24 Hour Recovery Connections Part 402
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A tune thought some of you might like 
- https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VCIzxcDm0os
- https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VCIzxcDm0os 
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The above love for Suze doesn't at all mean I don't feel the pain emanating from your post Nick. I'm sorry you are in the pit my friend and I really hope you can find the strength within to grab your recovery back with both arms. Guilt and remorse suck us dry. Take care 
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Okay there's a thing. A not so great thing. A not-the-end-of-the-world thing but a thing nonetheless.
I just knew the panic attacks hadn't just appeared out of nowhere. Dammit I just knew.
Turns out my not-so-sensible 16 year old daughter had a dabble with the evil weed after the end of her exams at a party. Had a massive panic attack immediately and now it has set her off having them.
Soooooooooooooooo………..what now? Rightly or wrongly I was oddly relieved. At least there is something to explain how it began.
BUT
Cannabis?
My baby?
What the hell?
We are where we are that is all I really have to say. I didn't scold her but made it super clear that under NOcircumstances does she touch drugs ever again. She is allergic to the effects (so I told her) and it would be utterly reckless to dabble again.
I am keeping this between the 2 of us (and you guys lol) and continuing to support her on her journey to manage the resulting anxiety and panic.
Truth?
I am really pi$$ed off that she let me worry without confessing sooner. I have been in a world of pain and she knew it. There. I have confessed.
I am focussing on the fact that (eventually) she did end up telling me and that this has frightened her in to making better decisions.
I think I handled it well. Okay I have no idea if I handled it well but the fact is that if I come down on her too hard she won't tell me things so for better or worse my decision is to accept that she dabbled ("everyone does it mum") and it didn't go well.
So we keep carrying on and trying to make the next right decisions for ourselves and our children. Sheesh adulting sucks sometimes!
24 please!!!!!!!
I just knew the panic attacks hadn't just appeared out of nowhere. Dammit I just knew.
Turns out my not-so-sensible 16 year old daughter had a dabble with the evil weed after the end of her exams at a party. Had a massive panic attack immediately and now it has set her off having them.
Soooooooooooooooo………..what now? Rightly or wrongly I was oddly relieved. At least there is something to explain how it began.
BUT
Cannabis?
My baby?
What the hell?
We are where we are that is all I really have to say. I didn't scold her but made it super clear that under NOcircumstances does she touch drugs ever again. She is allergic to the effects (so I told her) and it would be utterly reckless to dabble again.
I am keeping this between the 2 of us (and you guys lol) and continuing to support her on her journey to manage the resulting anxiety and panic.
Truth?
I am really pi$$ed off that she let me worry without confessing sooner. I have been in a world of pain and she knew it. There. I have confessed.
I am focussing on the fact that (eventually) she did end up telling me and that this has frightened her in to making better decisions.
I think I handled it well. Okay I have no idea if I handled it well but the fact is that if I come down on her too hard she won't tell me things so for better or worse my decision is to accept that she dabbled ("everyone does it mum") and it didn't go well.
So we keep carrying on and trying to make the next right decisions for ourselves and our children. Sheesh adulting sucks sometimes!
24 please!!!!!!!
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Originally Posted by joandmelandhan 
Okay there's a thing. A not so great thing. A not-the-end-of-the-world thing but a thing nonetheless.
I just knew the panic attacks hadn't just appeared out of nowhere. Dammit I just knew.
Turns out my not-so-sensible 16 year old daughter had a dabble with the evil weed after the end of her exams at a party. Had a massive panic attack immediately and now it has set her off having them.
Soooooooooooooooo………..what now? Rightly or wrongly I was oddly relieved. At least there is something to explain how it began.
BUT
Cannabis?
My baby?
What the hell?
We are where we are that is all I really have to say. I didn't scold her but made it super clear that under NOcircumstances does she touch drugs ever again. She is allergic to the effects (so I told her) and it would be utterly reckless to dabble again.
I am keeping this between the 2 of us (and you guys lol) and continuing to support her on her journey to manage the resulting anxiety and panic.
Truth?
