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Old 11-26-2019, 03:43 PM
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Thanks for sharing that Suze, I keep reading it and I'm trying to get my head round it, sometimes acceptance is difficult and yes especially at this time of year. I'm struggling with 'accepting that person as being the way it(he) is supposed to be at this moment." I'm going to have to think on it.

Anyway, I'm off to bed myself now, so goodnight Aprils, sleep well.

Lots of love to you. xxx
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Hi all!

Checking in.

My consult with the Doctor at the clinic was really good. I like her a lot. Her energy is awesome. She said I should get out there ASAP. She feels that if I have PTSD that every time I walk into my house it’s getting set off. Plus the known mold issues here and I can’t get off the wheat and all that here. She gets it about the health issues caused by stress.

It would be a safe, healing environment, and they’d juice cleanse the Hell out of this exhausted, inflamed body for a month. A personal program for me, developed by the whole staff.

I got a call and they wanted me right away. The doctor gave them a kick in the ass. I even bought a ticket for Wednesday. However, I was scrambling to try to figure out how I’d get certain things done. Back and forth calls with scheduling, and they mentioned that the great Doctor I like will *not* be there the entire month of December. All of my team contacted me by the end of the day. My APRN here, my Therapist, and My Life Coach all called from home on Sunday!

Anyway the offer was made by the Clinic to go January 5 with my Doctor as my Primary. I heard back from the doctor at 11:30 Sunday night that she would be there all of January.

So, scheduling is closed Mon/Tues. All I need to do is get that slot locked in, ASAP. January 5 for 30 DAYS. Hopefully the scheduling office and I will connect tomorrow or very soon.

It’s a ‘Jump Start.’ That’s how the Doctor describes it. Not a cure, but a serious jump start to put a person in a spot where they can keep it going and start ‘spiraling up.’

So it’s all but locked up. I’ll let you know when I give the deposit and get a ticket.

It gives me a lot of hope and the hope makes me feel better alone. I ran into this know it all woman in Whole Foods that had criticism for The Clinic. She knows of it. “What do you think they’re going to do for you?” REALLY!!?? and, “The have very mixed reviews. Have you seen the reviews??” I almost murdered her in the store. She’s a naysayer. I have previous experience dealing with her. You can never be right.

It’s like every idiot, which there must have been 50, that told me Brazil was dangerous and I need to watch out, blah blah blah. I didn’t let one of those people influence me and Brazil is safer than the United States. Best people ever.

people are miserable and they’ll do whatever they can to make you suffer their **** existence. F them. The next naysayer ******** that says something to me is going to get full on VIPER ��������

I’ll be hitting 17 months fairly soon.
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Old 11-26-2019, 08:32 PM
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Daisy, maybe this will help..

"When I was first introduced to it, I immediately thought “Aw hells nah! Are you telling me that I’m just supposed to be like ‘oh wow, this really icky thing is happening in my life right now and I just need to slap on a smile and nod like a Stepford wife and accept it?’” Eventually I came to understand that acceptance is not about submission. It’s not “My husband beats me, so I guess that’s just the way it is. I’ll just live with a perpetual fat lip and buy better concealer.” Or happily skipping through a field of daisies singing “Tra-la-la, my son might die of a drug overdose!” It’s about acknowledging the facts of a situation, so we are in a better position to do something about it. When we unpack the simple facts – that this person, place, thing, or situation merely exists, just as it is, and drop the drama surrounding it – we open ourselves to finding a way of dealing it with that brings us back to serenity.

The fact is that whatever’s got you in a twist IS happening, so by default, it IS acceptable as just a thing that’s going on in the universe, no different than air flowing in and out of your nostrils, or nickels being silver. It just IS, no matter how you feel about it. Finding peace and serenity is about modifying something within yourself so that the bothersome situation no longer has control over you and drives you to a drink or drug.

