Class of September 2018 Part 5
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Bumboid, for me visiting a place that would bring up heavy emotions (concentration camps ect...) might not be the best thing in early recovery. I'm trying to keep things light, even that trip on Oct to see my mom was pushing the envelope a little...for me. Try to keep things low key, and while seeing old friends is enjoyable, do you think that was a factor in your picking up again? Maybe it would be a good idea to connect with yourself, before you try to connect with old friends, that drink.
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I didn't sleep well last night, otherwise things are well.
Having a restful day.
I got a spot in a group I had been interested in taking at the CBT, therapy, and counselling place I attend.
Like everywhere else it seems, they are under funded ,so I'm happy this group is a go and I have a place!
Having a restful day.
I got a spot in a group I had been interested in taking at the CBT, therapy, and counselling place I attend.
Like everywhere else it seems, they are under funded ,so I'm happy this group is a go and I have a place!
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When I couldn't fall asleep last night, I was trying to recall the times I had an extremely strong urge, and didn't pick up a drink.
I am looking for ways to invalidate the irritational thought and feeling that a strong urge that lasts for days or week etc. will not go away without a drink, and I can recall at least two vivid recollections.
I will use these as a tool.
I am looking for ways to invalidate the irritational thought and feeling that a strong urge that lasts for days or week etc. will not go away without a drink, and I can recall at least two vivid recollections.
I will use these as a tool.
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I mention "logic" to also emphasize how irrational our alcohol addiction is. When we can logically understand why drinking is so bad for us but the AV is convincing us otherwise (urges) the best thing to do is take action. Go for a brisk walk of bike ride. Runaround your house. Drop and do push ups. Go bowling. Whatever pops in your mind just do it and push thru the cravings. And play the tape thru. The ending is always the same. It's a boring movie.
Not sure it'd a good idea to use a selfie as an avatar Bumboid. Someone may recognize you.
Not sure it'd a good idea to use a selfie as an avatar Bumboid. Someone may recognize you.
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Howdy peeps! Wrapping up another long day.
So, kind of funny. I do so much for my family and work to see them be well and do well that I spend very little on myself. Never buy myself cloths or treat myself really. But I purchased a 2004 4x4 Toyota pick up a few months ago as my grocery getter. Found it very fun to drive and learned they are very popular amongst "off roaders". So I started playing with it. Added some suspension components, lifted it a little. Then I researched and ordered nice custom wheels and off road tires. They arrived today and couldn't wait to get them on. It looks so bad ass! I'm like a teenager with this thing. My son and I went for a quick joy ride and it was awesome! Sent a picture of the truck with wheels and tires set up on it to my wife with the caption "well, it's no Corvette, but it is MY mid life crisis truck".
One of my friends asked if it was for my son.... I told him, "Hell No! This is daddy's Toy"
Gave me a good chuckle and made me feel good inside. Can't wait to take it camping.
So, kind of funny. I do so much for my family and work to see them be well and do well that I spend very little on myself. Never buy myself cloths or treat myself really. But I purchased a 2004 4x4 Toyota pick up a few months ago as my grocery getter. Found it very fun to drive and learned they are very popular amongst "off roaders". So I started playing with it. Added some suspension components, lifted it a little. Then I researched and ordered nice custom wheels and off road tires. They arrived today and couldn't wait to get them on. It looks so bad ass! I'm like a teenager with this thing. My son and I went for a quick joy ride and it was awesome! Sent a picture of the truck with wheels and tires set up on it to my wife with the caption "well, it's no Corvette, but it is MY mid life crisis truck".
One of my friends asked if it was for my son.... I told him, "Hell No! This is daddy's Toy"
Gave me a good chuckle and made me feel good inside. Can't wait to take it camping.
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Hello everyone!
Wow, we are really on the right track! I'm so proud of our accomplishments and milestones.
Bumboid, take the rest you need and make a plan for the next time some old chaps want to hang out...maybe you could suggest a group bike ride....show em how it's done!
Final, I used to go off roading in the mountains when I lived in Colorado. I can still remember how it made me feel like a kid again, the feeling of freedom and yep...a little bad ass!
Hopeful, I need to follow in your footsteps with some evening exercise! I sit on the couch after a long day of work, but now I'm thinking a nice relaxing swim is in order!
Ben...I hope your still hanging around somewhere on SR. If so, don't be shy about checking in here, we stand beside you, no matter what is going on, and we're still saving a seat on the sober bus for you!
Hi Dee!!
Wow, we are really on the right track! I'm so proud of our accomplishments and milestones.
Bumboid, take the rest you need and make a plan for the next time some old chaps want to hang out...maybe you could suggest a group bike ride....show em how it's done!
Final, I used to go off roading in the mountains when I lived in Colorado. I can still remember how it made me feel like a kid again, the feeling of freedom and yep...a little bad ass!
Hopeful, I need to follow in your footsteps with some evening exercise! I sit on the couch after a long day of work, but now I'm thinking a nice relaxing swim is in order!
Ben...I hope your still hanging around somewhere on SR. If so, don't be shy about checking in here, we stand beside you, no matter what is going on, and we're still saving a seat on the sober bus for you!
Hi Dee!!
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Played golf yesterday with a couple buddies. They drank, I did not. I still enjoyed my day and we seem to be at a point where they have accepted that I no longer do.
Afterwards, we all got together with our families for an outdoor fire pit. My wife met up with her sister fir " lunch" (an order of mozzarella sticks and glasses of wine) then went to our niece's birthday. She was pretty drunk when she got home and continued to drink at the get together ( more wine). My sister in law is the one that becomes incoherent by 8 pm every night. We left at 10pm, and I'm up early to take advantage of another beautiful weekend day. I made it very clear to my wife that I will not interact with her when she is drunk but she was angry with me any way. I'm sure she won't remember this morning and doubt she will be out of bed before noon.
I don't miss it.
Afterwards, we all got together with our families for an outdoor fire pit. My wife met up with her sister fir " lunch" (an order of mozzarella sticks and glasses of wine) then went to our niece's birthday. She was pretty drunk when she got home and continued to drink at the get together ( more wine). My sister in law is the one that becomes incoherent by 8 pm every night. We left at 10pm, and I'm up early to take advantage of another beautiful weekend day. I made it very clear to my wife that I will not interact with her when she is drunk but she was angry with me any way. I'm sure she won't remember this morning and doubt she will be out of bed before noon.
I don't miss it.
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My new roomie is gone for a few days, it's nice to have a moment to reflect on how things are going. I must say, I believe made the right choice! She is interested in starting a workout plan with me and we are lucky to have a pool, gym, sauna and steam room right here where I live. There has been no discussion of drinking, nor have I seen her under the influence. If anything, she is a workaholic! Happy to have a quiet day of rest today, even more blessed to be so comfortable in my sober life!
Hugs to all
Hugs to all
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