Class of January 2021 part three
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Class of January 2021 part three
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Congrats to everyone hitting a milestone today.
James I had a lot of problems and the solution to all of them was to drink. I drank for so many years I was scared of having to deal with stuff sober...but once I tried it was a lot easier than I’d convinced myself it would be.
Sounds like you might be at that crossroads too?
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James I had a lot of problems and the solution to all of them was to drink. I drank for so many years I was scared of having to deal with stuff sober...but once I tried it was a lot easier than I’d convinced myself it would be.
Sounds like you might be at that crossroads too?
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Originally Posted by Lixie 
Yeah. Not getting sued.
Termites can eat out a building from the outside and reduce it to dust. Don’t let addiction do that to the life you’ve built/building Lixie.
I really don't want to talk about it, I'm sorry. [img]//www.soberrecovery.com/forums/images/smilies/frown.gif[/img]
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Part 3,
I'm not finished with Part 2 yet, LOL
Anyway I didn't add in my previous post, my brother has been hospitalised with another brain tumor.
As Lloyd Bridges says in 'Flying High' ... great time to give up drinking
I'm not finished with Part 2 yet, LOL
Anyway I didn't add in my previous post, my brother has been hospitalised with another brain tumor.
As Lloyd Bridges says in 'Flying High' ... great time to give up drinking
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I’m sorry for your brother and for the carer dropping the ball and your wife yelling at you and the stress of the COVID test.
That is tough, but I reckon you’re tougher.
Life won’t pause while we get sober...but there is always good advice and support here.
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That is tough, but I reckon you’re tougher.
Life won’t pause while we get sober...but there is always good advice and support here.
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I need to go back and read your post dear James. 
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I am so sorry abut your brother. So much healing love for him. And love to you. xx ❤️
EDIT..... I read it. s
One of the things I discovered when I got sober was that I had no ability to take responsibility for anything without getting upset.
If someone blamed me, I folded. If I broke something, I was crushed. If I paid a bill twice (it happens) and left myself no money for food I was shattered. And so on.
Now, when someone yells at me or I lose the thing from the post office to pick up a package or I throw out my favourite ring by accident (happened a few months back) I can say OK, that wasn't good. And move forward. Maybe not in five minutes, but still.
I can sit with the feelings as they say in the AA rooms.
And if you had told me this when I was newly sober I may have walked out on you.....just saying.
I changed. Calmed down.....eventually.
We get better at coping with things. ❤️
sI am so sorry abut your brother. So much healing love for him. And love to you. xx ❤️
EDIT..... I read it.
sOne of the things I discovered when I got sober was that I had no ability to take responsibility for anything without getting upset.
If someone blamed me, I folded. If I broke something, I was crushed. If I paid a bill twice (it happens
) and left myself no money for food I was shattered. And so on.Now, when someone yells at me or I lose the thing from the post office to pick up a package or I throw out my favourite ring by accident (happened a few months back) I can say OK, that wasn't good. And move forward. Maybe not in five minutes, but still.
I can sit with the feelings as they say in the AA rooms.
And if you had told me this when I was newly sober I may have walked out on you.....just saying.
I changed. Calmed down.....eventually.
We get better at coping with things. ❤️
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James, I’m so sorry about your brother. I’ll keep him in my thoughts, and hope there’s treatment to cure him.
Im feeling so tired today. Also craving sweets. I’m allowing myself some, to keep from craving and going for alcohol. Being mindful of HALT. I think I might try for a catnap in the recliner. Hopefully it will perk me up. Hoping to make beef and broccoli stir fry tonight.
Im feeling so tired today. Also craving sweets. I’m allowing myself some, to keep from craving and going for alcohol. Being mindful of HALT. I think I might try for a catnap in the recliner. Hopefully it will perk me up. Hoping to make beef and broccoli stir fry tonight.
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Its been a few years since we had 3 January threads and we're not even to the middle of the month
I just want to say its great that so many of you read all the posts but it's not a requirement.