The feelings that we fight the hardest have the biggest stranglehold on our peace of mind. We get so focused on wanting a person or situation to change to meet our standards, that we miss out on the opportunity to examine why it’s tweaking us so much and do something to fix that. When my ex-husband failed to pay my daughter’s tuition bill again, it tipped off a chain reaction involving her calling me at 6am in a national-disaster-scale panic, missing out on the classes she needs to graduate on time, and my having to redirect the nine grand I had reserved for Uncle Sam to the Bursar at Temple University. I immediately saw stars and shot off a text filled with unkind words and a patent THIS IS UNACCEPTABLE! And then it hit me. He apparently found this situation perfectly acceptable, or he’d have played his hand differently. I was the only one in that moment contemplating a hate crime. While his failing to meet a commitment was irresponsible and disappointing, the fact is that it happened, and I needed to decide to accept it if I didn’t want to end up in the ER or the back of a police cruiser. Accepting it gave me the freedom to breathe, take care of business, and redirect my attention to things that bring me joy before I wound up shopping the vodka aisle."

I hope this explains it better than I can.
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Old 11-26-2019, 08:36 PM
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Morning all. Doesnt feel like I have been asleep for 5 mins. I feel tired but ahhhh I am not hungover. Always grateful for that.

Viper, sounds good!! Ahhh there are always going to be people who think they know best. I used to let ot bother me and sometimes now it can irritate still, but I can let things go over my head ot more than when I was drinking. I will message you when I am in the States.

Erratic I hope you are feeling less stressed today. Duver days sound good to me! I love them!

Right, need to get moving. Speak later. Have a good day everyone.
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Old 11-26-2019, 09:48 PM
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I hope the week ends up better for you Vipe. Sometimes I just smile and wave and let it go in one ear and out the other.

These days I realise lifes too short to carry around resentments for some silly thing someone said, or done.

Its a little like Suzes Big Book extract - I'm not sure I go so far as nothing happens in God world by mistake - a lot of bad things happen in this world - whether you blame God or Man it can be pretty crappy sometimes

... but it's not my job to fix each and every one of the worlds evils or right every wrong or correct every jerk I meet on the street who happens to have a dumb opinion

I used to think all those things were my job - and I ended up an alcoholic from the enormity of the task and the stress of it all.

The serenity prayer is a good one, not just as a mantra, but for what it means

God, grant me the serenity
to accept the things I cannot change,
the courage to change the things I can,
and the wisdom to know the difference.

I'm always looking for that wisdom

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Old 11-27-2019, 01:03 AM
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morn x

good to hear from u viper and snitch x

day 3 and took dog out for nice walk in the mist and him loving the big puddles. daughter phoned me last night so we are on speaking terms again.

daisy u talking about ur son? on acceptance?
i liked what u wrote dee x

well off to finish my tea this morn and decide what i will do for the rest of the day.

pop in later, have great day x
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Good morning all and a happy 'top of the hill' day to you. It's another dark, wet and cold day here. I'm back now from all my running about and I'm having a sit down and a coffee, I've just stuck a wash load in the dryer and have prepared a cottage pie for dinner later, so I've been quite productive as well.
I can't believe it's the 1st December on Sunday, I really need to get cracking on buying some Christmas presents. I've wrote my list out of who to buy for, I just need to buy it. Thank goodness for Amazon, lol.

Oh there you are Viper, I wondered where you'd got to, good to see you posting. I'm glad your consultation went well and you've laid plans down to get your health issues on track. Just do what you have to do to get yourself right, don't worry about what other people think, no one knows your body better than you .


Thanks Suze, very much for your posting that explanation, I am going to print it off and read it whenever I am in doubt. It's simplified things a lot for me.
You all know that it's my son who is my cross to bear in life and most of the time I do accept that I have no control over what he does, thinks or says, it's how I react that counts. He was my biggest trigger and since I've stopped drinking for the most part I've detached from him as much as I possibly can, obviously I can't detach from him completely at this moment in time because there's a young child involved, who's health and safety is of paramount importance to me.
The last couple of weeks I've really let him get to me, he was putting my grandchild's life in danger and yes I dealt with it and I did what I had to do, but at the same time I was bloody fuming and wanted to give him a good hiding, which of course I can't.
This week he's done something else which is completely irresponsible and dangerous and again I'm letting him rent too much space in my head. I am working on it, on myself and I am so much stronger than I was. I am a work in progress.

Have a good day Suze.