I am really pi$$ed off that she let me worry without confessing sooner. I have been in a world of pain and she knew it. There. I have confessed.
I am focussing on the fact that (eventually) she did end up telling me and that this has frightened her in to making better decisions.
I think I handled it well. Okay I have no idea if I handled it well but the fact is that if I come down on her too hard she won't tell me things so for better or worse my decision is to accept that she dabbled ("everyone does it mum") and it didn't go well.
So we keep carrying on and trying to make the next right decisions for ourselves and our children. Sheesh adulting sucks sometimes!
24 please!!!!!!!i
I just knew the panic attacks hadn't just appeared out of nowhere. Dammit I just knew.
Turns out my not-so-sensible 16 year old daughter had a dabble with the evil weed after the end of her exams at a party. Had a massive panic attack immediately and now it has set her off having them.
Soooooooooooooooo………..what now? Rightly or wrongly I was oddly relieved. At least there is something to explain how it began.
BUT
Cannabis?
My baby?
What the hell?
We are where we are that is all I really have to say. I didn't scold her but made it super clear that under NOcircumstances does she touch drugs ever again. She is allergic to the effects (so I told her) and it would be utterly reckless to dabble again.
I am keeping this between the 2 of us (and you guys lol) and continuing to support her on her journey to manage the resulting anxiety and panic.
Truth?
I am really pi$$ed off that she let me worry without confessing sooner. I have been in a world of pain and she knew it. There. I have confessed.
I am focussing on the fact that (eventually) she did end up telling me and that this has frightened her in to making better decisions.
I think I handled it well. Okay I have no idea if I handled it well but the fact is that if I come down on her too hard she won't tell me things so for better or worse my decision is to accept that she dabbled ("everyone does it mum") and it didn't go well.
So we keep carrying on and trying to make the next right decisions for ourselves and our children. Sheesh adulting sucks sometimes!
24 please!!!!!!!i
proved quite a challenge for me.
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Ha soberista..... I feel you....but tattoos and young people so go together now....why? Art is the answer. Why I ask?
And have you seen the ad on TV with the older lady...so funny....
jojo honey.....you did this perfectly. Absolutely no point in being harsh and alienating her and quite frankly I am super-impressed that she told you at all. Your girl has guts and she knows she can trust her mum.....errrrmmmm.....that's brilliant mum'ing love.
And have you seen the ad on TV with the older lady...so funny....
jojo honey.....you did this perfectly. Absolutely no point in being harsh and alienating her and quite frankly I am super-impressed that she told you at all. Your girl has guts and she knows she can trust her mum.....errrrmmmm.....that's brilliant mum'ing love.
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Not in a good place myself but I am sending all the love I have to those of you who are struggling right now. Fridayis the perfect time to do a ritual, right before the eclipse to write down the direction you want and intend your life to go in. Time to release what is no longer serving you and move forward and into the light.
Love you all.
Love you all.
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Soberista, I'm 26 and also covered in ink, my parents are not thrilled and every time I visit them they pretend they're OK with how I look but I can see they're clearly not haha. 
Tattoo scene has changed so much in recent years tho... ah I could write and write about this.
Ohh I love the ad Suze! So funny!
(still thinking of you and sending you hugs and all my love ♥♥♥ )
Snufs is in for 24! I'm moving soon and I'm packing all my stuff just now... gosh I collected so much rubbish over the years... unbelievable. Uh huh... I keep finding empties hidden in stupid places, like inside empty shoe boxes, behind my desk, behind a printer... It's sad and awful. I hope my new flat will be 100% bottles free.
Tattoo scene has changed so much in recent years tho... ah I could write and write about this. Ohh I love the ad Suze! So funny!
(still thinking of you and sending you hugs and all my love ♥♥♥ )
Snufs is in for 24! I'm moving soon and I'm packing all my stuff just now... gosh I collected so much rubbish over the years... unbelievable. Uh huh... I keep finding empties hidden in stupid places, like inside empty shoe boxes, behind my desk, behind a printer... It's sad and awful. I hope my new flat will be 100% bottles free.
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