Class of November 2019 Part 3
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Class of November 2019 Part 3
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Originally Posted by Auchieshuggle 
Day 14 for me! I always think the first two weeks is the hardest and once that's out of the way it begins to get easier and the cravings become less severe.
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Congrats Auchieshuggle 
FallingLeaves, your explanation about your stepdaughter makes complete sense... I agree with the suggestion to make a new plan for yourself of what to do when you feel stressed and need to get away.
Tuesday is definitely The Average Day, but I like it. It's the day we have our team meeting at work, so I always know the afternoon will be taken up by a meeting. It's also Terror Tuesday which is when they show old horror movies every Tuesday night at my favorite movie theater near my place. As you guys know, I love to go to the movies, and horror is my favorite genre so I especially love those nights.
I haven't decided whether I will go tonight though. Boyfriend and I are leaving for Florida tomorrow morning to see my mom for Thanksgiving, and I'm torn between going to Terror Tuesday and spending the whole evening lazing around here and intermittently doing laundry/packing for my trip. The movie's not until 9:30 pm, so I have time to decide.
Day 24 here.
FallingLeaves, your explanation about your stepdaughter makes complete sense... I agree with the suggestion to make a new plan for yourself of what to do when you feel stressed and need to get away.
Tuesday is definitely The Average Day, but I like it. It's the day we have our team meeting at work, so I always know the afternoon will be taken up by a meeting. It's also Terror Tuesday which is when they show old horror movies every Tuesday night at my favorite movie theater near my place. As you guys know, I love to go to the movies, and horror is my favorite genre so I especially love those nights.
I haven't decided whether I will go tonight though. Boyfriend and I are leaving for Florida tomorrow morning to see my mom for Thanksgiving, and I'm torn between going to Terror Tuesday and spending the whole evening lazing around here and intermittently doing laundry/packing for my trip. The movie's not until 9:30 pm, so I have time to decide.
Day 24 here.
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Originally Posted by Auchieshuggle
Day 14 for me! I always think the first two weeks is the hardest and once that's out of the way it begins to get easier and the cravings become less severe.
When I get through today I’ll have 2 weeks
It’s only 9.45am so far but I’m confident I won’t drink today.
I just went for a 45 minute walk and feel mentally clear.
It’s Humpday here today and I’m treating myself to a massage
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Originally Posted by Willow68
Congratulations and me too Auchie! I’m on day 14 today.
When I get through today I’ll have 2 weeks
It’s only 9.45am so far but I’m confident I won’t drink today.
I just went for a 45 minute walk and feel mentally clear.
It’s Humpday here today and I’m treating myself to a massage
When I get through today I’ll have 2 weeks
It’s only 9.45am so far but I’m confident I won’t drink today.
I just went for a 45 minute walk and feel mentally clear.
It’s Humpday here today and I’m treating myself to a massage
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Haha Venus I do like to stay busy! Although I'm trying hard to schedule downtime as well.
Outonthetiles, not traveling is indeed lovely. Neither BF nor I have any family in town anymore, but I'm a bit jealous of those who have that option. Though I am looking forward to my trip too.
I just got a text from a coworker who said she'd love to go to happy hour with me sometime soon in December. I think this woman could become a friend, and I'd like to be friends with her, but I'm not sure how to handle her invitation. I know 100% that I cannot go to a bar with her, watch her order a drink, and trust myself not to order one too. I am not at that point yet. For now I am going to just say "yes, we should hang out soon!" and if and when the time comes to actually make plans, maybe I will try to steer the plans toward something else, like lunch or dinner? It's so hard -- I feel like happy hour is so central to everything, especially working in NYC. It's so much the default obvious socializing choice for after work that I would feel awkward suggesting something else.
I do like to stay busy! Although I'm trying hard to schedule downtime as well. Outonthetiles, not traveling is indeed lovely. Neither BF nor I have any family in town anymore, but I'm a bit jealous of those who have that option. Though I am looking forward to my trip too.
I just got a text from a coworker who said she'd love to go to happy hour with me sometime soon in December. I think this woman could become a friend, and I'd like to be friends with her, but I'm not sure how to handle her invitation. I know 100% that I cannot go to a bar with her, watch her order a drink, and trust myself not to order one too. I am not at that point yet. For now I am going to just say "yes, we should hang out soon!" and if and when the time comes to actually make plans, maybe I will try to steer the plans toward something else, like lunch or dinner? It's so hard -- I feel like happy hour is so central to everything, especially working in NYC. It's so much the default obvious socializing choice for after work that I would feel awkward suggesting something else.
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I hear you.....maybe just wait a little bit longer?
I think you are doing incredibly well....you have your people....new friends is a fantastic bonus but maybe just in a little bit, after the crazy holiday season...just a thought.
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I think you are doing incredibly well....you have your people....new friends is a fantastic bonus but maybe just in a little bit, after the crazy holiday season...just a thought.
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Yes, I think that's a good thought Venus. For now I just said "yes, we should hang out soon!" which I think is vague enough (on the definitions of "hang out" and "soon") that I can feel out what to do about it later. I would like to make friends with her, and don't want her to think otherwise, but I obviously cannot go to happy hour right now.
Took a compromise position on the movie and I'm going to watch one on the couch with the cat... this way I get to bed at a decent hour and she gets some time with me, which she's been sorely lacking lately.
Talk to everyone later
Took a compromise position on the movie and I'm going to watch one on the couch with the cat... this way I get to bed at a decent hour and she gets some time with me, which she's been sorely lacking lately.
Talk to everyone later
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SBTS, great choice on the proposed "hang out" invitation. I faced my first unavoidable social invitation to a b day party at a sports bar about ten to fifteen days into recovery, and it was extremely stressful me, and that was a group gathering, not a one on one situation like yours, which is even worse.
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