch the rest of you exercise! You'll be all nice and fit and I'll be...me!
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H4, things with my husband did not get better over night. I consider myself very fortunate that he didn't kick me to the curb! But they ARE better. Far from perfect, but definitely better...it takes time. Just continue to work on being the best you can be!
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don't forget he has his own recovery to work on.....they lose so much trust for us.....it's hard to earn that back, but it can be done.........just keep trying.....have you talked to him about counselling? mike and i got it for free from our minister at the church we used to go to.....
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wow, misti...they do all look alike! i have pics of chase and aidan that even i can't tell apart.....sigh...they have been in storage in illinois for almost 2 years....i hope they aren't ruined.........
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h4 do you mean nothing to look forward to because yo no longer drink... I would say that what was kept me from quiting all these years....
.... but i have found that everything I used to look forward to drinking I can still do and better clearer and with a deeper appreciation and interest... other than canning a few friends... which have unintentionally been replaced I still go and do all I use to go and do expect I drink water Red bull or club with a splash of cranberry and a lime.... In the beginning I thought it would suck but i have come to find out it is not so bad... and if my husband doesn't want to join in I can go and do what i want without the guilt of possibly getting drunk...
Are you saying your DH is a minister and he has that unforgiving attitude... shame on him he need to read the the words he preaches
.... but i have found that everything I used to look forward to drinking I can still do and better clearer and with a deeper appreciation and interest... other than canning a few friends... which have unintentionally been replaced I still go and do all I use to go and do expect I drink water Red bull or club with a splash of cranberry and a lime.... In the beginning I thought it would suck but i have come to find out it is not so bad... and if my husband doesn't want to join in I can go and do what i want without the guilt of possibly getting drunk...
Are you saying your DH is a minister and he has that unforgiving attitude... shame on him he need to read the the words he preaches
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H4...I used to think that in early recovery I had nothing to look forward to.....that was only because I felt that there was no fun to be had unless I was drinking or taking pills. I would hear people in the meetings talk about thier "pink clouds" or getting "high" on life....and I seriously would want to just roll my eyes at them and say "get real!"
Then one day it came to me......for so long my life was centered around the getting of and using of pills alcohol. Counting bottles, hiding bottles, how was I going to sneak more in....it became this game and then it became a way of life....it filled every thought and every moment of my day so that there was nothing left for anyone or anything else.
As soon as I stopped dying on the inside and obsessing about my addiction and alcoholism and began living again......everything turned around.
I started getting excited about little things.....I would create my own fun....I began doing hobbies or going for a walk or getting together with sober friends.....but FIRST, I had to believe that life was WORTH living sober.....and that can only come from within.
I missed so many years of my sons life because of the obsession with my addiction and there is no getting that back.....there is only going forward with change and a new perspective.
I know it is not easy.....and there are days that I have to talk my self into it......but life is so much better sober....I like being able to laugh and cry, I like being able to remember what I had done the night before, I like coming in on a Monday morning and remembering my weekend....I like going to the movies with my son without sneaking a bottle in.......I like walking out the front door in the morning and smelling the fresh air and I like pulling my blinds UP and not down in order to hide in my bed......
You deserve to live life........we all deserve it!
Then one day it came to me......for so long my life was centered around the getting of and using of pills alcohol. Counting bottles, hiding bottles, how was I going to sneak more in....it became this game and then it became a way of life....it filled every thought and every moment of my day so that there was nothing left for anyone or anything else.
As soon as I stopped dying on the inside and obsessing about my addiction and alcoholism and began living again......everything turned around.
I started getting excited about little things.....I would create my own fun....I began doing hobbies or going for a walk or getting together with sober friends.....but FIRST, I had to believe that life was WORTH living sober.....and that can only come from within.
I missed so many years of my sons life because of the obsession with my addiction and there is no getting that back.....there is only going forward with change and a new perspective.
I know it is not easy.....and there are days that I have to talk my self into it......but life is so much better sober....I like being able to laugh and cry, I like being able to remember what I had done the night before, I like coming in on a Monday morning and remembering my weekend....I like going to the movies with my son without sneaking a bottle in.......I like walking out the front door in the morning and smelling the fresh air and I like pulling my blinds UP and not down in order to hide in my bed......
You deserve to live life........we all deserve it!
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