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Old 10-31-2019, 05:56 PM
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1 year ago tonight I took my last drink. I remember exactly how I felt...awful, scared, anxious, hurt, etc...

It's been 1 year.

I'm proud, but humble. I'll continue another 24hr promise, stay connected, and learn everyday. It's not always sunshine and rainbows, but it's pretty good I think.

I did something today that was way out of my comfort zone, but needed to be done. And that is telling some folks I've been alcohol free for 1 year. I just wanted to clear the air. It felt good.
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Old 10-31-2019, 07:58 PM
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Really well done, Jimmy. Tremendous achievement.

I’m still trooping along sober - no longer an official Undie but I do like this thread!

Keep making it happen everyone🙂
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Old 10-31-2019, 11:48 PM
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Jimmy Congratulations onyour year, a marvellous achievement.
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Old 11-01-2019, 01:29 AM
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Congrats JJ on your first year! Happy Soberversary!
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Old 11-01-2019, 07:13 AM
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Congrats on a year Jimmy! That's a huge accomplishment!
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Old 11-01-2019, 01:05 PM
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Congratulations Jimmy on your first Soberversary!!
Brilliant, well done JJ, you are awesome mate.
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Old 11-02-2019, 02:54 AM
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Hiya Unders

Have a good weekend
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Old 11-02-2019, 12:34 PM
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Awesome job, Jimmy. And nice to "clear the air" about it too - very solid.

Enjoy the weekend unders
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Old 11-03-2019, 06:44 AM
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Jimmy! - Huge, huge congratulations. A whole year. That is some achievement. Heading towards 5 months mark myself so very much looking forward to achieving half a year by Christmas. And 'clearing the air' sounds like an extra bonus. I've also made it clear to some peole that I'm no longer a drinker.

Hi Unders - hope everyone is having a good weekend. Mine has been a bit hectic and just a touch unrelaxing, until now. The weather has been total rubbish and I've been out with a pushchair quite a lot so I've also spent a good bit of time getting very wet. Hey ho. All of it sober, of course, so that's OK. Hope we all have a good week ahead of us.
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Old 11-07-2019, 01:12 AM
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I am going through some family issues just now, mad is end stage congestive heart failure and not expected to live longer than a few weeks. I am so glad that I am dealing with this situation sober so that I can be fully present emotionally to support my mum as she deals.
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(((Toots))) So sorry to hear that.....sending hugs to you and your family. We're here with ya!
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Old 11-07-2019, 01:34 AM
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again, best wishes, Toots

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Sorry to hear Toots. My thoughts are with you during this difficult time.
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I send you my best koala vibes Toots - courage!
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toots - I am so very sorry to hear your news. The only possible positive thing I can think to say is how fantastic for your mum that she can call on an entirely sober you for support and love. That's huge.
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Old 11-07-2019, 11:17 PM
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Rose, that is exactly what I mean. If I had been actively drinking I would have been more burden than help to her, and would still have been carrying my own issues into the hospital. Now I am able to lay my emotions to one side, to be there to try to ease my dads fears, and to help mum as she prepares for life after. It could be days or weeks yet but we don't feel he will come out of hospital.
I know there are many going through similar or worse, and I don't talk about the situation here to Ellie it sympathy, I mention it only to really impress on you all how drinking affects not just us, but our loved ones who wish to lean on us in times of need. Sobriety gives us the strength to lend to them. And it is a wonderful feeling knowing that you can be there wholly for someone you love who is hurting.
When we stop drinking, and come through recovery into living a sober life, we are so much less self absorbed. It is no longer about where we can get our next drink, how we can hide our drinking, how we focus 24/7 on drinking. Without that addictive thinking we are able to be more aware of, and more present for, those who should be able to rely on us.
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toots - you are absolutely right. It is not ever only about us. It colours every aspect of our life but for our friends and family too even if we keep it a secret. A fantastic side side effect of not drinking is the enormous relief I (we) get from not having to engage in endless social subterfuge. I can't count the number of times I sat with others, in ordinary pleasant social settings, working out what excuse I could use to leave quickly so I could get home and do some proper, 'relaxed' drinking. So glad that's a thing of then past, where it shall remain.
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Old 11-08-2019, 08:50 AM
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Toots, I'm very sorry to hear about your news.

While I really enjoy the good days when I'm sober, it's during the tough times that I'm most thankful. I'm sure you get that.
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Old 11-08-2019, 09:17 AM
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MITA I truly do
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Old 11-08-2019, 09:49 PM
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Toots, I’m sorry to hear about your dad.
I’m pleased you’re sober too love. Dealing with life sober is so much better than all the baggage of the drunk we once were.

Thinking of you and your family toots. Sending love and hugs. xx
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