Miserable.
 

I have been sober for 1 month and 24 days, and I am absolutely miserable. There's so much other stuff going on in my life right now, but I can't concentrate to save my life, and I just feel so incredibly depressed for no good reason. I am going to a wedding this summer, so my boyfriend and I are spending 5 days at the beach 12 hours away...I know it's just a matter of time. My sobriety is getting the best of me and I don't know how to make it any better. I have officially given up on AA, and I just found out that my insurance dropped me last week (long story) so I can no longer go to my therapist. I don't know if I am depressed because of sobriety or other things, but I am incapable of getting anything done for school, and I keep slipping up at work. I just can't seem to stay focused on anything. I don't feel like myself. Thanks for listening.

Maybe try some different AA meetings? Might just be that the particular ones that you attended just didn't click with you.

"I know it's just a matter of time"....<<<<<that is the alcohol talking, DONT listen to it.

Hang in there & keep posting. You can do this!!

**** Ma;
I'm sorry things are difficult for you right now.
If you've stopped AA, what are you doing to help support this massive change you're undergoing? Behavioral changes are difficult to maintain if you don't replace the negative behavior with a positive one.

You're welcome to come on down to the secular connections forum and share with the others. Together, each of us is making our way in a secular fashion. Sharing ideas helps.

Oh, and depression is a very normal response when one quits drinking. But, CONGRATULATIONS on almost two months clean and sober! :cheer
Shalom!

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“When you get into a tight place and...it seems as though you could not hold on a minute longer, never give up then, for that is just the place and the time that the tide will turn.” -Harriet Beecher Stowe

Look familar? Hang in there Katie. Getting drunk will just give you a big hangover, and a lot more problems.

****,

It doesn't have to be AA, but you do have to be something, on a daily basis, to stay sober. It takes a lot of work. What kinds of things are you doing to move forward in your life? You have a chance to stop this before it becomes a relapse. You can do this!

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Here is a link that might help you to understand a little about what you are going through. http://www.tlctx.com/ar_pages/paw_part1.htm

Don't give up, It a rocky ride but I'm pushing 8 months and it smoothing out and it is so worth it... life is a rocky ride enjoy it sober

Hugs...
This might help explain
link from my files on PAWS...

http://www.tlctx.com/ar_pages/paw_part1.htm

The longer you stay sober the easier it becomes

Dear **** ma, I remember feeling very similar to you

aroun my 6 week mark....I coulded think for anything,

I thought someone stold my brain...but as i read in under the

influence, this is very common...more common for me since I am

ADD. Have you spoken to a doc about whats going on, just a thought..

You are in my thoughts. hugs ((((((((((((hope3))))))))))

as far as just a matter of time...you dont have to commit to staying sober for any amount of time...all you have to do is stay sober TODAY. thats it, nothing more. we all can make it to the end of today and worry about tommorow when it gets here.

our addictions have a voice......it tells us relapse is coming.....that there is no way to stay sober......that we can't make it another day......that life was better, easier while we were using......

it lies.....don't listen.....you can make it.......just figure out a way to get help.....and keep posting here......

hang in...

hugs
ayla

"Restless, irritable, discontent ?"

You're still in really early sobriety. Give it a chance.

Like others said, try another meeting. Have you been going every day ? Do you have a sponsor ? Are you working the steps ? Making phone calls ?

Hi again ****, I Know it's hard to believe, but what ayla, Glass, and chicago said is true.

had the early hi around day 7 through

10,, then I cried at everything...........then I felt a little from life again


then Around 30 days, I wanted a drink,,,I was so depressed,

I came on here and said,,,HELP.......Of course all the wonderful peps here helped........

and for the last month 60 through now, I'm close to 90...

I am on this incredible high on life,,, I had problems too, still do.

How it will work for you I don't know.

But hold on to your hat, for you are on the ride

of your life, stay on the wagon, my friend........

Hugs ((((((((((((hope3)))))))))

Hi **** and welcome to SR.

Lots of great advise and support here, so I won't add anything BUT,

Keep posting and we are glad you are here!

Why?

I've been where you are. And the only thing I can say is that it passes, as long as you are willing to go through it and not pick up that first drink. It will get better...

**** Ma, AA nor any other program will work if you do not work it.

I owe my life to AA because I was willing to do anything to get and stay sober.

You say AA doesn't work for you, did you work it or just go to a few meetings and say "So"?

Have you tried other programs? Did you work them?

Hon I do not care what program you use to stay sober, if you do not work them they can not work.

What you are going through right now is perfectly normal in early sobriety, but when you do not call any one or speak to any one face to face that has been where you are at right now it makes it a whole lot harder to deal with.

SR is great, but it is just a secondary support system, there is nothing that can out do F2F contact, a hug when that is needed, a smile, warm conversation with someone who has walked in your shoes.

I'll share my experience re: this.

Alcohol is not the problem, it is but a symptom.

When alcohol is taken away, we are the same, now sober. With nothing to "treat" our minds, and our alcoholic thinking.

It's my MIND which is the problem. My perception. Irritable, discontent, & a disatisfied mind.

This has taken me considerable time to understand and how is affects me, because I was not familiar with this concept & had not been introducted to this way of sobriety.

My last drink was May 2001, but after years of sobriety, I found that while many aspects of my life had improved, (hey, I wasn't drunk anyway...) I was still feeling like:

IS THIS ALL THERE IS TO THIS SOBRIETY THING?

SURELY THERE MUST BE MORE TO THIS........WHY HASN'T MY LIFE REALLY IMPROVED?

Can you relate to this?

Tom

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Hi ****, how ya doung?

((hope3))))))))))))

****....been thinking of you, everything ok? are you feeling any better?