Class of November 2018 Part 4
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Class of November 2018 Part 4
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Omg, yes to every song on that list, especially Paranoid Android. I would add A Wolf at the Door, I Will, Let Down, Jigsaw Falling into Place, No Surprises, and Karma Police. Their music sends me to my happy place.
I haven’t seen them live. I’m jealous. If I could see them live, I would totally have to be sober; I would want to remember it!
^^^^ Copied and pasted it from Part 3.
That's an awesome list of songs. "A Wolf At The Door" is a great song!
The Tourist, Pyramid Song, Climbing Up the Walls, Lucky... too many great songs to mention.
I haven’t seen them live. I’m jealous. If I could see them live, I would totally have to be sober; I would want to remember it!
^^^^ Copied and pasted it from Part 3.
That's an awesome list of songs. "A Wolf At The Door" is a great song!
The Tourist, Pyramid Song, Climbing Up the Walls, Lucky... too many great songs to mention.
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Morning everyone 
Wow- a new thread - I always think a new thread shows how we are progressing
Kaily - how is your pup this morning?
Bonnie -I would also struggle in such close proximity to wine. My husband drinks beer but it doesn't bother me as not my doc. If he drank wine I would really find it difficult. I would also find eating out regularly a struggle too. Is there any way you can speak with him and he compromise in any way?
TJ-sorry to hear you drank again but great to see you still here. Can you tweak your plan in any way?
I've got a day off work today which I love when I've been away for a few days. I've stayed with family and as much as I love them I find it very intense .I'm a creature of habit and very insular and love being alone. Being around people drains me physically and mentally and I need to regroup afterwards. I slept so well last night which was a bonus and helps immensely.
I'm going to eat healthily this week-yes it's nearly Christmas but its a week away. I am sure the eating poorly has contributed to cravings and general feelings of instability. So today it's exercise and eating well.
Have a good day everyone.
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Wow- a new thread - I always think a new thread shows how we are progressing
Kaily - how is your pup this morning?
Bonnie -I would also struggle in such close proximity to wine. My husband drinks beer but it doesn't bother me as not my doc. If he drank wine I would really find it difficult. I would also find eating out regularly a struggle too. Is there any way you can speak with him and he compromise in any way?
TJ-sorry to hear you drank again but great to see you still here. Can you tweak your plan in any way?
I've got a day off work today which I love when I've been away for a few days. I've stayed with family and as much as I love them I find it very intense .I'm a creature of habit and very insular and love being alone. Being around people drains me physically and mentally and I need to regroup afterwards. I slept so well last night which was a bonus and helps immensely.
I'm going to eat healthily this week-yes it's nearly Christmas but its a week away. I am sure the eating poorly has contributed to cravings and general feelings of instability. So today it's exercise and eating well.
Have a good day everyone.
RAL
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Good Morning. I hope everyone is having a good day.
As for being in relationships with people who drink - my husband also drinks a lot. And, since everything seemed to be my drink of choice, as long as he's drinking (and he ALWAYS will be), it will be a former drink of mine: A good beer in the afternoon, vodka tonic (or 2 or 3 or 4...) for after work, good wine with a nice dinner, Baileys for an after dinner drink...a few shots with friends...you name it - very little that I wouldn't drink...
It's hard. Especially when his mood changes - he becomes irrational and frustrated with the kids and they don't get it. I feel awful that they are growing up like this...but, I can change me and I am (again...).
Happy Monday!
As for being in relationships with people who drink - my husband also drinks a lot. And, since everything seemed to be my drink of choice, as long as he's drinking (and he ALWAYS will be), it will be a former drink of mine: A good beer in the afternoon, vodka tonic (or 2 or 3 or 4...) for after work, good wine with a nice dinner, Baileys for an after dinner drink...a few shots with friends...you name it - very little that I wouldn't drink...
It's hard. Especially when his mood changes - he becomes irrational and frustrated with the kids and they don't get it. I feel awful that they are growing up like this...but, I can change me and I am (again...).
Happy Monday!
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Day 8. Went to physical therapy this morning, and the therapist, I’ll just call him Torquemada, prescribed some exercises and stretches that should help. It might be a while before my back is all fixed, but it’s a start.
My daughter is safely back home, which is a relief, but it also means I have to resume meltdown alert. I get overwhelmed just thinking about the next year, two years, ten years with her, and it’s so depressing that it overshadows everything. I don’t blame her for being bipolar, and I know it must be worse for her, so I’m not some evil hag who can’t stand her own kid. Her illness makes her hard to live with though, and I hope it gets better for her sake and everyone else’s.