I'd hate anyone to think 'I can't keep up so I can't ask for support'...that's not the way it works
The rule here is always do what you can
Old hands like Suze (venuscat), and mods like Anna and myself try to make sure everyone gets a response
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I just want to say its great that so many of you read all the posts but it's not a requirement.
I'd hate anyone to think 'I can't keep up so I can't ask for support'...that's not the way it works
The rule here is always do what you can
Old hands like Suze (venuscat), and mods like Anna and myself try to make sure everyone gets a response
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phoebe64 ... thanks for your thoughts. My brother had a tumor on the right side of his brain, in February 2020, that the doctors 'killed', and he was in remission but now he's got it on the left side. I worried he's on a downhill run.
Venuscat ... I wish to be like you, clear head and see beyond the anxiety. I need to be sober for that. From little things, big things grow.
Puck ... Hope you're still here mate! We need to be here and keep trying, even if it seems hopeless.
Jojo ... How are you going?
Dee ... You're Avatar is making me sea sick, LOL
Venuscat ... I wish to be like you, clear head and see beyond the anxiety. I need to be sober for that. From little things, big things grow.
Puck ... Hope you're still here mate! We need to be here and keep trying, even if it seems hopeless.
Jojo ... How are you going?
Dee ... You're Avatar is making me sea sick, LOL
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New digs! Wooo we're on a roll!
Thank you for clarifying that, Dee!
James: I'm so sorry about your brother. My thoughts and prayers for you and your family. LOL on the seasick comment!
Venuscat: I love your sharing and sound advice! It's so true, it's a great day when we can take things calmly, because let's face it, things are gonna keep coming at us. Did you find your ring? I hope so!
Hi Citygirl & Soda!
Phoebe: girl....I don't have a sweet tooth but I've craved them lately. I just doordashed a box of See's candies! I love See's and I don't often crave candy but when I do I'm going for the best. I figure right now, I'm going to let myself indulge as long as it's not booze.
Thank you for clarifying that, Dee!
James: I'm so sorry about your brother. My thoughts and prayers for you and your family. LOL on the seasick comment!
Venuscat: I love your sharing and sound advice! It's so true, it's a great day when we can take things calmly, because let's face it, things are gonna keep coming at us. Did you find your ring? I hope so!
Hi Citygirl & Soda!
Phoebe: girl....I don't have a sweet tooth but I've craved them lately. I just doordashed a box of See's candies! I love See's and I don't often crave candy but when I do I'm going for the best. I figure right now, I'm going to let myself indulge as long as it's not booze.
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No, the ring seems to be gone forever.
I am actually looking for a replacement.
It was a bohemian garnet and silver ring....three stones.
I have found one I adore that is different....thinking about it.
I am actually looking for a replacement.
It was a bohemian garnet and silver ring....three stones.
I have found one I adore that is different....thinking about it.
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James, I'm sorry about the stress of getting your daughter set up living independently. I hope she can settle in well. And, I'm sorry to hear about your brother. I'm really glad you're on Day 1 again and working on your sobriety.
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Re FlyLady: further to the discussion in Part 2 of this January Class:
Reposting my post #121 from Class of May 2020 Part 1 thread:
https://www.soberrecovery.com/forums...ml#post7438408 (Class of May 2020 Part One)
FlyLady is indeed an excellent site for offering suggestions for a paced return to an orderly home without the task seeming overwhelming. e.g. the "5-minute room rescue" suddenly makes clearing-up doable.
Well-worth a look around the website, I recommend looking at "Babysteps".
Edit to add: I don't do everything on every list every day, but it's good to know the guidelines and plans are available if needed.
Reposting my post #121 from Class of May 2020 Part 1 thread:
https://www.soberrecovery.com/forums...ml#post7438408 (Class of May 2020 Part One)
FlyLady is indeed an excellent site for offering suggestions for a paced return to an orderly home without the task seeming overwhelming. e.g. the "5-minute room rescue" suddenly makes clearing-up doable.
Well-worth a look around the website, I recommend looking at "Babysteps".
Edit to add: I don't do everything on every list every day, but it's good to know the guidelines and plans are available if needed.
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