Class of July 2013 Part 49
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Originally Posted by Mags1 
Gilmer, congratulations on 4 years! 
Leigh, I was eventually going to work earlier, but up very early.
Now I’m going to sleep soon . Goodnight Julyers. If it’s youre bedtime , sleep well, if not hi, and don’t fall asleep
Leigh, I was eventually going to work earlier, but up very early.
Now I’m going to sleep soon . Goodnight Julyers. If it’s youre bedtime , sleep well, if not hi, and don’t fall asleep
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Hi Friends,
Hope everyone is ok.
Do any of you dread the holidays? I am starting to, for sure.
When you can’t have all of your children visit or eat Thanksgiving dinner with you...it is very hard. It just brings back horrible memories of losing my oldest. Then you put the problems with DS3 in the mix, and frankly I’m overwhelmed with despair.
Not really sure why I am posting this. I guess it’s a safe place for me to vent. I hate to bring these thoughts up to my Dear Hubby, as he has so much on his plate, and he would feel sad and helpless.
Sorry for such a depressing post.
Congrats again Gilmer!
Much love to all of you.
Croutie
Hope everyone is ok.
Do any of you dread the holidays? I am starting to, for sure.
When you can’t have all of your children visit or eat Thanksgiving dinner with you...it is very hard. It just brings back horrible memories of losing my oldest. Then you put the problems with DS3 in the mix, and frankly I’m overwhelmed with despair.
Not really sure why I am posting this. I guess it’s a safe place for me to vent. I hate to bring these thoughts up to my Dear Hubby, as he has so much on his plate, and he would feel sad and helpless.
Sorry for such a depressing post.
Congrats again Gilmer!
Much love to all of you.
Croutie
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You know Croutie....I'm not 'supposed' to say this, but I kind of don't like Christmas. And I'm Jewish anyway, so I grew up not celebrating it....and then there is Chanukah, the Jewish festival of lights, and I kind of am not into that either....I tried.
I skip them both....and no one minds. No one at all....maybe you need a break this year love? Do you have to do a big TG dinner? It's a lot for you this year...
If the day is meaningful to you, perhaps do something different, something quiet and peaceful with your husband....a walk and a picnic perhaps.
And you never need to apologise for sharing your feelings here....
♥
I skip them both....and no one minds. No one at all....maybe you need a break this year love? Do you have to do a big TG dinner? It's a lot for you this year...
If the day is meaningful to you, perhaps do something different, something quiet and peaceful with your husband....a walk and a picnic perhaps.
And you never need to apologise for sharing your feelings here....
♥
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Originally Posted by Croutie
Hi Friends,
Hope everyone is ok.
Do any of you dread the holidays? I am starting to, for sure.
When you can’t have all of your children visit or eat Thanksgiving dinner with you...it is very hard. It just brings back horrible memories of losing my oldest. Then you put the problems with DS3 in the mix, and frankly I’m overwhelmed with despair.
Not really sure why I am posting this. I guess it’s a safe place for me to vent. I hate to bring these thoughts up to my Dear Hubby, as he has so much on his plate, and he would feel sad and helpless.
Sorry for such a depressing post.
Congrats again Gilmer!
Much love to all of you.
Croutie
Hope everyone is ok.
Do any of you dread the holidays? I am starting to, for sure.
When you can’t have all of your children visit or eat Thanksgiving dinner with you...it is very hard. It just brings back horrible memories of losing my oldest. Then you put the problems with DS3 in the mix, and frankly I’m overwhelmed with despair.
Not really sure why I am posting this. I guess it’s a safe place for me to vent. I hate to bring these thoughts up to my Dear Hubby, as he has so much on his plate, and he would feel sad and helpless.
Sorry for such a depressing post.
Congrats again Gilmer!
Much love to all of you.
Croutie
This is a safe place to vent, dear one.
We get it - like no others.
I remember when I wanted the whole world and all of its holidays and celebrations and frivolities to just go away. I hated that the world just kept spinning and spinning.
There was no joy in Mudville for a long, long time.
Do you think that a change in tradition might help? A short trip, a meal at a restaurant instead of at home, go to a movie.
A change in routine may make the void less obvious.
Love and hugs to you, dear one.
Magsie
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Location: UK
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Morning Julyers
Croutie, It can be so stressful the holidays. We feel we must keep up appearances but sometimes it’s good to step off and let the world carry on. I remember when I was divorced years ago and living on my own, I had so many invites and was so worried I would offend anyone I was given some advice, to take the day off. So I did. I stayed at home, alone, lol. Ate buffet foods and watched tv. It was very enjoyable. I agree with Suze, have a lovely day with DH. Xx
Hope it’s a good Friday for everyone.
Croutie
, It can be so stressful the holidays. We feel we must keep up appearances but sometimes it’s good to step off and let the world carry on. I remember when I was divorced years ago and living on my own, I had so many invites and was so worried I would offend anyone I was given some advice, to take the day off. So I did. I stayed at home, alone, lol. Ate buffet foods and watched tv. It was very enjoyable. I agree with Suze, have a lovely day with DH. XxHope it’s a good Friday for everyone.
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Croutie, darling Croutie. 
Christmas is just 1 day out of a whole year. Do not stress yourself for 6 whole weeks worrying about 1 day out of 365
Christmas causes so much grief for so many !
