Class of July 2018 Part 2
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Join Date: Jul 2018
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Yes rusty, teejay and forme. It’s a cycle I’ve been through too. It is weird what the brain does. I’m at day 8 (I’m NOT counting days!!) and actually it’s not been too bad. I’ve had days off the booze to prepare physically in the run up to this. But I’m always scared as I’ve done this before and fecked it up.
I’m really trying not to think about it too much, just not drink today. I’ve taken on advice from old-stagers and am spending time each day on meditation and prayer...no idea what I’m doing but I do it anyway. I think it just gives me a bit of time each day to remember what I’m doing (or not doing) so I don’t get swept along. Also on gratitude which is helping me be less resentful/angry/moody
It’s always worth remembering what was going on before I gave up - drunk every day for about 15 years. Kids growing up in front of me and me barely noticing. Brothers getting married and me sleep walking through. I really can’t go back, it hurt too much. Stupid fecking substance
I’m really trying not to think about it too much, just not drink today. I’ve taken on advice from old-stagers and am spending time each day on meditation and prayer...no idea what I’m doing but I do it anyway. I think it just gives me a bit of time each day to remember what I’m doing (or not doing) so I don’t get swept along. Also on gratitude which is helping me be less resentful/angry/moody
It’s always worth remembering what was going on before I gave up - drunk every day for about 15 years. Kids growing up in front of me and me barely noticing. Brothers getting married and me sleep walking through. I really can’t go back, it hurt too much. Stupid fecking substance
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Join Date: Jun 2011
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I came to the conclusion that I have been hanging around the apartment too much lately. I started to feel anxious and my resolve weaken earlier today.
Thankfully, I got out tonight for a few hours and feel a lot better now. I need to participate in more activities outside of the house. (I'm racking my brain trying to come up with new ideas. Exercising more regularly and vigorously is definitely on that list.)
Thankfully, I got out tonight for a few hours and feel a lot better now. I need to participate in more activities outside of the house. (I'm racking my brain trying to come up with new ideas. Exercising more regularly and vigorously is definitely on that list.)
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Originally Posted by ForMe247 
Happy to report I’m going to bed with a clear sober head again. First time in a week, when I fell off the wagon. Happy to be back on track again! 
Welcome back!!
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Hey guys. Day 24 here. Just wanted to share something with the class that happened to me today. Have been a drinker for most of 40 years. I was diagnosed with heart disease 23 years ago. Stopped for a few years at that point before starting again. When you're drinking, that stuff doesn't matter. Anyway, 6 months ago, I had a heart check that was quite dismal and didn't really show much hope for making it much longer. In 2018, I stopped drinking except for a couple of bad decisions from that voice in my head. Went to the cardiologist today and my heart has made a dramatic recovery and the dr was talking about me growing to be an old man. This is a direct result of not drinking! I'm 58 and now excited about upcoming retirement. Just wanted to share
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Originally Posted by bobdrop
Hey guys. Day 24 here. Just wanted to share something with the class that happened to me today. Have been a drinker for most of 40 years. I was diagnosed with heart disease 23 years ago. Stopped for a few years at that point before starting again. When you're drinking, that stuff doesn't matter. Anyway, 6 months ago, I had a heart check that was quite dismal and didn't really show much hope for making it much longer. In 2018, I stopped drinking except for a couple of bad decisions from that voice in my head. Went to the cardiologist today and my heart has made a dramatic recovery and the dr was talking about me growing to be an old man. This is a direct result of not drinking! I'm 58 and now excited about upcoming retirement. Just wanted to share
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Originally Posted by rustygolf
The last three weeks have been hard at times, but it feels like I've somehow created a calm spot in the storm by surrendering to just being sober.
We will get there.....
xx
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Good morning everyone.
How's everyone doing today ?
Bobdrop - that's great news, brilliant.
ForMe247 - waking up in the morning without a drink is an amazing feeling.
Hey TeeJay - Glad you got out last night - evenings at home are my worse time - definitely witching hour for me.....I'm doing the same, trying to do more in the evenings.
Hey Leo21
Congrats on Day 8
Ben123 - totally agree with what you're saying "trying not to think about it too much", it's overwhelming ….. one day at a time.
Have a great sober day everyone. I have to work this morning (lucky I work from home) then hoping to get out this afternoon with the kids.
Starting to panic abit about the weekend - this will be the 1st one sober for a long time. Friday night = lots of red wine …..
How's everyone doing today ?
Bobdrop - that's great news, brilliant.