Thanks for your wise words Dee, the serenity prayer is my 'go to' prayer, in fact I am going to get a print of it, frame it and hang it in my hall way. That prayer has helped me through a lot.

Hi Erratic and yes, my son, always my son. I have to accept that he is a person with serious issues, but he is an adult and he is responsible for his own actions, not me. Only he can turn his life round.
I'm so glad you and your daughter are speaking again, fall outs are horrible and upsetting.
Awww your little dog must be in his element then with all this wet weather.

Back later

Love always. xxx
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Sharing this as its very apt. Hope you all like it. xxxx

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G'night Aprils xx
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Old 11-27-2019, 08:49 PM
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early morn before work check in x

thanks daisy, do understand u cant detach totally away from him as ur right ur gson welfare is far more important x ur doing so well and being strong, hugs to u xx

nothing much else to add as my brain is still waking up, but ofcause will be thinking of you all and hope u have a good day x off for number 2 cup of tea x
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Good afternoon all and a happy Thursday to you. Running late today, I was in school all morning listening to the slower readers and then had a couple of jobs to do when I got home.

Thanks for that Erratic. I hope work flies by for you today and I hope you don't get any grumpy customers.

Well yesterday I got a phone call from my son, it took me 3 attempts to answer it, as I was expecting the usual torrent of abuse over something I have or haven't done. He told me that he has been offered a job, in the same place as he works now, he cleans as a temp in science labs, but this is a proper job actually working for the labs, full time, good hours and a decent wage, lots of training opportunities and a pension plan scheme. The company approached him re the vacancy, interviewed him and he starts a week on Monday! I told him that I was really pleased for him ( I truly am) and that this is his chance now to get his act together and turn his life round. I am slightly concerned that he and money have never been a good combination but he has two roads to pick from, the right one or the wrong one, prayers that he chooses to take the right one.

I'll try and pop in again later.

Love to you all. xxx
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Old 11-28-2019, 08:39 AM
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Hello.

Happy Thanksgiving!

Thanks for posting that photo Daisy. Perception us everyrhing!!

That is great news about your son and he clearly.wanted romshare that with you. Who knows what the future brings but that is good news for today 🌝🌝

I am in San Fransico . It is Thanksgiving today. We have a 6 day trip here which mean 3 full days off. I had asked my sister if she wanted to come.with me ht unfortunately she had to go to Nice with work. It would have been fun with her here. Anyway, I am meeting some crew today in a few hours. I have to be very vigilant as I don't socialise alot down route anymore and "clear" days off for me would always be a drinking day. I am.not even really sure what we are gonna do as there wint be much open today. Thanksgiving in the US is like Christmas Day in the UK. Everyrhing shuts. So.it may be a walk down to fisherman's wharf and then who knows. I will not drink today.

Gonna try sleep for an hour. Been up since 2am and its 8.30 no8.30.Time change ahhh.

Back later

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good to hear daisy, snitch hope u have a lovely few days there x

work actually went quick yesterday which was good and i also got a pressie and a thank u card from a customer which was really nice and i got some more books from another one as she cant see much and found out i loved books which again was really nice of her. today will be bz again as have delivery aswell i guess everyone will be in as most will have been payed. so will just have keep calm and not think i can do everything.

anyway hope u both and dee have good day, will catch up wit u all later x
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Hello all

How is everyone doing today?

I had an amazing day yesterday. Took a walk to fisherman's wharf and went onto the pier and then did a boat trip round the wharf and went for dinner. Straight away I ordered a diet coke but the 2 crew I was with also ordered soft drinks. We had such a laugh together. It was really lovely. I have to remember that in the 19 months I have sober, I havent done much socialising as such so it is just another thing to experience without alcohol and it will become my new normal. I didnt wake up till late today so just going to have an easy day, am going to find an AA meeting and do some yoga and a bit of shopping. Just Christmas presents . My crew are meeting this evening for drinks and dinner but I don't think I will go along as I don't really want to sit in a bar. Especially coming up to Christmas I just feel that I need to be very vigilant.

How was Your Thanksgiving Viper?

Awww Erratic it is nice to be appreciated ❤❤

Daisy, did you hear back ee your son's homemade log burner?? Or has he given up on that idea now?

Hi Dee.

