how to deal with a breakup so early in recovery?
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how to deal with a breakup so early in recovery?
i just broke up with my boyfriend... after a long time of it seeming like he had no desire to see or talk to me, unless i initiated it... and he said exactly what i thought he would say "okay" and he shrugged. he didn't even flinch. (this is after a 8 month relationship.
i wondered... why the f**k did he just not break up with me?
i am terribly upset, altho somewhat relieved, but wanting to DRINK BAD.
i am 22 days sober, and i stopped at the grocery store in my bldg when i got home and, if they had had any even somewhat decent a selection of wine, i would have picked up a bottle.
but i said to myself f**k that i'm not going to drink crappy wine if i'm going to relapse.
so. now i'm thinking about going to a liquor store.
someone please shoot me.
or tell me what the hell am i supposed to do.
i wondered... why the f**k did he just not break up with me?
i am terribly upset, altho somewhat relieved, but wanting to DRINK BAD.
i am 22 days sober, and i stopped at the grocery store in my bldg when i got home and, if they had had any even somewhat decent a selection of wine, i would have picked up a bottle.
but i said to myself f**k that i'm not going to drink crappy wine if i'm going to relapse.
so. now i'm thinking about going to a liquor store.
someone please shoot me.
or tell me what the hell am i supposed to do.
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Originally Posted by girlindc
i just broke up with my boyfriend... after a long time of it seeming like he had no desire to see or talk to me, unless i initiated it... and he said exactly what i thought he would say "okay" and he shrugged. he didn't even flinch. (this is after a 8 month relationship.
i wondered... why the f**k did he just not break up with me?
i am terribly upset, altho somewhat relieved, but wanting to DRINK BAD.
i am 22 days sober, and i stopped at the grocery store in my bldg when i got home and, if they had had any even somewhat decent a selection of wine, i would have picked up a bottle.
but i said to myself f**k that i'm not going to drink crappy wine if i'm going to relapse.
so. now i'm thinking about going to a liquor store.
someone please shoot me.
or tell me what the hell am i supposed to do.
i wondered... why the f**k did he just not break up with me?
i am terribly upset, altho somewhat relieved, but wanting to DRINK BAD.
i am 22 days sober, and i stopped at the grocery store in my bldg when i got home and, if they had had any even somewhat decent a selection of wine, i would have picked up a bottle.
but i said to myself f**k that i'm not going to drink crappy wine if i'm going to relapse.
so. now i'm thinking about going to a liquor store.
someone please shoot me.
or tell me what the hell am i supposed to do.
whenever i split with anyone, i'd have a list that i would write every single thing he did to embarass me, make me angry, turned me off, things he said, bad socks, bad jokes ect.. ect... carry this llist with you and keep adding on, one day when you think of him all these things on the list will come to your head automatically, from reading the list, you'll knwo your better off
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okay... well. after a bit of reflection i started to feel a bit better. i actually wonder why this relationship dragged on for so long. he can go and be his alcoholic/druggy self now and not have to worry about me.
i didn't go to the liquor store. instead i walked right by it and into whole foods and bought myself some flowers... and some watermelon.
good times.
thanks for the words all. it means a lot, that i can come here and whine when i have the urge to drink and have many kind words of encouragement to stay strong and sober
here are some close up photos i took with my digital cam of one of the flowers i accidentally broke while trying to arrange it in the vase
have a good night
i didn't go to the liquor store. instead i walked right by it and into whole foods and bought myself some flowers... and some watermelon.
good times.
thanks for the words all. it means a lot, that i can come here and whine when i have the urge to drink and have many kind words of encouragement to stay strong and sober
here are some close up photos i took with my digital cam of one of the flowers i accidentally broke while trying to arrange it in the vase
have a good night
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Great choice! I love to have fresh flowers too. Thanks for the reminder, it has been too long since I have bought myself this favored treat.
Your photos are great! Thank you for sharing them!
Your photos are great! Thank you for sharing them!
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great shots! there are two things that i do and both help me.
1) wallow in misery and i mean wallow: rent romantic comedies, journal, dwell on it, and allow myself to grieve the loss of a relationship.
2) work out, get a pedicure, work out, dance and crank up music.
1) wallow in misery and i mean wallow: rent romantic comedies, journal, dwell on it, and allow myself to grieve the loss of a relationship.
2) work out, get a pedicure, work out, dance and crank up music.
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