girlafraid

Hello all. I came across this site on accident this evening, but feel it's quite relevant to what I am currently dealing with.
I'll give you a quick overview of my story, so you may understand why.

Two years ago, life as I knew it fell apart. My three year old son was diagnosed with cancer just weeks after my husband left me. I was surprisingly strong for the first year, maybe because I was so consumed with my son's well-being. But after he got a clean bill of health and the divorce papers were signed, I guess I loosened my grip of control on my life.
I took a new job with a prestigious company. We had to meet with alot of clients over dinner and drinks. Before I knew it, I was drinking on a daily basis. I found any and every excuse to drink. Hey, it's a beautiful day! Let's drink. I closed a deal! Let's drink. I had a hard day. Let's drink....and so on and so forth...
About eight months ago, my co-workers introduced me to cocaine. It was straight downhill from that point. I got so distracted by my 'party lifestyle' that I couldn't keep up on my bills and take care of my kids. I lost my house, my children, and recently, my job. I never realized when I took that first drink after years of sobriety that it would, in essence, ruin my life.
So I am here now, sober for just over a week. I am realizing all of the lies I told myself, and I am making an attempt to get my life in order. I have many questions for those of you who have maintained complete sobriety, and I would appreciate any feedback you are willing to share.
Thanks.

Anna

Hi Girlafraid,

Welcome and I am glad you found us.

Congratulations on being sober for a week! That's great and you're on your way to a sober life. If you want to ask questions, you've come to the right place. There's lots of support here, so keep posting.

CarolD

Welcome to SR!..

It's super your son is now well..what a miracle!

I am glad you found us...amd we are here to share with
you from our own experiences.

Ask away...you will get support and information.

Midas

Hiya Girlafraid! Congrats on your sober time so far.

Candy Scratch

Hi Girlafraid & welcome to SR,

Boy what a mix in your post --

First of all, thank God your son is OK. Whenever I hear someone beating cancer it makes my heart sing. And, by the grace of God, if he was able to beat that horrible disease, then you certainly can beat yours too.

You have taken the first step and it's a big one. Congrats on your first week!!This place is a wonderful, supportive forum. Are you getting any support elsewhere as well?

Hugs,
CS

scootinbabe

welcome! keep coming back!

MALFUNCTION

hi girlafraid

only one way .... 12 steps

hang on, "one day at a time" til the steps completed.

there is nothing to fear.

ask a question.

thejig

As one of my "old timer" friends says, "As long as there's a heartbeat..there's hope" You my friend have hope.
Thanks for sharing and congratulations on your newfound sobriety.
Hang in there

girlafraid

Wow! I am overwhelmed by all of your responses. It's nice to know there are people here to talk to....

My first question is....should I get involved in going to some type of meetings? And how do you suggest I break away from the people in my life that are still using drugs and alcohol? Even if they are family members?

Thanks again for the support...it means alot!

MALFUNCTION

Alcoholics Anonymous meetings will help you ... decide.


only you can.


It may not be necessary to distance your self from family or friends unless you consider their drinking or drug use to be a problem for your sobriety.


seek advice from the oldtimers at the meeting.

1_day@_a_time

YOU are here!

It takes TONS of courage to speak up!

YOU are on your way.........

Hope you won't do it alone.

It's a mind powered disease..........treat it like you would cancer.