Life is good at the moment. I feel very blessed. ❤❤
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About to go to bed. Chilled day today. Went out to an AA meeting. Well it wasn't really what I was expecting haha. I was the only female there. Although it said it was gay/lesbian meeting so not sure of all the guys that were there were gay or not. It was bit of a scummy room, it smelt and the door to the toilet was hanging off and the taps didnt work. Some of the guys looked like they had just come in off the street. I would be lying if I said I didn't judge them and I was thinking omg I wish i hadn't come. Then a homeless man burst in and wouldn't leave and there was a scuffle getting him out! I had to laugh! I prayed to my HP to remove my judgement, after all I am no better or worse than anyone else and we are all there for the same purpose...to stay sober. I prayed to remain open minded. It worked! I enjoyed listening to their shares and I shared back and said that if someone had told me that I would be sat in that room with these guys on a friday night in San Fran i would have thought they were crazy!! But you know what, I was right where I had to be, because I do not want to pick up a drink!

After that I did some christmas shopping. It was heaving out. Now am gonna hit the sack.

Hope you all had a good day!
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Hey guys,

I feel like I am chatting with myself hahahaha

Been a wet day here. Bit of a shame as would have been nice to have taken a bike out but hey ho. The good news is I have done done all my christmas shopping for Seren and her friend and my niece and nephew and got my Christmas jumper too 🌝 I knew I should have brought my bigger case with me !!

Nothing else to report. Leaving here tomorrow and then I am off for 2 weeks with only one one more trip before christmas. I am excited. I love Christmas and it is a million times better sober. My dad is really looking forward to Christmas this year and I think he used to dread it. I used to think it was just because he was being a miserable git but I think it was because of alcohol and the problems it caused. I feel bad for blighting their lives, alcoholism really is a family illness but I can make my amends to them on a daily basis by staying sober and being a good daughter.

Anyway, gonna sleep. I have had a nice time away but looking forward to getting home now !!

I hope you are all well and just busy!
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Its wet here too Suze but we need it

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Old 11-30-2019, 09:57 PM
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early morn before work x

sry snitch i was actually having a productive day yesterday which i started xmas shopping and was out most of the day x

its lovely and crispy outside here and blue skies x

i love xmas also, xmas day with just me and hub for first time in how long i have no clue is i guess it will be quiet and i think we are going to have a curry or something.
hope u have safe trip home snitch and glad u got ur xmas shopping done x

right better off and get cup of tea 2 and take my tabs and then get ready for work. x good to see u dee also xx
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Thanks Erratic - have a good one

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Good morning all, sorry I haven't posted for a couple of days, my Internet has been running really sloooow, still is and it's taking ages to post. I'll be phoning the provider tomorrow. Anyway, I hope you're all okay. It's freezing again but I don't mind it when it's like this, dry, crisp, sunny but cold, it's better than all that rain we get. I'm taking g.son for a karate grading later, he's doing really well, this one is for the 3rd tab on his brown belt, if he passes his next grading will be for junior black belt.

Morning Erratic, I hope work flies by for you, we're having a quiet Christmas too, I cant believe it's 1st December today, scary. I did a bit of online shopping last night but I am going to have to go into town at some point this week.

Hi Dee, I'm glad you got that much needed rain, your land must be parched. I hope you get plenty of it, enough to give it a good soaking at least. Take care.

Hi Suze, looks like you had an amazing time in San Fransisco, your pics on F.B look amazing. That meeting sounds erm interesting, if that's what you can call it lol.
My son and his death trap log burner, hmmmm well, I reported it to environmental health at the council and I stressed that it needed to be anonymous for my own safety, the nice man assured me that all complaints are kept anonymous and that son would be given the impression that the complaint had been made by random neighbours/passers by. I haven't heard anything more but when g.son went to his dads last w.end and on Tue and Thur evenings the fire wasn't lit at all and it has been cold. (He does have central heating in the flat, but he doesn't like paying) so fingers crossed. I am surprised though that he hasn't bounced back at me, I was expecting it. I'm keeping a close eye on the situation. I shan't forget the serenity prayer and the sick man prayer, they are my stand by's.

Back later hopefully, wishing you all an amazing Sunday.

love always. xx
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