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Class of May 2020 part 16

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https://www.soberrecovery.com/forums...t-15-a-20.html (Class of May 2020 part 15)

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Been a rough week nerve pain wise for me TC but hopefully out of the woods and better now 😁

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Oh Dee, I am so sorry to hear that. Sending you healing love. s xx

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Thanks Suze

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Old 10-06-2021, 04:31 PM
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I hope you feel all better, Dee!
TC, I hope you finally had some rest.
Willow, have you thought about asking your family to skip a year? You would be perfectly within your rights to do that, in my opinion. Maybe you and your husband can go on a small trip right over the holiday.
I get that 'maybe just only on holidays, or special occasions, or whatever,' sometimes, too. But I have so much experience with failure, that it kind of is an asset to me now. I've had so many 'just this once' screw-ups. I have beat that poor horse to death. (That may not be a saying in other countries... I promise no animals were harmed in the creation of my addiction)
Not that all that try and fail makes me immune to the AV. It seems to know just how to make me believe the most preposterous lies. But, it does help. I think of all that when I think of a drink.
Anyway, today was very long and boring. Orientation. I'm doing pretty good.
I hope everyone is.
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I hope the pain settles soon Dee

I would love to skip this Christmas at home, but it’s the last year of it, as we’re planning to sell the house next year once step daughter finishes school and leaves (school finishes in a couple of months and she’s moving out right after new year). So we’ll be downsizing next year and won’t have a pool anymore (too much work for the little use it gets). So it’s kind of a farewell house Christmas too 🤷‍♀️

But I’m not going to dwell too much on it, just make sure I have loads of n/a drinks available
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That is what I would do too dear Willow ....and I like that you planned it all out now, as in early....no more worrying about Christmas ...just fun drink names and pretty glasses and stuff
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Ahhhh Dee, sorry about the nerve pain. My wife will be yelping for sometimes three days with it (back surgery). I know that it can be tough and exhausting.
I hope you can get more rest.

Willow, your finale Christmas will be so nice and probably a bit emotional and melancholy. It sounds like it’ll be a really special time.
Might have to toss each other in the pool for a final hooraH.

Orientation day can be boring Karen. Glad that you are looking forward to it.

nmd, such a beautiful, sensational, autumn photo with the sunshine on the pumpkins.

I’m loving the weather.
Super grateful to be sober these days.

Be well friends.




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I'm pretty much back to normal now but thanks TC
Hope your wife doesn't suffer from it too often.

Edit - thank to everyone else too - only just now had the chance to read back a bit.

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Great pumpkins nmd!

Karen I’m glad orientation went ok
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I managed to get some more information from my siblings and hospital staff. Dad was drinking very heavily starting at noon or even earlier. I had no idea how bad it got because I haven't seen him in 4 years and was never invited or allowed to visit. Apparently, he was drinking like this daily since mom died 3 years ago which explains why I was frozen out.

Alcohol is indeed cunning and baffling. Dad was frustrated with my mom's drinking for years. Mom would pressure him to drink with her and my dad often refused and would leave the room to work on his hobby. He had never had a drink before he met my mom as medical students. With my struggles with alcohol and my mom drinking herself to death, I am very surprised my dad became an alcoholic this late in life.

Hope everyone is doing well! Thanks for letting me vent!
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I have faith that your dad can heal dear WL s
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WL, the struggles with alcohol that affected you both might be the common ground that leads to a deeper relationship.
One day at a time. Give the man a big hug when you get the chance.

My day was balanced and normal. I’m not worried about a thousand things at once.
I can entirely accept life as it is, today.
I credit the meds; might be something greater. Who knows.

Today was good, and for that, I am abundantly grateful.

Have a really good thing friends.

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Sending hugs, WL. It's a lot to process. I'm praying for your dad and for you.
My grandmother didn't drink for most of her life, and my grandfather was an alcoholic. He was really terrible, always drunk, gone for days to who knows where. She had eight children during the depression and wasn't able to keep them all fed. But she held up and did her best, until my grandfather got sober in AA, met a new woman and left her. Then, she started drinking, got super sick from it and died a few years later. Such a tragedy for all those kids, and for her, of course. It's a terrible disease, to be sure.
TC, it's good to hear you're having peace and serenity. It's a big difference from a few weeks ago when you were so sick in body and spirit.
I'm enjoying my day off. I go back tomorrow. I think I'll love this job. I got to meet my residents yesterday. I'll be working in memory care, but at Arbor they divide the residents into two neighborhoods for memory care. One is the severely impaired and one is the less severe. I'll be in the less severe, which I prefer a lot. They are such a fun group.
Have a great sober day everyone, and enjoy the weekend!
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That is awesome Karen, re your job. I am very happy for you.
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Such an interesting and tragic story about your grandparents Karen.
i’ve shared here about a family; A mom, dad, and four boys (two of which I hung out with) wiped off the map due to alcoholism.
AA would’ve been much less prevalent back in the days of your grandfather, I would think.
Your job sounds like it will be very rewarding. Way to go!!

I have a counselling appt. this morning, and then, a service appointment for my in-truck breathalyzer this afternoon.
It costs me $88 per month plus tax, so about $93.00 over a five year term. This appointment marks two years of having it.
The unit is really not a bother when it works well. When it doesn’t, the stress of it will make you cry, or give you chest pains, or both. I’m grateful to have it, tough, it gives me the freedom to get around.

Have a decent, sound, day all.

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My new (old) truck.



I’ve got it bad for this vehicle.
I’ve changed every fluid, even siphoned out the brake and steering fluids and replaced with new. Place all new tires on it (load rated). I’ve polished and shined. I’ve tinted the rear glass. Put side window visors on it. (my bumper treatment left streaks, but, once aged a few months, I can remedy this)

I, actually, bought this from our vehicle insurer, fixed it up some and voila! (Rear drivers corner and bumper was crumpled) I spent a day tapping out the body with body tools. Replaced the bumper,etc. Had an inspection. Passed.

The best thing, and reason I post, is that it gives me esteem.

I was told, years ago, in a lifeskills course that your vehicle should be something that gives you esteem.

This one is nearly 28 years old. Has only 86 250 miles (138 000 km).
Hopefully it will run well and last. It could be a very good camper hauler. Yay!

Be well folks.

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I think it will still be running after we are not dear TC s xx
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I think it will still be running after we are not dear TC s xx
Hahaha! Yeah, maybe you’re right!

Too funny.!

Hope your day is good.




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It is not
But I will survive..... ❤️
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