hope3

Hi kevin, I am also sending hugs and LOL, you are
always encouraging others in their time of need because
of the wonderful person you are. I'm glad to here you'll
be spending the day with your daughter and nice caring
people. God bless, Hope3.

Rusty Zipper

kevbro... just think'n of you...

remember the line..."Pain is the Touchstone"

blessings to you our friend...

love,... patrick

nogard

Thanks Rusty, I will read more on that later today but i get it, I believe somewhere it also says; "... misery is optional.." Today I feel like I can continue on my way even though grief covers me often. I don't feel so paralysed anymore and this morning I actually played with the dogs and laughed.

Thank you all and I hope you are all enjoying your day wether or not you celebrate Chrissy.

Your Love has helped keep me afloat and I pray for only the best for each of us.

Kevin

best

Glad you include yourself in that prayer "us" You are worth it.

Hope your day went well and was filled with many smiles.

nogard

I am having a good day best surrounded again by friends in recovery. I am getting ready to go to a meeting.

I need some advice and I have been praying for help and asking OCM's here. I am 19 months clean and my finances are still in a mess whilst they are under control if I take a week out to go to the uk for my dad's funeral it will set me back many months and may put my work in jepordary. In short I feel its not resposnble to go even though I want to. My family is hassling me to go and I only have a few days to decide and sort it out. A couple of years ago I did spend time with my dad and in my heart I said goodbye to him.

Anyway my question is, how do I decide? I have left a message for one member here who I believe can give me a clear answer for many reasons and I thought that if I posted here that maybe someone would have some info or similiar experiences.

Kevin

Arura

Just Love to you and your Famliy (((((Kev))))....xXx..

Love from the UK is with you .....

mikel60

Hi Nogard,
Sorry to hear about your dad. Peace to you and your family.
Mike

German69

I'm very sorry for your tremendous loss.

Rusty Zipper

kev wow, just like me and my dad some time ago... what i did was what i felt in my heart was correct...

kev... then, and now... i found i made the right choice... and the other family members have now accepted my choice of decission...

good wishes kevbro

I'mready99

Kevin...

I would make the choice that is right for you. Your Dad would understand...

I'm sure he would not want you to lose your job, or mess up your finances...

You can be there with him in "spirit" if you decide not to go...

I would make the choice that is right for you, your future and your sobriety...

One day at a time.

Steve

Digger

Stick in there nog, thinking of you

best

Kevin

What do "you need" to do? I have missed a funeral or two of relatives because of distance and schedules and money issues. If I felt the need to be there, nothing would stop me from going anyplace.
If you need to be there for "you"...the set back in money is something you will get over in time. A tough choice that I can't make for you.
As I said...I have missed a few of relatives but I have also been driven by a need to be there at others. Let your heart guide you.

ASH

Kevin, very sorry to hear about your loss.
I am glad you got to spend time with your Dad a few years ago,
to me, thats what counts.
As others have said, make the right decision for you.
Your Dad is in your heart,
not in the negative comments and opinions of relatives
who might be better off offering support and condolences.
Take care

nogard

Thanks for all your advice, it has helped and made my wavering thoughts clearer.

Doing ok today.

Kevin

Rusty Zipper

glad to hear your doing ok today kev...

nogard

Thanks Rusty.

Still here and still struglling. Came into work today as I worked at home yesterday forgetting that I am not a loner and need to be with people. Still have a heavy heart this morning, it usually lifts after an hour or two.

Kevin