Class of November 2019 Part 5
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OOTT, thanks. We were in the Bay Area 
Willow I’m sorry you drank but glad you are back. Can you talk to your partner about not having all these boozy parties in the house? Maybe too late to cancel this upcoming one but surely it doesn’t need to happen constantly?
Jimi hi and good to see you
Briansy congrats on 30 days!
Day 58 here. Back to work this morning but it won’t be a stressful day, just me and a couple other people in the office and mainly catching up on some paperwork. I would’ve taken these next couple days off, but didn’t want to burn the extra vacation time so I’m just taking the opportunity to update my files etc before the new year. Then might cook dinner again for me and the bf. I roasted us a chicken last night.
I have absolutely zero desire to drink but I know I need to stay on guard. Coming up on 60 days/2 months and I already have a reward waiting, Will post a pic when I get there.
Everyone have a great day
Willow I’m sorry you drank but glad you are back. Can you talk to your partner about not having all these boozy parties in the house? Maybe too late to cancel this upcoming one but surely it doesn’t need to happen constantly?
Jimi hi and good to see you
Briansy congrats on 30 days!
Day 58 here. Back to work this morning but it won’t be a stressful day, just me and a couple other people in the office and mainly catching up on some paperwork. I would’ve taken these next couple days off, but didn’t want to burn the extra vacation time so I’m just taking the opportunity to update my files etc before the new year. Then might cook dinner again for me and the bf. I roasted us a chicken last night.
I have absolutely zero desire to drink but I know I need to stay on guard. Coming up on 60 days/2 months and I already have a reward waiting, Will post a pic when I get there.
Everyone have a great day
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So I really need a new plan. And I don’t think I can do it on my own, even with the amazing support of SR. I’m not sure exactly what my new plan is but I think I need to sort through the feelings of being unworthy. I know where and who they started, from when I was 5 or 6 years old, so that’s a start, at least.
Plus I will stock up on nonalcoholic drinks for the weekend. My partner has planned another boozy party this weekend but I don’t want to drink anymore.
I’m going to have to stay close to SR.
Plus I will stock up on nonalcoholic drinks for the weekend. My partner has planned another boozy party this weekend but I don’t want to drink anymore.
I’m going to have to stay close to SR.
We love you very much. With you all the way dearest Willow.
s ❤️❤️
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Sorry to hear you drank, Willow, but adjusting to long term sobriety is a slow process and I think whilst not optimal at all, it can certainly be done over time despite relapses. Next time it may not feel so painful being around drinkers if you are more committed - or you just get more practice - but I think ideally you want to steer clear and you know that better now. I am no sage, but I have found it easier being sober in certain situations over time. It's still bloody hard though.
I hope we see more of you on this thread as a result - or will you be ditching us for December 2019?!!
Good stuff on your days Jimi - dinner with lots of people on NYE is not my cuppa, but maybe I will change over time when I get more comfortable in my own skin. For the moment, I'm more inclined to just keep my head down - but then I know what they say about "isolation" - not great for the alcoholic and I fantasise about isolating all the time. Hmmmm.
It is such a stunning day in London today. I had a nice walk near Cambridge with Dave the Dog and a lovely fried breakfast of bacon, egg, sausage, mushroom, black pudding and toast. I have driven home and am now back on my own in my apartment for the foreseeable future and surprise, surprise, the drinking thoughts have crept in just like that. I am on the sofa and figure I need to implement a textbook plan to combat this feeling. A brisk walk in the fresh air and asking for help and encouragement here!
Pics of the brekkie and walk to follow!!!
I hope we see more of you on this thread as a result - or will you be ditching us for December 2019?!!
Good stuff on your days Jimi - dinner with lots of people on NYE is not my cuppa, but maybe I will change over time when I get more comfortable in my own skin. For the moment, I'm more inclined to just keep my head down - but then I know what they say about "isolation" - not great for the alcoholic and I fantasise about isolating all the time. Hmmmm.
It is such a stunning day in London today. I had a nice walk near Cambridge with Dave the Dog and a lovely fried breakfast of bacon, egg, sausage, mushroom, black pudding and toast. I have driven home and am now back on my own in my apartment for the foreseeable future and surprise, surprise, the drinking thoughts have crept in just like that. I am on the sofa and figure I need to implement a textbook plan to combat this feeling. A brisk walk in the fresh air and asking for help and encouragement here!
Pics of the brekkie and walk to follow!!!
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OK.....I think you need a plan for tomorrow night.
