24 Hour Recovery Connections Part 400
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Originally Posted by Sweetpeacan 
Many Thanks, Dee. Would like another 24 please & thanks.
Feeling rather shattered today. Had a terrible fight with the AV last night. But am rather proud that for the first time in a long time I did not cave and today I woke up to another sober day. That was after being at a meeting too. Grateful so very Grateful.
My thoughts & prayers to our 24'ers, there are lots of sad,tough times going on & no matter what you all keep trudging on, an example to me indeed.
Much Love, SP
Feeling rather shattered today. Had a terrible fight with the AV last night. But am rather proud that for the first time in a long time I did not cave and today I woke up to another sober day. That was after being at a meeting too. Grateful so very Grateful.
My thoughts & prayers to our 24'ers, there are lots of sad,tough times going on & no matter what you all keep trudging on, an example to me indeed.
Much Love, SP
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I want a muffin too!
Feeling much better today. Started browsing job postings for DJTM. I don't even know how to talk to him about the fact that his drunk boss is toxic and keeping him down and from growing in his life. He knows. But he's letting it go on. And drinking himself into numbness. But I'm here and I'm going to try to make some art today. Even just a small sketch. Gotta get those juices flowing. Anyway I found a job posting for a friend of mine, I think it would be perfect for her! Maybe it'll work out!
Feeling much better today. Started browsing job postings for DJTM. I don't even know how to talk to him about the fact that his drunk boss is toxic and keeping him down and from growing in his life. He knows. But he's letting it go on. And drinking himself into numbness. But I'm here and I'm going to try to make some art today. Even just a small sketch. Gotta get those juices flowing. Anyway I found a job posting for a friend of mine, I think it would be perfect for her! Maybe it'll work out!
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Congrats on 600 days quitter!! 
And to all the others reaching a milestone today!
And well done Sweetpeacan, I'm proud of you!
Good to hear you're feeling better dear Plenny Enjoy doing that sketch and share it here if you like, I'd love to see!
My snowy owl is looking at me very sternly, I think she wants me to hurry up with her feathers!
And to all the others reaching a milestone today! And well done Sweetpeacan, I'm proud of you!
Good to hear you're feeling better dear Plenny Enjoy doing that sketch and share it here if you like, I'd love to see!
My snowy owl is looking at me very sternly, I think she wants me to hurry up with her feathers!
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Thanks Kev, I can't wait to see what you've been working on too!
I just posted a huge long rant in Friends and Family of A's, to try to organize my thoughts on my SO. I might need to find an AlAnon meeting this week too.
Hope you're all having a wonderful day. I am going to try to keep my chin up
I just posted a huge long rant in Friends and Family of A's, to try to organize my thoughts on my SO. I might need to find an AlAnon meeting this week too.
Hope you're all having a wonderful day. I am going to try to keep my chin up
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Originally Posted by Plenny
Thanks Kev, I can't wait to see what you've been working on too!
I just posted a huge long rant in Friends and Family of A's, to try to organize my thoughts on my SO. I might need to find an AlAnon meeting this week too.
Hope you're all having a wonderful day. I am going to try to keep my chin up
I just posted a huge long rant in Friends and Family of A's, to try to organize my thoughts on my SO. I might need to find an AlAnon meeting this week too.
Hope you're all having a wonderful day. I am going to try to keep my chin up
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Originally Posted by Delilah1
It might be nice to get some food in the house though Kev, and it sounds like she will help you tidy up a little. Maybe you can let her l is you would love for her to stop by for a short time because you are still working on getting your energy back.
Originally Posted by Plenny
I am so glad that painting is helping. And, I do think it's important to set boundaries with people when you are feeling drained. Even if they just want to take care of you. Maybe even one more day to recharge before you see her will help.... and if you two generally get along, maybe after a few minutes you'll be glad you have her as a visitor. Then when she's finished helping you out you will have sweet solitude again.
She only stayed for about 2 hours which really was enough. She keeps treating me like a 10 year old (which is odd because when I was 10 she neglected me) and I told her off a few times. I think I was easily irritated but apologised to her, still making it clear why I was annoyed and that she has to accept that I am an adult, making my own decisions, not needing a supervisor. She actually admitted to being in the wrong, never having accepted the fact emotionally that I am grown up and that she is no longer responsible for me. She even admitted that it would really annoy her too if someone kept treating her like she can't take care of herself.
Unfortunately she also said she doesn't know how to change this...
Now I'll have the whole weekend to myself until my roomie comes back on tuesday
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Cos she's your mum Kev....and she loves you, and she will look after you even if it drives you crazy.....she will do anything for you.
I miss my mum so so so much. Sorry...Soberversary day for me and I ALWAYS get very emotional. ❤️
I miss my mum so so so much. Sorry...Soberversary day for me and I ALWAYS get very emotional. ❤️
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Aww Suze, have a hug 
I think it would be easier for me to deal with her behaviour, if she had been there for me when I actually needed her. But she didn't take that good care of me as a child and all of a sudden she feels responsible for me. I know she means well but it makes me angry. Plus she's constantly disrespecting any boundaries I try to establish. It's a difficult relationship I have with her.
In her memory she was always this super-mum and she keeps telling people that it was because of me that she didn't have a career and that it was of me that she couldn't go to work after my parents' divorce. But I was 10, going to school and she could've easily found work. Instead she chose to sleep all day, smoke and watch the telly, didn't make me lunch or dinner and send me to get the groceries. In hindsight I think she was very depressed during my late childhood and teenage years. But she rewrote that complete chapter of her life, telling everyone how she was so busy taking care of me. Which is so hurtful when I think about how it really was.
I have a hard time forgiving her. But I think it would break her too much to admit how things really were.
I think it would be easier for me to deal with her behaviour, if she had been there for me when I actually needed her. But she didn't take that good care of me as a child and all of a sudden she feels responsible for me. I know she means well but it makes me angry. Plus she's constantly disrespecting any boundaries I try to establish. It's a difficult relationship I have with her.
In her memory she was always this super-mum and she keeps telling people that it was because of me that she didn't have a career and that it was of me that she couldn't go to work after my parents' divorce. But I was 10, going to school and she could've easily found work. Instead she chose to sleep all day, smoke and watch the telly, didn't make me lunch or dinner and send me to get the groceries. In hindsight I think she was very depressed during my late childhood and teenage years. But she rewrote that complete chapter of her life, telling everyone how she was so busy taking care of me. Which is so hurtful when I think about how it really was.
I have a hard time forgiving her. But I think it would break her too much to admit how things really were.
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Originally Posted by Sweetpeacan
Many Thanks, Dee. Would like another 24 please & thanks.
Feeling rather shattered today. Had a terrible fight with the AV last night. But am rather proud that for the first time in a long time I did not cave and today I woke up to another sober day. That was after being at a meeting too. Grateful so very Grateful.
My thoughts & prayers to our 24'ers, there are lots of sad,tough times going on & no matter what you all keep trudging on, an example to me indeed.
Much Love, SP
Feeling rather shattered today. Had a terrible fight with the AV last night. But am rather proud that for the first time in a long time I did not cave and today I woke up to another sober day. That was after being at a meeting too. Grateful so very Grateful.
My thoughts & prayers to our 24'ers, there are lots of sad,tough times going on & no matter what you all keep trudging on, an example to me indeed.
Much Love, SP
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