Very sad.
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My condolences too, Kevin, and prayers for you and your family.
My mother was 90 when she died, and I know that even though they had a good long life, we are never prepared to say goodbye.
The poet Rumi said it well.
Say not, 'Fairwell! Good-by!' to me, when you left my coffin in the grave. For, the grave is the curtain of the Garden (Paradise).
You have witnessed the sunset, so watch the rising (of the sun), as well. What harm can the sun and the moon receive by setting?
It seems like setting to you, but it is, in fact, rising.
My mother was 90 when she died, and I know that even though they had a good long life, we are never prepared to say goodbye.
The poet Rumi said it well.
Say not, 'Fairwell! Good-by!' to me, when you left my coffin in the grave. For, the grave is the curtain of the Garden (Paradise).
You have witnessed the sunset, so watch the rising (of the sun), as well. What harm can the sun and the moon receive by setting?
It seems like setting to you, but it is, in fact, rising.
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**********************{Kevin}}}}}}}}}}}}}}
My heart goes out to you at this time as I know how hard it is to lose a parent. It doesn't seem to matter the age or how sick they have been, the loss of a loved one still has a strong effect on us. There is no right or wrong way to grieve....just allow yourself to go through this time the best way you possibly can and remember to allow other to be there for you.....let them help you through these times.
My heart goes out to you at this time as I know how hard it is to lose a parent. It doesn't seem to matter the age or how sick they have been, the loss of a loved one still has a strong effect on us. There is no right or wrong way to grieve....just allow yourself to go through this time the best way you possibly can and remember to allow other to be there for you.....let them help you through these times.
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Ohhhhh (((((Kev))))) Im So Sorry to hear this ...
Prayers are for you and your Family at this time..
Glad your Around Others Hon..
Big Hugs from Over Here ,...
They have grounded Heathrow but Stanstead and Gatwick are still Just Working ,...But the Fog will lift soon....!
BA,..not flyin but worth Cheaking ...!
Hang in there my friend....xXx...
Prayers are for you and your Family at this time..
Glad your Around Others Hon..
Big Hugs from Over Here ,...
They have grounded Heathrow but Stanstead and Gatwick are still Just Working ,...But the Fog will lift soon....!
BA,..not flyin but worth Cheaking ...!
Hang in there my friend....xXx...
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(((Kevin))))
I am so sorry for your loss. Please know that you will be in my thoughts and prayers too during this time. I know the pain of losing a parent too... I bet your dad was so proud of what you have accomplished with your life. You can rest a bit easier knowing that he saw your growth and good recovery. Please take good care of yourself.
hugs and love,
cmc
I am so sorry for your loss. Please know that you will be in my thoughts and prayers too during this time. I know the pain of losing a parent too... I bet your dad was so proud of what you have accomplished with your life. You can rest a bit easier knowing that he saw your growth and good recovery. Please take good care of yourself.
hugs and love,
cmc
everything is already ok
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I don't know what to say, cant see with stinging tears in my eyes. Thank you all. I started my recovery here at SR and felt so held and again I feel held here while I am having trouble letting friends in.
I came home and slept some last night, still don't belive it.
I know he was proud of me and I also know dad would not want me to do any less than find myself and peace.
Really not looking forward to telling my daughter today, first I have to find her, she is 20 and its Saturday Morning and its Christmas!
I will keep close.
Thank you. All of you.
Kevin
I came home and slept some last night, still don't belive it.
I know he was proud of me and I also know dad would not want me to do any less than find myself and peace.
Really not looking forward to telling my daughter today, first I have to find her, she is 20 and its Saturday Morning and its Christmas!
I will keep close.
Thank you. All of you.
Kevin
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(((Kevin)))
May your HP help you find the strength and the right words to tell your daughter this sad news...
Please stay strong and positive my friend...
Time will heal your hurt...
One day at a time.
Steve
May your HP help you find the strength and the right words to tell your daughter this sad news...
Please stay strong and positive my friend...
Time will heal your hurt...
One day at a time.
Steve
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((((Kevin))))
I am so sorry for you to get this sad news at this time of the year especially. I lost my 82 yr old dad 5 Christmas's ago. I am sending you hugs and prayers.
marteen
I am so sorry for you to get this sad news at this time of the year especially. I lost my 82 yr old dad 5 Christmas's ago. I am sending you hugs and prayers.
marteen
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Kevin...I don't know what the circumstances were of his death, but 90 years is a looooong time...and, if he had been ill, it could have seemed an eternity to him. Whatever the case, be comforted by the thought that his Higher Power has taken him home.
My only brother passed away suddenly just short of his 31st birthday in 1973, and I've never quite gotten over the shock. My mom, on the other hand just turned 95 and is in the advanced stages of Alzheimer's...she doesn't know where she is or who she's with...hasn't recognized me for the past couple of years. I do believe mom is ready to go; but, I'm afraid my sister as her caretaker is determined that she will live forever (or at least to 100). I guess when God is ready...and, all any of us can do is accept it when the time comes...as it will inevitably (sooner or later) for all of us. I suppose at 75, I can afford to be realistic.
My only brother passed away suddenly just short of his 31st birthday in 1973, and I've never quite gotten over the shock. My mom, on the other hand just turned 95 and is in the advanced stages of Alzheimer's...she doesn't know where she is or who she's with...hasn't recognized me for the past couple of years. I do believe mom is ready to go; but, I'm afraid my sister as her caretaker is determined that she will live forever (or at least to 100). I guess when God is ready...and, all any of us can do is accept it when the time comes...as it will inevitably (sooner or later) for all of us. I suppose at 75, I can afford to be realistic.
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A prayer and thoughts for you Kev.
Don't grieve for me, for now I'm free; I took His hand when I heard him call; I turned my back and left it all. If my parting has left a void; then fill it with remembered joy. My life’s been full, I savored much; good friends, good times, a loved one’s touch. A friendship shared, a laugh, a kiss; ah yes, these things, I too, will miss. Perhaps my time seemed all too brief; don't lengthen it now with undue grief. Lift up your hearts and share with me; God wanted me now, He set me free.
Don't grieve for me, for now I'm free; I took His hand when I heard him call; I turned my back and left it all. If my parting has left a void; then fill it with remembered joy. My life’s been full, I savored much; good friends, good times, a loved one’s touch. A friendship shared, a laugh, a kiss; ah yes, these things, I too, will miss. Perhaps my time seemed all too brief; don't lengthen it now with undue grief. Lift up your hearts and share with me; God wanted me now, He set me free.
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Sorry man, I lost my dad 8 yrs ago at the tender age of 55. It was tough, I am left with this thought of my father though, He walked through the doors of AA on Jan. 31, 1975 and stayed sober till he drew that last breath.
Peace be with you
Scot
Peace be with you
Scot
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