Sometimes I want to drink....
Sometimes I want to drink....
I do want to drink sometimes but most of the time it is out of anger at my husband, i havent drank in 4 months and he doesnt seem to care, he doest say god job or im proud the only time he ever really says something is when i say I want a drink or I should go get drunk, then he goes instantly on the defensive.
I feel I have made a huge change in my life and he has done nothing, I mean nothing at all he doest help or pick up around the house or even after his ownself and he has isolated my kids, he hasnt acted like a husband or a father in months.
He treats other kids better then he does our own, he hasnt said 10 words to either of them in weeks. He did speak to the nine yr old only when he was spanking her for what i dont know.
He comes home and sits on the computer on all his "fantasy" teams or else he plays poker online, when the computer is occupied he plays yu-gi-oh on the gameboy, like he has to do something to avoid interaction with anyone.
I love him but I am really done having a roommate, I want my husband and the kids father back.
Does anyone else feel alone sometimes, I know I cant be the only one in this kind of prediciment.
Maybe im just being selfish and needy but sometimes I think I deserve to be.
Thanks for letting me vent.
I feel I have made a huge change in my life and he has done nothing, I mean nothing at all he doest help or pick up around the house or even after his ownself and he has isolated my kids, he hasnt acted like a husband or a father in months.
He treats other kids better then he does our own, he hasnt said 10 words to either of them in weeks. He did speak to the nine yr old only when he was spanking her for what i dont know.
He comes home and sits on the computer on all his "fantasy" teams or else he plays poker online, when the computer is occupied he plays yu-gi-oh on the gameboy, like he has to do something to avoid interaction with anyone.
I love him but I am really done having a roommate, I want my husband and the kids father back.
Does anyone else feel alone sometimes, I know I cant be the only one in this kind of prediciment.
Maybe im just being selfish and needy but sometimes I think I deserve to be.
Thanks for letting me vent.
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Originally Posted by Krys_wyo
I do want to drink sometimes but most of the time it is out of anger at my husband, i havent drank in 4 months and he doesnt seem to care, he doest say god job or im proud the only time he ever really says something is when i say I want a drink or I should go get drunk, then he goes instantly on the defensive.
I feel I have made a huge change in my life and he has done nothing, I mean nothing at all he doest help or pick up around the house or even after his ownself and he has isolated my kids, he hasnt acted like a husband or a father in months.
He treats other kids better then he does our own, he hasnt said 10 words to either of them in weeks. He did speak to the nine yr old only when he was spanking her for what i dont know.
He comes home and sits on the computer on all his "fantasy" teams or else he plays poker online, when the computer is occupied he plays yu-gi-oh on the gameboy, like he has to do something to avoid interaction with anyone.
I love him but I am really done having a roommate, I want my husband and the kids father back.
Does anyone else feel alone sometimes, I know I cant be the only one in this kind of prediciment.
Maybe im just being selfish and needy but sometimes I think I deserve to be.
Thanks for letting me vent.
I feel I have made a huge change in my life and he has done nothing, I mean nothing at all he doest help or pick up around the house or even after his ownself and he has isolated my kids, he hasnt acted like a husband or a father in months.
He treats other kids better then he does our own, he hasnt said 10 words to either of them in weeks. He did speak to the nine yr old only when he was spanking her for what i dont know.
He comes home and sits on the computer on all his "fantasy" teams or else he plays poker online, when the computer is occupied he plays yu-gi-oh on the gameboy, like he has to do something to avoid interaction with anyone.
I love him but I am really done having a roommate, I want my husband and the kids father back.
Does anyone else feel alone sometimes, I know I cant be the only one in this kind of prediciment.
Maybe im just being selfish and needy but sometimes I think I deserve to be.
Thanks for letting me vent.
Hi Krys,
It seems that, often our families have no idea what we go through to stop drinking and how hard it is. My husband and children never have said a word to me about my sobriety either. It used to bother me, but I no longer focus on it. They just wanted me to be better. That's it.
You are making changes in your life and it is bound to affect those close to you. All you can do is to not drink and be the best person you can be. You can try to talk to your husband, or suggest marriage counselling, but you cannot change him unless he wants to change.
I hope that you continue to stay sober for you and for your children. It is so worth it.
It seems that, often our families have no idea what we go through to stop drinking and how hard it is. My husband and children never have said a word to me about my sobriety either. It used to bother me, but I no longer focus on it. They just wanted me to be better. That's it.
You are making changes in your life and it is bound to affect those close to you. All you can do is to not drink and be the best person you can be. You can try to talk to your husband, or suggest marriage counselling, but you cannot change him unless he wants to change.
I hope that you continue to stay sober for you and for your children. It is so worth it.
Krys...
Oh sugar, how I can relate.....be it gamboy, nintendo, sports, EVE Online, TFC, you name it, I can relate!!!! And I get so sick of it, yet when I invite him to spend an afternoon with the kids and I at the park, go to the zoo (we have a membership that HE has never used) or just plain doing ANYTHING... I am looked at as if I have a 3rd eyeball...BUT......mention a drink or two and depending on his mood....he either snaps and calls me names for being "weak" or says...."Hell yeah lets do it" ..... I dont but the point is there!!!! I am so lonely, and I feel your pain, please stay strong!!!!!!
Love Liss
Oh sugar, how I can relate.....be it gamboy, nintendo, sports, EVE Online, TFC, you name it, I can relate!!!! And I get so sick of it, yet when I invite him to spend an afternoon with the kids and I at the park, go to the zoo (we have a membership that HE has never used) or just plain doing ANYTHING... I am looked at as if I have a 3rd eyeball...BUT......mention a drink or two and depending on his mood....he either snaps and calls me names for being "weak" or says...."Hell yeah lets do it" ..... I dont but the point is there!!!! I am so lonely, and I feel your pain, please stay strong!!!!!!
Love Liss
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there are so many new friends waiting to be met.
That is where the fellowship part of AA kicks in!
Congratulations on your sober time!!
Krys...I understand exactly how you feel! I felt so isolated from my husband. We were two people existing in the same house. Since he didn't care if I was there or not, I went out. I partied with my friends. I met someone and had an affair. I don't know how and I don't know when, but it all turned around. Today I love my husband more than I ever thought possible. I'm happy, our relationship is healthy.....
I know there's not a lot of advise here, but maybe some encouragement that things do get better.
I know there's not a lot of advise here, but maybe some encouragement that things do get better.
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