It isn't isolating in my opinion, it is staying safe on NYE.
So here are my suggestions......movies.....get.....rent, download whatever 2 or 3 movies (brilliant ones are out). Then organise food for you and Dave. A yummy dinner with extra treats for the evening. I just did this....bought a ton of divine chocolates that I am going to put in a gorgeous bowl and we can munch while we play Trivial Pursuit and watch a movie.
What do you think?
And posting this thread again for you....it really is wonderful s
https://www.soberrecovery.com/forums...-cravings.html (CarolD's tips for cravings)
It isn't isolating in my opinion, it is staying safe on NYE.
So here are my suggestions......movies.....get.....rent, download whatever 2 or 3 movies (brilliant ones are out). Then organise food for you and Dave. A yummy dinner with extra treats for the evening. I just did this....bought a ton of divine chocolates that I am going to put in a gorgeous bowl and we can munch while we play Trivial Pursuit and watch a movie.
What do you think?
And posting this thread again for you....it really is wonderful
shttps://www.soberrecovery.com/forums...-cravings.html (CarolD's tips for cravings)
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Hello dear SBTS....I watched Ford V Ferrari yesterday. I LOVED it!!!!
You can probably skip Jexi though.....cute message but maybe more for teenagers.
Looking for something for tomorrow night....and how incredible love, you are going to have 60 days at New Year's. Did you plan that? Awesomeness. xx
You can probably skip Jexi though.....cute message but maybe more for teenagers.
Looking for something for tomorrow night....and how incredible love, you are going to have 60 days at New Year's. Did you plan that? Awesomeness.
xx
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My walk with Dave. I have now left Dave and his Mom so no more Dave time!
Funny Suze, NYE isn't a trigger in any way. I haven't gone out on that night in years and attach no significance to it. Once upon a time I used to stress out about always appearing to be doing something on NYE but now I know that it's just another night and actually it's a terrible night rammed with people most of whom are not enjoying it
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Originally Posted by venuscat 
Hello dear SBTS....I watched Ford V Ferrari yesterday. I LOVED it!!!!
You can probably skip Jexi though.....cute message but maybe more for teenagers.
Looking for something for tomorrow night....and how incredible love, you are going to have 60 days at New Year's. Did you plan that? Awesomeness. xx
You can probably skip Jexi though.....cute message but maybe more for teenagers.
Looking for something for tomorrow night....and how incredible love, you are going to have 60 days at New Year's. Did you plan that? Awesomeness.
xx 60 days on New Year's was a happy coincidence
I'm so happy to be starting the new year solid in sobriety. My plan for NYE is to roast some salmon in butter for me and the bf (I'm still deciding on sides) and open some sparkling cider. Need to decide about which movies to watch. We talked about going to one, but I have already seen all four of the movies that are currently playing at my favorite theater! Lol! I want to see Bombshell though, maybe we'll go to a late showing at a different theater, or one on New Year's Day.
Briansy, I agree with Suze's suggestions... make a plan you're looking forward to, even if it's just a plan for you.
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It's just being at home alone with no upcoming engagements or commitments bar work on Thursday stopping me from turning to drink! Get past this and I'm into a humdrum January that I hope to be able to deal with just fine as I'll be on my routine - work, home, walks, eat, maybe some golf, hiking, TV / watching sport - not much socialising but then not much stress either! Especially if I work hard and keep the money coming in and my business partner (and myself) happy
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I am going to show you one of my omelettes now.....
This one was from the other night for Nick....kosher salami and tomato.
(It was still cooking at that stage....got a lot higher).
This one was from the other night for Nick....kosher salami and tomato.
(It was still cooking at that stage....got a lot higher).
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None of that sounds humdrum Brian.
And we have Ad Astra for tomorrow night, I forgot, and I am currently working on It 2, even though I will have my hands over my eyes. Ha ha.
And we have Ad Astra for tomorrow night, I forgot, and I am currently working on It 2, even though I will have my hands over my eyes. Ha ha.
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Holy cow, the Novs are the culinary class.
Briansy, your brekkie looks pretty American, except the too short sausage (hehehe).
What is the dark oval object at 12 o'clock? I'm guessing it's some kind of melba toast, but not sure.
Briansy, your brekkie looks pretty American, except the too short sausage (hehehe).
What is the dark oval object at 12 o'clock? I'm guessing it's some kind of melba toast, but not sure.
