Babs1234

sorry Mags-- I love animals and it makes me sad to hear. I have lost quite a few
dogs and loved them as if they were my own children.
Babs

Dee74

I'm sorry Mags

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Saskia

(((Mags))), so sorry about Merlin!

Mags1

Thanks Dragon, babs, Dee and Sassy. We do get close to our pets, they’re part of our family.

After the death of my brother Alfie, when I was nearly 10 and he was 12 , my mum, knowing we had been very close, got me a cat to care for. I think somewhere deep rooted, I transferred the love for my brother to my cats over the years, loving and caring for them as I did my brother. He was part mentally and physically disabled and was given as much love and help as we knew how. My dad said him and mum thought I was born to support Alfie. We were very close. He had a very short life and died of a brain tumour but was a very happy person.
After he died my mum chose religion to help her through and my dad chose booze, or that is how I perceived it.

Thanks for listening overs. It’s not a pity party, I was just speaking from my heart. Which often happens in the early hours.

Gilmer

I’m truly sorry about Merlin, Mags—but what a mercy that he died peacefully in his sleep.

Mags1

That’s Gilmer, i prayed that if he wasn’t getting better he would go in his sleep. So thankful.

HelenofTroy

My deepest sympathies Mags

tootsl1

Wrapping cyber arms around you Mags. I'm glad he went peacefully and that you did not have to make that difficult decision we all dread with aging pets.

What you say about your dad struck a chord, my firsts husbands father ran a haulage business, it did well and although working class, his family were one of the better off in their street and likely to move ever upwards. Then in a tragic accident, one of the drivers reversed and killed my husbands young brother. His father turned to drink because he could not cope with his grief. They lost the haulage business and struggled there on. I met his father late in life as a deep seated alcoholic. So sad that one single incident was enough to change so much.

Mags1

Thanks toots, yes death of a child can finish parents off, in a way nothing else can.

PhoenixJ

Mags- not a pity party. Compassionate observations about your bro and your loved pet. It does not sound so much of transference, but respect and love for your bro- shown with your pets. Also - what a functional way to grieve!

Saskia

Mags, you are awesome

Even though we gained an hour with the time change, I still find it hard on my system. Sassy kitty woke me up at the usual time wanting her breakfast.

Have a relaxing Sunday to all of you who can

Mags1

Thanks PJ and sassy

Our clocks went back last week I think it was and it takes a while to adjust though our pets just use their inner clock!

FBL

Mags, sorry for the loss of Merlin. Sounds like he had a full life.

Things have settled down a bit with Fran. Got to see her yesterday and she's in good spirits. It's a learning curve for all involved.

Have a Super Sunday, overs!

feeling-good

Sorry to read about Merlin, Mags.

Babs1234

hi guys ! I'm also getting use to the time change.
It will be ok---just takes a couple of days.
Babs

Mags1

Evening overs

Fbl, I’m pleased Fran is getting settled.

Thanks Fbl and FG for your kind words.

I’m in slight meltdown. I keep thinking we’ve buried Merlin and he’s not passed. I was up with him all night and he didn’t move a muscle or breathe. My mind is playing tricks on me. So I wrote a letter to Merlin, which I have done to all my pets, if I think about it. It has calmed me somewhat.

Please bear with me overs, there always seems to be something nowadays. Hubby went for his procedure yesterday had 4 biopsies and he’s got a CT Scan tomorrow night. They’re giving him thorough examinations and they say the results will be up to two weeks. I’m praying for good results,

I hope next week is a new page for all of us.

Gilmer

How maddening to have to wait that long for results!

Mags1

I agree Gilmer, It is, but I believe if they find something they ring you ASAP.

InParticular

(((Mags!))) I'm so sorry, what a hard time for you. You are holding up so well, and all meltdowns are completely granted. How sad to have to bury Merlin. But it was his time and he was so lucky to have gone peacefully and not suffering. Your prayers were heard.

(((Mags))) and also post here plenty while you wait on the results, we're all here for you. Be KIND TO YOURSELF.

Mags1

Morning overs

Inpar, thank you for your kind and encouraging words.:hug;

Have a great Monday.