Originally Posted by RedBerryJuniper

Good evening,

I have been trying to sort out a situation with my father’s trusted caregiver. She has been sending me hostile messages that make no sense for a couple of months now. About how she doesn’t want to have a fixed schedule, doesn’t want my brother and I involved in his care..all along we’ve been bending over backwards to accommodate her but it is never enough. Now she is refusing to realize that there are other people working too...we can’t go on like this. Dad seems to like her but I had to tell him what was occurring behind the scenes tonight. We are very likely going to have to fire her. She is acting mentally unhinged and abusive, and threatened to quit if we didn’t cave and let her set her own hours and write her own checks. It’s a big mess. I’ve lost so much sleep. My brother is suffering too. My mother is still struggling in the hospital, unable to walk. It’s untenable. Tomorrow is the day it stops. Full stop. I’m worried about Dad, worried about retaliation but I need to have faith. Sometimes people lack empathy and don’t even act in their own best interest. I feel lost, sick and worried.

One thing I do know is that I won’t drink. I probably won’t sleep, again, but maybe something will happen tomorrow that isn’t terrible. I hope he isn’t in danger. It just is so worrisome.

Red

Originally Posted by kenton

Wonderful post Delilah! Wishing you and your gorgeous family a fantastic summer xxx

Red, go with your gut and fire the carer. Do it today. Everything else will unfold exactly as it should but do not ignore your intuition. Don't want to make this about me but I had a similar situation when my dad was alive and yep ..... Your intuition is screaming at you for a reason. Don't ignore it. Hope you find someone else very soon xxxx

Pete, hope you sell lots of cars today. I'll come find you when I need a new one!

Sunny, the course sounds amazing. Kinds of feeds into my experience last night. So, last night I met up with my old best friend who I fell out with 15 years ago for reasons that seemed really important at the time but which boil down to total nonsense. I'm not on any form of social media so when I lose contact with a person I tend to stay lost but last summer the universe put in play a crazy set of coincidences and random encounters that led to me and my friend getting back into contact. We've been messaging for months and last night we met face to face for the first time in 15 years.

And when I first saw her we hugged and I felt something in my soul. Healing. And my word, my friend has been through some tough times. And in between the scattering of guilt that I felt because I haven't been there for her, there was an overriding feeling of hope. Hope for the future. Hope for the now. And I now know for sure that the universe works in mysterious ways. When I ran the London marathon in April 2014, I ran for a random charity that had places in the marathon available. I picked a little-known charity that works with blind kids. It somehow spoke to me. Turns out the month I ran for this charity was the exact same month my friend brought her premature, blind daughter back from hospital after spending 5 months in intensive care. Apparently this charity has been instrumental in helping my friend and her daughter. And even tho I didn't know about it at the time, I helped raise money for them. Thank you universe for helping me to help. I am always going to trust in the universe. It knows what it's doing.

So happy to be back in contact with my friend. I wouldn't be if I was still drinking. Thank you sobriety. Love to everyone and 24 more for me please xxxx

Originally Posted by Bubovski

When that alcoholic voice starts to convince, even defying logic,best intent, knowledge and indeed our well won integrity..........well that's the time to knuckle down, ignore the insanity and consider the potential slip. As they say in AA---'this too will pass.--

Originally Posted by RedBerryJuniper

Good evening,

I have been trying to sort out a situation with my father’s trusted caregiver. She has been sending me hostile messages that make no sense for a couple of months now. About how she doesn’t want to have a fixed schedule, doesn’t want my brother and I involved in his care..all along we’ve been bending over backwards to accommodate her but it is never enough. Now she is refusing to realize that there are other people working too...we can’t go on like this. Dad seems to like her but I had to tell him what was occurring behind the scenes tonight. We are very likely going to have to fire her. She is acting mentally unhinged and abusive, and threatened to quit if we didn’t cave and let her set her own hours and write her own checks. It’s a big mess. I’ve lost so much sleep. My brother is suffering too. My mother is still struggling in the hospital, unable to walk. It’s untenable. Tomorrow is the day it stops. Full stop. I’m worried about Dad, worried about retaliation but I need to have faith. Sometimes people lack empathy and don’t even act in their own best interest. I feel lost, sick and worried.

One thing I do know is that I won’t drink. I probably won’t sleep, again, but maybe something will happen tomorrow that isn’t terrible. I hope he isn’t in danger. It just is so worrisome.

Red

Originally Posted by julietUK

Afternoon all. Its 1 pm here in the UK. Please count me in for another 24 hours sober and clean.
Had a wonderful evening yesterday, I had tickets to see Sir Ian McKellen at my local theatre. It is a very small, very old theatre and we were honoured to have him play there. Because so many people wanted to go the theatre did a lottery for tickets and I won two. My friend from AA was complaining that she didn't get tickets she would miss out. I had the extra one so we went together.
He was beyond amazing, we were mesmerised the whole way through. Because it was such an event for a small town small theatre everyone got a free drink on arrival, in fact the bar was lined with white and red wine, my friend and I had a coffee and a good laugh about how it would have been before we got sober! It was a big reminder for me, I wouldn't have even been there, I would have been at home with the curtains drawn and on my third bottle of wine. I volunteer at the theatre (I think the lottery was a fix as all volunteers 'won' tickets), and I know I would not be doing that either. I am coming up 18 months sober and my life has changed beyond recognition. I am so so grateful for my life.