ForMe247 - waking up in the morning without a drink is an amazing feeling.
Hey TeeJay - Glad you got out last night - evenings at home are my worse time - definitely witching hour for me.....I'm doing the same, trying to do more in the evenings.
Hey Leo21
Congrats on Day 8 Ben123 - totally agree with what you're saying "trying not to think about it too much", it's overwhelming ….. one day at a time.
Have a great sober day everyone. I have to work this morning (lucky I work from home) then hoping to get out this afternoon with the kids.
Starting to panic abit about the weekend - this will be the 1st one sober for a long time. Friday night = lots of red wine …..
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Yo Shenzy
Thursday today, don’t think about Friday! 24 hours sober today will be the only thing you can do to prepare for Friday!!!!
(I like sport and there is a phrase in some events like the Marathon, in the early stages - ‘You cannot win it at his stage but you can sure as hell lose it’. It means to win you have to be patient, but if you do something daft like go too fast or get left behind you can lose the race early on.
That’s like my sobriety. I can’t become a settled sober veteran today, as much as I’d love that. But I could feck it all up royally if not careful.
Sober today and then post on here Friday and be glad you don’t need that guilt Saturday 👍👍👍👍👍👍
Thursday today, don’t think about Friday! 24 hours sober today will be the only thing you can do to prepare for Friday!!!!
(I like sport and there is a phrase in some events like the Marathon, in the early stages - ‘You cannot win it at his stage but you can sure as hell lose it’. It means to win you have to be patient, but if you do something daft like go too fast or get left behind you can lose the race early on.
That’s like my sobriety. I can’t become a settled sober veteran today, as much as I’d love that. But I could feck it all up royally if not careful.
Sober today and then post on here Friday and be glad you don’t need that guilt Saturday 👍👍👍👍👍👍
Originally Posted by ShenzyT
Good morning everyone.
How's everyone doing today ?
Bobdrop - that's great news, brilliant.
ForMe247 - waking up in the morning without a drink is an amazing feeling.
Hey TeeJay - Glad you got out last night - evenings at home are my worse time - definitely witching hour for me.....I'm doing the same, trying to do more in the evenings.
Hey Leo21 Congrats on Day 8
Ben123 - totally agree with what you're saying "trying not to think about it too much", it's overwhelming ….. one day at a time.
Have a great sober day everyone. I have to work this morning (lucky I work from home) then hoping to get out this afternoon with the kids.
Starting to panic abit about the weekend - this will be the 1st one sober for a long time. Friday night = lots of red wine …..
How's everyone doing today ?
Bobdrop - that's great news, brilliant.
ForMe247 - waking up in the morning without a drink is an amazing feeling.
Hey TeeJay - Glad you got out last night - evenings at home are my worse time - definitely witching hour for me.....I'm doing the same, trying to do more in the evenings.
Hey Leo21
Congrats on Day 8 Ben123 - totally agree with what you're saying "trying not to think about it too much", it's overwhelming ….. one day at a time.
Have a great sober day everyone. I have to work this morning (lucky I work from home) then hoping to get out this afternoon with the kids.
Starting to panic abit about the weekend - this will be the 1st one sober for a long time. Friday night = lots of red wine …..
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Join Date: Jul 2018
Location: California
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Originally Posted by TeeJayVerm
I came to the conclusion that I have been hanging around the apartment too much lately. I started to feel anxious and my resolve weaken earlier today.
Thankfully, I got out tonight for a few hours and feel a lot better now. I need to participate in more activities outside of the house. (I'm racking my brain trying to come up with new ideas. Exercising more regularly and vigorously is definitely on that list.)
Thankfully, I got out tonight for a few hours and feel a lot better now. I need to participate in more activities outside of the house. (I'm racking my brain trying to come up with new ideas. Exercising more regularly and vigorously is definitely on that list.)
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Originally Posted by TeeJayVerm
Please come back here tomorrow and tell us how you felt when you woke up in the morning. I love those reminders of how much better it feels waking up in the morning during sobriety. Perhaps you can bottle up that feeling here and refer back to it when the AV starts talking to you.
Welcome back!!
Welcome back!!
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Awesome medical news, Bob!
I'm on three weeks today. I've been keeping myself busy and filling the time. Worked out money night, played golf tuesday night, worked out last night, and today I'm working from home with my kids. I really haven't had a chance to let the AV get a word in except for after golf when a folks were having cocktails after the round. I had a couple tacos and an Arnold Palmer and excused myself early. There was a moment there where I thought it looked really tasty, but I let it pass and was happy to be home.
