A Different Path Part 13
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A Different Path Part 13
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https://www.soberrecovery.com/forums...t-12-a-21.html (A Different Path Part 12)
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https://www.soberrecovery.com/forums...t-12-a-21.html (A Different Path Part 12)
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Drama Queen you say? Are you watching me.... 
I have NO clue what is up with me today....where is that moon....where is Ann....she will know....sigh....I need an excuse....fast....
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I have NO clue what is up with me today....where is that moon....where is Ann....she will know....sigh....I need an excuse....fast....
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Darling Kathy. Glad your meds were able to take the edge off the breakthrough pain. I do remember the nurses saying this to us when my Stepmother had pancreatic cancer, there is no need to settle for pain at all.
You wrote this in the last thread;
It coocurred to me today (sorry, CW--I had to leave you a concrete example) that I might be hurting other dear friends of mine, who have more tender hearts. I fear perhaps I am trampling their feelings by being so bustling about things like, "Yep--Metastasis to the Brain!"
I see no need for any sorry Kathy love. To be honest, you could say to me, "CW, you are an annoying pain in the butt!!!"...and I would say, "Yep, Kathy, I think you nailed it"....I cannot remember one time ever thinking you were harsh or mean - to anyone here. Ever.
Even the way you administer 'tough love' sometimes is still with grace and care. A lot of times, I've said nothing on posts over the years, and waited for your mindful wisdom to be posted. I also love that you can throw a bit of a hissy fit, but it's cute. The way you apologise for it is cute, but totally unnecessary. xx
I can relate to your stories about the nebuliser. My daughter had fearsome asthma as a young child....just your description of it, reminded me of how the fears floated away when she went on that machine. It had magical powers to calm me down also.
You wrote this in the last thread;
It coocurred to me today (sorry, CW--I had to leave you a concrete example) that I might be hurting other dear friends of mine, who have more tender hearts. I fear perhaps I am trampling their feelings by being so bustling about things like, "Yep--Metastasis to the Brain!"
I see no need for any sorry Kathy love. To be honest, you could say to me, "CW, you are an annoying pain in the butt!!!"...and I would say, "Yep, Kathy, I think you nailed it"....I cannot remember one time ever thinking you were harsh or mean - to anyone here. Ever.
Even the way you administer 'tough love' sometimes is still with grace and care. A lot of times, I've said nothing on posts over the years, and waited for your mindful wisdom to be posted. I also love that you can throw a bit of a hissy fit, but it's cute. The way you apologise for it is cute, but totally unnecessary. xx
I can relate to your stories about the nebuliser. My daughter had fearsome asthma as a young child....just your description of it, reminded me of how the fears floated away when she went on that machine. It had magical powers to calm me down also.
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Thank you for the new thread Dee.
Kathy I've never known you to ever hurt anyone's feelings or be insensitive. In fact I find you to be quite the opposite.
This thread is a testament to all the people you have touched and who love you. I think that really speaks for itself.
I am watching real life murder shows on ID. Why before bed I dont know!
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Kathy I've never known you to ever hurt anyone's feelings or be insensitive. In fact I find you to be quite the opposite.
This thread is a testament to all the people you have touched and who love you. I think that really speaks for itself.
I am watching real life murder shows on ID. Why before bed I dont know!
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I'm so honored, Kathy, that you asked me to write an epitaph. It feels too soon to write about you in past tense, but I am willing... And about hurting tender hearts - it seems your acceptance of reality strengthens us all, especially the tenderhearted. Perhaps something along those lines would be a fitting epitaph. 
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Kathy, my dear, you have never offended me! What CW and others have said goes for me, too. It is reassuring to hear how hospice stays on top of your symptoms. Many of us have some fear of the unknown. I can accept that my life has a limited run left but my fears are more about physical suffering. It’s a comfort to know that the knowledge to manage this has progressed so far. I so much appreciate this fellowship with you and the ability to share in this part of your life. You are totally awesome! 
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Kathy, I have always found your words to be considered and kind. I cannot recall a single offensive word that has been uttered by you.
I think that it was Suze who posted a tulip earlier.
Her is a tulip for each of the kindnesses you have shown here on SR.
I think that it was Suze who posted a tulip earlier.
Her is a tulip for each of the kindnesses you have shown here on SR.
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if and when telling tough truth in a bustling way tramples on feelings....i don’t see how telling it any other way is “better”, Kathy.
i don’t know about you; for me, there are only a couple of ways i can tell big truths that i know will be tough to hear.
the way of ripping a bandage off in one fell swoop vs slowly, gingerly, minutely inching...the rip overall is much less painful.
I am sorry to hear of your pain and increasing physical symptoms.
sending wishes for a peaceful night.
i don’t know about you; for me, there are only a couple of ways i can tell big truths that i know will be tough to hear.
the way of ripping a bandage off in one fell swoop vs slowly, gingerly, minutely inching...the rip overall is much less painful.
I am sorry to hear of your pain and increasing physical symptoms.
sending wishes for a peaceful night.
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Kathy, praying you’re not in any pain or discomfort and the meds are doing their job.
You’re a tower of strength, you know. We’re here supporting you but also, in truth, you’re supporting us,every day, on this new path with its own manifestations.
Thank you Kathy for everything you’re giving us and I hope and pray you’re feeling all the love and happiness bestowed on you.
Love you Kathy, sleep well.
You’re a tower of strength, you know. We’re here supporting you but also, in truth, you’re supporting us,every day, on this new path with its own manifestations.
Thank you Kathy for everything you’re giving us and I hope and pray you’re feeling all the love and happiness bestowed on you.
Love you Kathy, sleep well.
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