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Thanks Dee
SBTS yes I have talked to him about the parties, it’s largely time of year related, not an ongoing thing thankfully. And at Christmas, a number of them were my family. Since my parents passed away, it’s a tricky time of year for my family, and this was our first Christmas together. Last year it was too fresh and raw and we went away for Christmas. My partner is having second thoughts about the party this weekend. It’s his call though, his house, and I don’t feel I can stop him having people over, although I may in future decide not to be home at the time if he wants to have a bunch of people over.
Suze I just got caught up in all the emotional stuff that’s been swirling around me lately, a lot of family stuff. But I’m ok, just got some old issues to work through more deeply so that I’m not so affected and triggered by the waves that come at me in the present time
Briansy, I’m sticking with this class, you’re stuck with me now lol, despite me slipping up. I’m not joining December, but I might join January for some extra support if I need to. I’m still actually in my original class of May 18, although there are only a couple of us left there these days.
I like the idea of staying home for NYE, it used to be a big party night for me, but really just an excuse to get drunk. We don’t have any plans. Work during the day and most likely just staying home like a normal night. I don’t feel like doing much of anything anyway.
Tiles, I was thinking Briansy’s brekkie looked like a Scottish breakfast to me (minus the baked beans) and that the round black thing is black pudding?
SBTS yes I have talked to him about the parties, it’s largely time of year related, not an ongoing thing thankfully. And at Christmas, a number of them were my family. Since my parents passed away, it’s a tricky time of year for my family, and this was our first Christmas together. Last year it was too fresh and raw and we went away for Christmas. My partner is having second thoughts about the party this weekend. It’s his call though, his house, and I don’t feel I can stop him having people over, although I may in future decide not to be home at the time if he wants to have a bunch of people over.
Suze I just got caught up in all the emotional stuff that’s been swirling around me lately, a lot of family stuff. But I’m ok, just got some old issues to work through more deeply so that I’m not so affected and triggered by the waves that come at me in the present time
Briansy, I’m sticking with this class, you’re stuck with me now lol, despite me slipping up. I’m not joining December, but I might join January for some extra support if I need to. I’m still actually in my original class of May 18, although there are only a couple of us left there these days.
I like the idea of staying home for NYE, it used to be a big party night for me, but really just an excuse to get drunk. We don’t have any plans. Work during the day and most likely just staying home like a normal night. I don’t feel like doing much of anything anyway.
Tiles, I was thinking Briansy’s brekkie looked like a Scottish breakfast to me (minus the baked beans) and that the round black thing is black pudding?
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Willow, if you live together isn't it your house too? I understand what you are saying though and it sounds like it won't be an ongoing problem, so that's good.
Today at work was SO PRODUCTIVE. I cannot believe how much I got done with virtually no one in the office. I updated every one of my files and sent out some needed followups by email, so even though I still have a bunch of substantive work to do on some of them, at least my notes are completely up to date. If God forbid I became injured or ill unexpectedly, I wouldn't have anything to worry about because my colleagues could pick up any file and know exactly what was going on. That is huge for me and hasn't been the case in probably a year. Maybe longer. What a way to start the new year, it is a great feeling to have them all sorted out.
Heading home now, BF and I have no plans tonight. I'm thinking maybe we'll order Chinese or something and I can save my blowout cooking for tomorrow.
Everyone have a lovely evening.
Today at work was SO PRODUCTIVE. I cannot believe how much I got done with virtually no one in the office. I updated every one of my files and sent out some needed followups by email, so even though I still have a bunch of substantive work to do on some of them, at least my notes are completely up to date. If God forbid I became injured or ill unexpectedly, I wouldn't have anything to worry about because my colleagues could pick up any file and know exactly what was going on. That is huge for me and hasn't been the case in probably a year. Maybe longer. What a way to start the new year, it is a great feeling to have them all sorted out.
Heading home now, BF and I have no plans tonight. I'm thinking maybe we'll order Chinese or something and I can save my blowout cooking for tomorrow.
Everyone have a lovely evening.
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Yeah....cos do you ever stop girl?
Awesome re the files.....pedantic Aquarian here, and organisation is my thing....and I need it. But I know how it feels to get behind, and then catching up is like Woo Hoo!!!
A quiet night sounds divine....and no cooking. Just cuddle up with your cat and your BF and chill. s xx ❤️
Awesome re the files.....pedantic Aquarian here, and organisation is my thing....and I need it. But I know how it feels to get behind, and then catching up is like Woo Hoo!!!
A quiet night sounds divine....and no cooking. Just cuddle up with your cat and your BF and chill.
s xx ❤️
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