I appreciate the input from everyone regarding drinking spouses. This used to be a bigger problem for me when I tried to quit before, but I’m handling it better now. I can’t control other people and all that. Some days I handle things better than others, that’s all.
I get what you’re saying about restaurants, Kaily. A middle ground would be nice. For me, restaurants are very tied to drinking, so it presents a challenge when we go so often. I guess it’s good that I’m getting in lots of practice, I suppose. Also, the other night the waitress remembered my drink order: unsweet iced tea, no lemon. So now I’m Tea Lady instead of Champagne Lady which is a nice feeling.
TJ — I’m now officially including listening to Radiohead as part of my sobriety plan. I relate the song “Just” to my drinking, even though it’s not about that. It’s my “snap out of it” song.
Kaily — glad your dog seems better today. She’s lucky to have you.
Breakfree, I hope you’re doing well.
Have a great day everyone!
My daughter is safely back home, which is a relief, but it also means I have to resume meltdown alert. I get overwhelmed just thinking about the next year, two years, ten years with her, and it’s so depressing that it overshadows everything. I don’t blame her for being bipolar, and I know it must be worse for her, so I’m not some evil hag who can’t stand her own kid. Her illness makes her hard to live with though, and I hope it gets better for her sake and everyone else’s.
I appreciate the input from everyone regarding drinking spouses. This used to be a bigger problem for me when I tried to quit before, but I’m handling it better now. I can’t control other people and all that. Some days I handle things better than others, that’s all.
I get what you’re saying about restaurants, Kaily. A middle ground would be nice. For me, restaurants are very tied to drinking, so it presents a challenge when we go so often. I guess it’s good that I’m getting in lots of practice, I suppose. Also, the other night the waitress remembered my drink order: unsweet iced tea, no lemon. So now I’m Tea Lady instead of Champagne Lady which is a nice feeling.
TJ — I’m now officially including listening to Radiohead as part of my sobriety plan. I relate the song “Just” to my drinking, even though it’s not about that. It’s my “snap out of it” song.
Kaily — glad your dog seems better today. She’s lucky to have you.
Breakfree, I hope you’re doing well.
Have a great day everyone!
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Really thinking about having a drink. I shouldn’t be struggling this much, this must get boring for y’all. I just want to switch off my stupid brain. I don’t know, I might have a glass of wine, just being honest.
sigh. I’ll have a Diet Coke first. And maybe something to eat. Maybe I can change my mind.
sigh. I’ll have a Diet Coke first. And maybe something to eat. Maybe I can change my mind.
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Have that coke. Eat clean your teeth take a bath go for a walk. Please don't drink. You won't regret not drinking games in the morning . At 3 am when you wake swearing with a dry mouth headache feeling rough and not being able to sleep you'll regret it 😢
you can do this .
you can do this .
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RAL, I’m so stupid! I just poured a big glass of wine and took two sips. Then my daughter came out of her room, so I hid the glass because I’ve decided that I don’t want her to see me drinking anymore. So we chatted for half an hour and I started feeling like an idiot, like what the hell is wrong with me. I have all these reasons to not drink, and I just say eff it for what?
So I poured the rest out.
I guess this puts me at day 0. Just for two stupid sips.
(I’m on my phone and don’t have the usual emojis, but this is where I’d put the one with the dude hitting his head on the wall.)
Dammit, dammit, dammit!
Edit: okay, I’m a bit mad at myself, but live and learn. I’m glad I stopped when I did, at least I won’t be waking up miserable.
So I poured the rest out.
I guess this puts me at day 0. Just for two stupid sips.
(I’m on my phone and don’t have the usual emojis, but this is where I’d put the one with the dude hitting his head on the wall.)
Dammit, dammit, dammit!
Edit: okay, I’m a bit mad at myself, but live and learn. I’m glad I stopped when I did, at least I won’t be waking up miserable.
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Bonniefloyd - I am glad you poured out the rest of the wine. I know you can do this!
I am on day 59 and this is really getting easier. I tell myself drinking will make a good day bad and a bad day worse. I have no excuse to drink.
I am on day 59 and this is really getting easier. I tell myself drinking will make a good day bad and a bad day worse. I have no excuse to drink.
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Originally Posted by ReadyAtLast 
TJ-sorry to hear you drank again but great to see you still here. Can you tweak your plan in any way?
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