Keep it up folks.
I'm on three weeks today. I've been keeping myself busy and filling the time. Worked out money night, played golf tuesday night, worked out last night, and today I'm working from home with my kids. I really haven't had a chance to let the AV get a word in except for after golf when a folks were having cocktails after the round. I had a couple tacos and an Arnold Palmer and excused myself early. There was a moment there where I thought it looked really tasty, but I let it pass and was happy to be home.
Keep it up folks.
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Join Date: Jul 2018
Location: California
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Originally Posted by rustygolf
Awesome medical news, Bob!
I'm on three weeks today. I've been keeping myself busy and filling the time. Worked out money night, played golf tuesday night, worked out last night, and today I'm working from home with my kids. I really haven't had a chance to let the AV get a word in except for after golf when a folks were having cocktails after the round. I had a couple tacos and an Arnold Palmer and excused myself early. There was a moment there where I thought it looked really tasty, but I let it pass and was happy to be home.
Keep it up folks.
I'm on three weeks today. I've been keeping myself busy and filling the time. Worked out money night, played golf tuesday night, worked out last night, and today I'm working from home with my kids. I really haven't had a chance to let the AV get a word in except for after golf when a folks were having cocktails after the round. I had a couple tacos and an Arnold Palmer and excused myself early. There was a moment there where I thought it looked really tasty, but I let it pass and was happy to be home.
Keep it up folks.
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Join Date: Jun 2011
Posts: 543
ForMe247, I thought a lot about how to socialize and not drink.
Primarily, I have been avoiding the "Happy Hour/Night Out" type events (which centers around drinking) but still can manage through things like sporting events, concerts, and meals where drinking is an ancillary activity. That seems to be working well so far... people usually don't ask or even notice that I am not drinking.
As far as being at home is concerned, I just keep the place free from alcohol and, as long as I don't make a stop to a liquor or grocery store to buy anything alcoholic, I am safe once I get home. A key is to keep my mind occupied... get up and take a walk, do breathing exercises, etc. if I start feeling anxious. (Anxiety has always seem to be a predecessor to AV or me.)
Day 19. Time for me to jump on the Weekender Thread since I have no plans yet this weekend and won't see the family. Still racking my brain.
Primarily, I have been avoiding the "Happy Hour/Night Out" type events (which centers around drinking) but still can manage through things like sporting events, concerts, and meals where drinking is an ancillary activity. That seems to be working well so far... people usually don't ask or even notice that I am not drinking.
As far as being at home is concerned, I just keep the place free from alcohol and, as long as I don't make a stop to a liquor or grocery store to buy anything alcoholic, I am safe once I get home. A key is to keep my mind occupied... get up and take a walk, do breathing exercises, etc. if I start feeling anxious. (Anxiety has always seem to be a predecessor to AV or me.)
Day 19. Time for me to jump on the Weekender Thread since I have no plans yet this weekend and won't see the family. Still racking my brain.
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Join Date: Jul 2018
Location: California
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Originally Posted by TeeJayVerm
ForMe247, I thought a lot about how to socialize and not drink.
Primarily, I have been avoiding the "Happy Hour/Night Out" type events (which centers around drinking) but still can manage through things like sporting events, concerts, and meals where drinking is an ancillary activity. That seems to be working well so far... people usually don't ask or even notice that I am not drinking.
As far as being at home is concerned, I just keep the place free from alcohol and, as long as I don't make a stop to a liquor or grocery store to buy anything alcoholic, I am safe once I get home. A key is to keep my mind occupied... get up and take a walk, do breathing exercises, etc. if I start feeling anxious. (Anxiety has always seem to be a predecessor to AV or me.)
Day 19. Time for me to jump on the Weekender Thread since I have no plans yet this weekend and won't see the family. Still racking my brain.
Primarily, I have been avoiding the "Happy Hour/Night Out" type events (which centers around drinking) but still can manage through things like sporting events, concerts, and meals where drinking is an ancillary activity. That seems to be working well so far... people usually don't ask or even notice that I am not drinking.
As far as being at home is concerned, I just keep the place free from alcohol and, as long as I don't make a stop to a liquor or grocery store to buy anything alcoholic, I am safe once I get home. A key is to keep my mind occupied... get up and take a walk, do breathing exercises, etc. if I start feeling anxious. (Anxiety has always seem to be a predecessor to AV or me.)
Day 19. Time for me to jump on the Weekender Thread since I have no plans yet this weekend and won't see the family. Still racking my brain.
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