Class of August 2022 Support Thread Part 3
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I don't think that is true, dear TC. There is no castle of lies. There are warnings; there are parents, and there are so many things in our path teaching us that alcohol is dangerous if used to excess.
For me, this is about addiction, rather than making the substance we abused into an unholy grail. I can't see how that serves us; I know that that kind of anger is not good for me.
For me, this is about addiction, rather than making the substance we abused into an unholy grail. I can't see how that serves us; I know that that kind of anger is not good for me.
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** Sharing my personal story, not seeking to sway any opinion **
The powerless model kept me sober for 20 years, 3 months and about 3 weeks, so it definitely worked for me back then.
Once I relapsed and struggled with finding any significant sobriety I (unfortunately) used powerlessness to excuse bout after bout after bout after bout of drinking even through the soul-crushing, family ruining, life destroying effects that followed. I truly believed that I was powerless, that I’d die from it. That there were no longer any answers for me.
Today I am empowered in my daily commitment to live without alcohol. For me, unfortunately, if I subscribe to powerlessness I’ll drink and likely die from it.
I HAVE to embrace being empowered to chose a sober day (sober life) it gives me some esteem to acknowledge and act upon the need for abstinence.
Basically, I can chose. I don’t have to die from alcohol consumption.
This is what is working for me today.
If my tools become weak, or stop working, I’ll have to adjust my sails.
Wishing you all a peaceful, sober day.
The powerless model kept me sober for 20 years, 3 months and about 3 weeks, so it definitely worked for me back then.
Once I relapsed and struggled with finding any significant sobriety I (unfortunately) used powerlessness to excuse bout after bout after bout after bout of drinking even through the soul-crushing, family ruining, life destroying effects that followed. I truly believed that I was powerless, that I’d die from it. That there were no longer any answers for me.
Today I am empowered in my daily commitment to live without alcohol. For me, unfortunately, if I subscribe to powerlessness I’ll drink and likely die from it.
I HAVE to embrace being empowered to chose a sober day (sober life) it gives me some esteem to acknowledge and act upon the need for abstinence.
Basically, I can chose. I don’t have to die from alcohol consumption.
This is what is working for me today.
If my tools become weak, or stop working, I’ll have to adjust my sails.
Wishing you all a peaceful, sober day.
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Poison to some and not to others but 1 thing we all know is it doesn't agree with any of us. We may all have our own ways to get there but the end goal is the same.. Sobriety...
Its the end of day 74 minus 1. No thoughts of drinking even though I cleaned out the alcohol cupboard today..
I'm worried that with my relapse on Sunday the voice might creep in and encourage me to do it again but so far so good.. Hopefully when the weekend comes I'll be strong..
Its the end of day 74 minus 1. No thoughts of drinking even though I cleaned out the alcohol cupboard today..
I'm worried that with my relapse on Sunday the voice might creep in and encourage me to do it again but so far so good.. Hopefully when the weekend comes I'll be strong..
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Poison to some and not to others but 1 thing we all know is it doesn't agree with any of us. We may all have our own ways to get there but the end goal is the same.. Sobriety...
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Originally Posted by venuscat 
… and I am also the solution. I get to choose to not pick up that first ...anything.
That’ll be the plan for today.
A bit tired and feeling a bit thin, but, sobriety first, the rest will follow.
Have a sound, safe, decent, sober day all!
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Good morning dearest TC, and all of you. 
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There is nothing better than a heartfelt conversation about sobriety and recovery. Don't you just LOVE how passionate we all are?
s ❤️There is nothing better than a heartfelt conversation about sobriety and recovery. Don't you just LOVE how passionate we all are?
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Wonderful cooling off in the fall, isn’t it?
Hot soup, hot baths, hot tea, warm cookies, warm baked bread, fires in the fireplace, it’s the BEST, all enjoyed because we are sober 😍🥰
Hot soup, hot baths, hot tea, warm cookies, warm baked bread, fires in the fireplace, it’s the BEST, all enjoyed because we are sober 😍🥰
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Join Date: Sep 2013
Location: Wyoming
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I wish my surroundings weren’t so grim. I miss the backyard and all the critters. Of course I could go to the park and not whine.
Day 29 for me. I started on this thread and threw in the bar towel in September. I’ve participated in more meetings and shared more than I did in 4 years previously. It is nice to have refuges with fellow alcoholics.
I wanted to drink so bad Thursday to make a family episode go away. I made a phone call and went to a meeting.
This time around seems very real and life threatening if I drink again.
Sorry for seeming so maudlin.
I hope we all have a great Sunday.
Day 29 for me. I started on this thread and threw in the bar towel in September. I’ve participated in more meetings and shared more than I did in 4 years previously. It is nice to have refuges with fellow alcoholics.
I wanted to drink so bad Thursday to make a family episode go away. I made a phone call and went to a meeting.
This time around seems very real and life threatening if I drink again.
Sorry for seeming so maudlin.
I hope we all have a great Sunday.
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Join Date: Apr 2020
Location: Saskatchewan.
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Congrats on 29 days Im.
Glad that you made the phone call and got to a meeting.
The day count continues to go forward as long as we “continue to make the next right choice” as they say.
There are times when I want to royally roast the thing: throw my hands up and give in. I deserve better though.
So dumb to pick up, as I have in the past, over an argument or resentment. Drinking only pours more pain into my life. I’m on day 70 today, would’ve been about 285 days, but I drank one night and a bit the next day over an argument. Useless approach. No benefit to that.
Grateful to have clear eyes and a calm heart today.
Be well sober travellers!
Glad that you made the phone call and got to a meeting.
The day count continues to go forward as long as we “continue to make the next right choice” as they say.
There are times when I want to royally roast the thing: throw my hands up and give in. I deserve better though.
So dumb to pick up, as I have in the past, over an argument or resentment. Drinking only pours more pain into my life. I’m on day 70 today, would’ve been about 285 days, but I drank one night and a bit the next day over an argument. Useless approach. No benefit to that.
Grateful to have clear eyes and a calm heart today.
Be well sober travellers!
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Drinking never makes anything go away. It kind of does the opposite: it exacerbates the problem. I realised a long time ago that it was just an excuse for me; it was an opportunity to give myself permission to treat myself like crap without caring.
We deserve better. And you should go for a walk to the park, dear Imvalentine, if you are up for it.
We deserve better. And you should go for a walk to the park, dear Imvalentine, if you are up for it.
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