Hevyn

PJ mentioned maturity. I want to be like Kathy when I grow up - I have so much to learn about living life with grace & acceptance.

Bim - Gorgeous song & so appropriate.

Kathy - Every day I'm grateful to come here & know you're not in pain & still making plans. It's been so generous of you to share this intimate story with us, and to give us a chance to share our feelings with you.

Gilmer

Thank you guys.

That’s really encouraging to hear, Leigh.

I am a little nervous about the end-time pain potentially being overwhelming; it’s good to know that hospice can handle it.

STDragon

My mom was always a very private person. She past away when there was no body in the room. We all agreed thats what she wanted and she waited for that moment.

hugs

Gilmer

I bet that’s the way I will go out too, Mark.

At least that’s how I imagine I’ll be most relaxed.

PhoenixJ

STILL LURKING

Support to you Gilly

Dee74

Can we call you Gilbert now?

D

Gilmer

People already think I’m a guy with the name Gilmer—why not go all the way and call me Gilbert?

courage2

Where did the username Gilmer come from, anyway?

Gilmer

It is the name of the character I played in Godspell in high school.

Saskia

Kathy!

Gilmer

Hi, Sass!

I usually think of you more as an early morning poster! It’s nice to see you!

fini

my mom's and dad's bodies simply refused food towards the end, and they had advanced directives. it was obvious they did not want anything, and everyone was respectful of that.

i have been wondering about the wanting-to-be-alone thing....so often, i have heard folks say things along the lines of "....and we made sure she was never alone; someone was always with him..." , as if this were always what people want or need.
i do not know.
you are so conscious of all these questions coming up, and i am so relieved for you that you can have open conversations with your husband and medical staff who will be aiding you along.

wishing you a peaceful night.

Saskia

Kathy, I was with my mom when she died. It was amazingly peaceful. She “became non-responsive” the evening before so I spent all day sitting with her and talking to her. Some of her friends stopped by and we tried to recite the 23rd psalm together. None of us could quite remember it all. After they left, I kept working at it and finally got it right. I have always felt that she held on until I got it right. I also told her that it was ok for her to let go when she wanted - that i would be fine. She finally completely relaxed and then she was gone. I am still so grateful that I was able to be with her that day. She seemed to relax.

Sweetpeacan

What an inspirational person you are Gilmer, facing up to your future in a very brave and coureagous manne, huge respect and my best wishes, SP x

Gilmer

Thank you, Sweetpeacan!

badgerden

Good morning mz Gilmer! Hope your day is blessed.

Badge

Gilmer

Thank you! I’m expecting a visit from a good friend today, so I’m psyched for that.

bandicoot2

Good morning Gilmer, thinking of you today.....
Hope you have a wonderful visit with your friend.

Gilmer

Thanks, Bandi!

SoberLeigh

Have a wonderful day with your good friend, Kathy,

Sending love.