kaysyb

Hi im new - I have an addiction to booze, painkillers I smoke suffer from depression, oh god sounds awful. My family dont know I dont want to go there I would like to get through this alone, I dont want to go to re-hab. Has anybody out there done it alone and succeeded?

Anna

Hi Kay,

Welcome!

I think some of us have gone to rehab and others not. I have not.

The thing is, you need to do whatever it takes to get sober and clean and to stay that way. There is lots of information here, so take a look around. And there's lots of support too.

GlassPrisoner

Very few have. None that I know personally.

I needed help from others. I tried umpteen times to do ut myself. It didn't work.

aasharon90

Welcome Kay....

Anna's suggestion up above me are right on....

I, speaking for myself, went thru a 28 day
in-patient rehab facility back in Aug, 11, 1990.

It was thru family intervention that got me into
treatment. I realized later that my family did for
me what I couldnt do for myself at the time.

For them I am truely grateful.

During my 28 stay I picked up the tools and
knowledge of my DISEASE of alcoholism....

That's what I have...a DISEASE.

See I didnt know that was what i had and why
I always felt bad each time i would try to control
my drinking and couldnt.

I learned that I couldnt stop drinking on my own.

I was POWERLESS.

And so with my new found knowledge and tools
of my disease I began my journey into recovery
16 yrs ago.

Today Im still on my journey ever remaining
teachable. This is a ODAAT journey...(ONE
DAY AT A TIME)

I still need others in recovery whether they are
brand new in recovery or have been here awhile...

We all have something to share to help each other
stay clean and sober on a daily bases.....

I have learned how to stay sober thru the years but
I still need your care and support thru tough times as
well as good times in recovery...

So Im glad ur here.

teej

Hiya Kay!! Welcome to SR!
I tried to quit on my own MANY times, only to fail. I dont recommend it. The help is there for the taking, all you have to do is want it.

chrisj728

Hi kay & welcome,
I personaly have never been to rehab
but i couldn't have got sober without
the help of others,like here on SR and AA.

stay strong in your quest for sobriety

chris

Pilgrim

Hi Kay,

I understand that you may not want to shout this out to people and you don't have to. It is a very private decision you have taken and it is really wonderful that you have admitted that you need to stop.

But I agree with Glass Prisoner. I was not able to do it alone either. By coming here, you are already reaching out to hundreds of people who can help you.

A doctor can't tell anyone what you tell them. I would start there and make an appointment for Monday. I would read everything you can. There is so much information just on this site that could help you.

I think that would be a great start. Good luck and welcome.

CarolD

Hi and Welcome to sR!

It's great to see a new memner asking for help.

I did not go to a de tox or re hab
because I did not have the resources.

I don't see why you should not use any and all
methods available. Good Luck!

kaysyb

Thank you to so many people for replying, I dont feel so alone about it now. Will check this site out more, right now have to get on with the day I have three great kids and a fantastic husband am hoping that they will be the strength to get through this.

Thanks again

Pilgrim

Kay - that is so great. Nice to have you on board.

xx

kaysyb

I have been reading alot of these stories how sad it all is. From what I gather there is a very good chance that my kids will become addicts of some sort, god help me kick it all. Another question is there anything you can take to stop the shaking hands?? Is there somekind of meds to take that actually help you get off the booze and pills,

mcdo1268

I cant drink, and I cant not drink…that’s a dilemma…lack of power…until I recognize this truth about me, there is no need for a higher power…Once I admit this truth…then i become willing to discover this higher power through the remaining eleven steps. And that power will do for me what I can NOT do for myself…and the work goes on, because I will drink again if I stop…powerless over alcohol..... CANT DO IT ALONE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Pilgrim

Hi Kay,

Your doctor is the best person to advise you about possible meds to help you through the initial detox. If you were drinking very heavily for a while, I understand it can be dangerous to detox without advice from a doctor. Vitamins and detox support from a natural remedy shop helped me a lot. I think it is important to let you doctor decide whether or not you need meds.

I hope this helps.

Steph

kaysyb

thanks pilgrim - I dont want to discuss this with my Doctor as i would be to embarassed, do you think I should go to a specialist center rehab or just find another doctor.
Today I made it to 5pm without a drink all day, sometimes I start am, thats my first step I am going to aim at trying to cut an hour off a day from the first drink.

