You know that it's normal to feel scared and confused about things. I couldn't believe I had gotten myself into the situation I had. What worked for me was changing my routines and patterns in my life. Plan to be doing something different at the time of the day you would have been drinking. Stop going to places you used to go to drink or seeing people you drank with. It's not easy, but it helps a lot. And, as far as putting the family unit back together, for me, that was where I had to learn patience. It was really, really hard to just have to wait and accept and see what would happen. But, that's really all you can do, besides staying sober.
Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us.