So let's fix that for you.
This Christmas, you have permission to just spend Christmas as you choose. At home with hubby watching Netflix or getting some take away so you don't have to cook a thing.
Over the past few years Mum and Dad have got older and we just go by whatever they want to do, this year ( I have 2 sisters and 5 brothers and they are all doing their own family thing but will ring Mum and Dad to wish them a merry Christmas.
Guess what ? Everyone of us is relieved lol .
I've put n to work as I love giving time to those patients who have no family.
After that I wil pop into Mum and Dads for a coffee with Shaun.
We will come home and do NOTHING . A totally stress free day.
It's only stressful if you make it that way. You only live once. Do what makes you happy, you will be surprised at how many people are relieved without all the Christmas bs.
Having said that. There are those who absolutely love and enjoy the lead up and the day and the traditions. And that's wonderful.
I'm like Suze , im happy to skip it xxxx
Christmas is just 1 day out of a whole year. Do not stress yourself for 6 whole weeks worrying about 1 day out of 365
Christmas causes so much grief for so many !
So let's fix that for you.
This Christmas, you have permission to just spend Christmas as you choose. At home with hubby watching Netflix or getting some take away so you don't have to cook a thing.
Over the past few years Mum and Dad have got older and we just go by whatever they want to do, this year ( I have 2 sisters and 5 brothers and they are all doing their own family thing but will ring Mum and Dad to wish them a merry Christmas.
Guess what ? Everyone of us is relieved lol .
I've put n to work as I love giving time to those patients who have no family.
After that I wil pop into Mum and Dads for a coffee with Shaun.
We will come home and do NOTHING . A totally stress free day.
It's only stressful if you make it that way. You only live once. Do what makes you happy, you will be surprised at how many people are relieved without all the Christmas bs.
Having said that. There are those who absolutely love and enjoy the lead up and the day and the traditions. And that's wonderful.
I'm like Suze , im happy to skip it xxxx
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Like Suze huh, what a surprise.....it's remarkable how alike we are darling Snooz in so many ways....Aquarians huh.
Love you so much dear Smoozums and I miss you and I need to organise a time to talk to you when we can. ♥
Love you so much dear Smoozums and I miss you and I need to organise a time to talk to you when we can.
♥
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Originally Posted by SnoozyQ
Croutie, darling Croutie.
Christmas is just 1 day out of a whole year. Do not stress yourself for 6 whole weeks worrying about 1 day out of 365
Christmas causes so much grief for so many !
So let's fix that for you.
This Christmas, you have permission to just spend Christmas as you choose. At home with hubby watching Netflix or getting some take away so you don't have to cook a thing.
Over the past few years Mum and Dad have got older and we just go by whatever they want to do, this year ( I have 2 sisters and 5 brothers and they are all doing their own family thing but will ring Mum and Dad to wish them a merry Christmas.
Guess what ? Everyone of us is relieved lol .
I've put n to work as I love giving time to those patients who have no family.
After that I wil pop into Mum and Dads for a coffee with Shaun.
We will come home and do NOTHING . A totally stress free day.
It's only stressful if you make it that way. You only live once. Do what makes you happy, you will be surprised at how many people are relieved without all the Christmas bs.
Having said that. There are those who absolutely love and enjoy the lead up and the day and the traditions. And that's wonderful.
I'm like Suze , im happy to skip it xxxx
Christmas is just 1 day out of a whole year. Do not stress yourself for 6 whole weeks worrying about 1 day out of 365
Christmas causes so much grief for so many !
So let's fix that for you.
This Christmas, you have permission to just spend Christmas as you choose. At home with hubby watching Netflix or getting some take away so you don't have to cook a thing.
Over the past few years Mum and Dad have got older and we just go by whatever they want to do, this year ( I have 2 sisters and 5 brothers and they are all doing their own family thing but will ring Mum and Dad to wish them a merry Christmas.
Guess what ? Everyone of us is relieved lol .
I've put n to work as I love giving time to those patients who have no family.
After that I wil pop into Mum and Dads for a coffee with Shaun.
We will come home and do NOTHING . A totally stress free day.
It's only stressful if you make it that way. You only live once. Do what makes you happy, you will be surprised at how many people are relieved without all the Christmas bs.
Having said that. There are those who absolutely love and enjoy the lead up and the day and the traditions. And that's wonderful.
I'm like Suze , im happy to skip it xxxx
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Originally Posted by Mags1
Morning Julyers
Croutie, It can be so stressful the holidays. We feel we must keep up appearances but sometimes it’s good to step off and let the world carry on. I remember when I was divorced years ago and living on my own, I had so many invites and was so worried I would offend anyone I was given some advice, to take the day off. So I did. I stayed at home, alone, lol. Ate buffet foods and watched tv. It was very enjoyable. I agree with Suze, have a lovely day with DH. Xx
Hope it’s a good Friday for everyone.
Croutie
, It can be so stressful the holidays. We feel we must keep up appearances but sometimes it’s good to step off and let the world carry on. I remember when I was divorced years ago and living on my own, I had so many invites and was so worried I would offend anyone I was given some advice, to take the day off. So I did. I stayed at home, alone, lol. Ate buffet foods and watched tv. It was very enjoyable. I agree with Suze, have a lovely day with DH. XxHope it’s a good Friday for everyone.
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