I think ill have to be online maybe to stretch this time out. Tell me something why is after that first drink everything is so much clearer in your mind.

ayla zaire

welcome kay....i'm sorry i missed you yesterday......i would definately see a doctor.....they can really relieve your symptoms......and steph is right.....it can be dangerous to detox on your own.....from alcohol and pills....

here is a link to a thread that is full of moms.....most of them are asleep, except for insomniacs like me....lol....but you will find more help and support there than you can imagine......just read some of it.....it's a little slow on the weekends.....but there's always someone around during the day.......it is an amazing group of women who knows exactly what you are going through.....

http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/...part-18-a.html

that first drink probably makes you feel clearer because you are satisfying your addiction........the withdrawls will make you feel awful for a while, but they will pass.....but it could be some time until your body adjusts to being sober......you may be confused, moody, find it hard to concentrate and sleep for a while, but it will pass.......this is not an easy thing you are doing....but you can do it.......i did it, my mother did it, and so many amazing people here do it every day.......you have nothing to be ashamed of........addiction is not a choice you make, but quitting is........you are making a good choice for your life, you are saving yourself from so much....and you may be saving your own life.......

good luck, and i hope to see you on the mommy thread soon.......

hugs
ayla

Pilgrim

Hi again Kay,

I think it is a good idea to go to a different doctor if you would feel embarassed seeing your usual one. Just explain that to the new doc when you get there and they will totally understand.

Good going on getting further through the day today. Staying here, posting your story and reading all about this is a good way to extend your sober time.

You are not alone while you are here and for some reason, not being alone through this is a really good tool which helps make it easier to stop.

Keep posting sweetie.

Steph

IO Storm

Hello Kaysyb.

I wish I could jump in and hug you. I can relate to just about everything concerning your struggle..

I am IO Storm. I chose the name because my Higher Power holds me still today in the center of the storm where I do not drink just for today. I can choose to renter the other wall of the hurricane by picking up a drink or a drug.


When you try to stop, if you have tried, does it feel like your brain is burning and you are trembly inside? Do you get physically ill after a few hours?

I suppose I have earned the right to give you some advice.
I have been in and out of 12 Step programs for 14 years.

I gave up weed and amphetamines, but Alcohol won every time I tried to fight it. I now have 13 months sober.

Sit down and write a list, an honest list how much you actually do drink and how many pills you take. Look at your list.

See a doctor immediately, don't put it off, and tell him/her EVERYTHING.

Your life is too important, you are too important.

I went to two treatment centers in the past, they were great, but, as I learned in 12 Step rooms "I wasn't done yet."

This last time around I got sober slowly, my last drink was in February last year, and gave up my amphetamines slowly in June last year. I stayed with a friend who made sure I was all right.

However;

I do NOT recommend this way for reasons concerning
your physical health;

1) I was healed by God from acute alcoholic hepatitus 11 years ago. I do not know what your physical condition is. Thank God I have almost regained my health again after tempting fate between attempts at being clean and sober.
2)
The first treatment center episode detoxed me from a 25 year (prescribed) addiction to Valium and Xanax. I was sent home with a 4 month regime of detox. The sudden
withdrawal of these, especially combined with alcohol dependence can be deadly.

Stay on the site and let us know how you are.

(One more more time though, detox in a medical setting is OK, with your history they won't let you go "cold turkey". If you decide to go, make sure you are educated about what the facility offers you.)

Love,

IO Storm

stone

Hi kay! I am sure plenty of people have done it all alone but I would recommend getting any help you can.
For now I would advise hanging around here asking any questions you have and reading other peoples experience and if you need support it is here for you!

nogard

welcome kay

wingsfree

Hi Kay, welcome to SoberRecovery.

Where to start, I've been drinking the biggest part of my life, I'm 51 (sorta hehe) and have recently got myself sober, pretty much doing it myself while living with a drinker.

I tried everything possible over the past few years, and I mean everything, what finally worked for me was talking to my Dr, and yes I was a bit uncomfortable with it at first, but he seen the shape I was in that day and listened and made me feel at ease, I suffer from depression something I was in denial about, well not today he started me on anti depressants and I've been sober since, 251 days today.

I worry about my kids also, they are grown and both drink, today I'm able to be a good example of living without rotten booze and pray they soon see how much better it is. It's definatly as sad state what drinking does to us, it literally takes our souls that's how I was feeling, we get into such a dark place and think there's no way out.....well there is, you try everything possible and keep reading reading reading absorb as much information as you can, there is a way out of this misery, that's a promise.

Also most of us had to change our thinking from, I can't, I can't, I'm trying, I'm trying.....to YES I can do this...YOU CAN YOU CAN Kay.

You have the best support ever finding the gang here, please listen to what everyone says, I know how hard that is to do when our minds are clouded over, and I have tears typing this because I know how much this hurts, it's a living hell, time to free yourself from it Kay.

Go talk to your Dr there's nothing to be embarrassed about, we're all human not one of us is perfect.

Wishing you all the best in your journey to recovery.

Love.....Denise